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user1472403155 · 2016-08-28T17:03:13+00:00

2 different studies, same results : [[http://time.com/3433014/men-women-dating-mid-20s/]] [[http://time.com/3302251/9-ugly-truths-big-data-ok-cupid-book/]] Doesn't make any sense, does it?

Shiningexample · 28/08/2016 23:44

I should qualify that, up to early 40's some men are still in shape and attractive, although many have long since developed the large bellied 'dadbod'

past 40 most men have hit the wall and look like a sack of shit as far as I can see

merville · 28/08/2016 23:44

.. and also because women were perhaps more dependant on men for resources than vice versa; and so there's that swap of resources for fertility, in a way (more likely to be happening from male to female than vv),

Shiningexample · 28/08/2016 23:48

their fertility ends earlier than mens'
true but the quality of mens sperm declines as they age and is also worse in men who havent taken care of themselves

if I was looking for a man to father a child I would prefer a young healthy man, probabaly under 30, not saying he'd be the best person to take on the role of a father but his sperm would be better quality and so the child would have better health, stronger immune system etc

this idea that women are useless past 25 but men can go on forever is bullshit

BoneyBackJefferson · 28/08/2016 23:52

so many people that believe what they read on the internet.

Why do men of all ages want women in their early-mid 20's....

HelenaDove · 28/08/2016 23:55

Shiningexample thats not very nice.

I like a man who looks a bit "lived in" A bit of dadbod or whatever its called wouldnt bother me at all.

merville · 28/08/2016 23:55

Shining Absolutely - and that gets my goat too.
The theory I was inarticulately testing out was that - given both genders when they are older have a better chance having healthy kids with someone younger, but that women's fertility ends in a more extreme/finite way than mens at around 50 on average ... is that why so many men continue to try for women decades younger (because they still have a chance of impregnating them right up to geriatric age and they're 'programmed' like that by good ol mother nature in case there's a save the species scenario)

Shiningexample · 28/08/2016 23:59

A bit of dadbod or whatever its called wouldnt bother me at all
maybe, but if you were 25 and hot/in shape you wouldnt look twice at mr dadbod would you?
infact you wouldnt even see him your brain would filter him out in favour of the hot young guys

what I'm getting at is the deluded old scrapper men who really believe they can pull hot young women

Holowiwi · 29/08/2016 00:01

It's just because mid 20s has the greatest proportion of attractive women. On average there would be more women in that age range who have fit bodies, good skin etc. It doesn't mean everyone above 30 is past it and it doesnt mean all 25 year olds are hot...they are not, just that if someone were to say what age do people look at their best you would probably say mid 20s.

Whilst men of all ages may like women in their 20s it doesn't mean they wouldn't like women around their own age.

HelenaDove · 29/08/2016 00:08

Shining i was never attracted to the "hot young guys" before my weight gain all those years ago (which ive now lost) They just leave me cold. Always did. Brad Pitt George Clooney Ive looked and tried to see what other women are seeing but i cant I just cant Im just not wired that way.

Intelligence and compassion in a man are what attract me. I had the most amazing sexual chemistry with a man who wouldnt have been considered good looking. It was amazing. In a "we have to have each other now" kind of way.

If you dont have chemistry you have nothing. I dont give a shit about washboard stomachs and big biceps. I never have and i never will.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 29/08/2016 00:12

It's quite disrespectful to men, this insistence that all men watch porn, ogle younger women and would cheat given half a chance. My DH does none of these things and at 51 he's running triathlons, not even a hint of a Dadbod.

Shiningexample · 29/08/2016 00:24

at 51 he's running triathlons, not even a hint of a Dadbod thats great, but besides the point, I'm sure you are well aware that he is not the average 51 year old, most* people have bodies which reflect the fact that they eat rubbish and dont exercise

*ie the average, the mean median and mode average these days is overfat and under exercised

TheHeartOfASaturdayNight · 29/08/2016 00:42

I'm with you on that, HelenaDove. I find classically 'good looking' men a bit dull to took at. I can't see the appeal. Much prefer kindness and intelligence.

