Why do men of all ages want women in their early-mid 20's....

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2 different studies, same results :

time.com/3433014/men-women-dating-mid-20s/

time.com/3302251/9-ugly-truths-big-data-ok-cupid-book/

Doesn't make any sense, does it?

Incidentally I think it's interesting that some wealthy, relatively powerful women are just as inclined to do the 20's thing ie Madonna, J Lo, Kylie. And it was possibly always the case, we just don't have many records of it. Makes you wonder what the case would've been if women had dominated society in the past rather than men.

Younger men often like older women to get "experience" but as soon as they reach a time when they might want a partner the older woman is dropped as they look for a 20 something.

Not necessarily.

Micheal Ball and Cathy McGowan.

Juliet Mills and Maxwell Caulfield.

And the parents of an ex colleugue of mine have a 16 year age difference (her being the older one) and have been married for 20 years.

I don't think in Madonna or J Lo's case, they give much of a fk, they just replace them with another one.

Obviously extremes like this are much more likely to happen with wealthy, high status people.

I'm sure most women feel the same, it's just we're too bothered about what society thinks of us to admit it. I'm in my 40's, I tend to find men of around 35 the sexiest.
I don't find men my age attractive at all, well, hardly ever.

I like older men, always have done even when I was a teen. I couldn't imagine ever fancying a younger man and, shoot me but, it doesn't seem natural for older woman/younger man although it seems perfectly natural the other way around - older man/younger woman.

The procreation aspect seems logical but most older men don't want to start a second (or third) family with the young women they are partnering up with.

Personally I think young women are more malleable and are not strong enough to dump the ones who turn out to be gits. This is why men go for younger women, imo.

Personally, as a man in his late thirties, I find women older than me highly attractive. I don't find women in their twenties anywhere near as attractive. Perhaps I'm an exception to the rule.

I'd rather have a young man truth be told. Most men my age are grim 😀 Lucky I'm married.

But if those two links are based off data from dating websites, then;

1. It's only representative of men who use dating websites, not all men

1. It doesn't mean they want to date women in their 20s necessarily, they might just have been looking perving at the pictures

in any case who cares, most 20 something women want to date 20 something men

What men want and what they can get are two completely different things.

All the data really shows the level of men's self-deception.

20something women generally want to go out with 20something men, bit older bit younger but not much.

All the rest of the male population can do is look on longingly.

Men like young nubile bodies- surely that is why?

I'm a younger women in her late 20's. I would never be interested in someone significantly older than me. I think older men lose their energy quickly, always tired blah blah. I think older men might want younger women because of the being more fertile. Because when they were my age they dicked around too much not able to commit and missed the boat.

They think younger women will be easier to persuade/manipulate.
They think younger women will be less likely to call them out on poor behaviour.
They are emotionally immature and older women intimidate them.
They assume older women will have had more sexual partners and, therefore, there is more pressure to perform.

The problem is that, by the time you get to 40, you are waiting for me to realise that they're not going to get those