Kiwiinkits · 29/08/2016 02:45

I am actively turned off by abs / muscles / tan type guys. I like bald, with glasses and kind eyes and intelligence. Always have, that's what gets me going.

QueenLizIII · 29/08/2016 02:51

Because they are pretty, have unwrinkled skin, no stretch marks and their boobs don't sag? Men are very visual.

Havent read the thread but this stood out to me.

So all women in their 20s are perfect, sylph like creatures?

I dont know about you, but I have seen plenty of obese women in their 20s. Maybe not wrinkles but they will certainly have stretch marks at that weight and sagging breasts again due to weight.

I am well into my 30s but I have better breasts and less stretch marks than an obese 20 something.

It is all relative. 20s doesnt automatically mean perfect. Far from it.

Beelzebop · 29/08/2016 02:54

Unfortunately it's Biology.

TheStoic · 29/08/2016 04:15

past 40 most men have hit the wall and look like a sack of shit as far as I can see

Harsh! I'm in my late 30s, and nobody my age or younger interests me as a partner in any way. That's been the case since I was a teenager. Now, give me a silver fox ANY day.

PushingThru · 29/08/2016 04:59

I'm a 37 year old lesbian & have always gone for women a decade older throughout my life! I can't see the appeal of 20 something women - insecure, chaotic, no money!

goddessoftheharvest · 29/08/2016 09:09

I'm in my mid 20s and I look a mess. My body is ruined and my fertility is fucked. I've always been told that women "come into their own" in their 30s, hope it's the case for me

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 29/08/2016 09:17

It will be the case for you, goddess. This is the tragedy of the whole thing. I look at photos of myself at 25 and my self at 35 and now myself in my early 40s. I was definitely more attractive at 35 and now at 40something, than I was at 25.

At 25 I just looked young. That is it. But for some men that is enough. They're not interested in having someone whose life goals or values they share. They're not interested in having the same political views or the same social attitude... They see 'young woman' and that is enough.

goddessoftheharvest · 29/08/2016 09:23

I bloody hope so, it would be a bit of a shame to think I'd peaked already, without actually having done so due to stretch marks and scars and being covered in playdo

Mind you my mum is 52 and she is stunning. She says she looked like Mungo Jerry in her 20s but has been improving since her 30s

I think I confuse people, I am young and I look young, but I'm also being followed around by a nine year old who is almost the same height as me

GloriaGaynor · 29/08/2016 09:27

The fertility argument applies to men as well.

If women were going to target the most fertile males they would go for men in the 20s to ensure sperm quality. And also because a younger man is likely to be stronger and fitter and be able to defend them and roam further to kill woolly mammoths for food.

Older men are more likely to have babies prone to birth defects, neurological disorders and mental illness. They have less energy etc.

A piece of research I've seen showed that make chimps target all females indiscriminately regardless of age.

TheStoic · 29/08/2016 09:33

If women were going to target the most fertile males they would go for men in the 20s to ensure sperm quality. And also because a younger man is likely to be stronger and fitter and be able to defend them and roam further to kill woolly mammoths for food.

But that's not generally what happens, is it. Women, biologically, seek men with resources. Men more likely to be able to support them. These men are likely to be older.

The reason older male/younger female is seen as far more socially acceptable than older female/younger male is because it makes biological sense.

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 29/08/2016 09:33

@ goddess

Gloria it's because the fertility argument is a red herring. It's social not biological conditioning.

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 29/08/2016 09:36

Women did seek men with resources, when women didn't have access to their own resources. But as many women are educated, work full time and are often the breadwinners, or at least equal earners, in the household, these reasons carry less weight.

TheStoic · 29/08/2016 09:40

Women did seek men with resources, when women didn't have access to their own resources. But as many women are educated, work full time and are often the breadwinners, or at least equal earners, in the household, these reasons carry less weight.

That is true.

If we could just sort out the impregnation thing easily and cost-effectively, we soon won't need men at all. Or at least, just keep them around for fun.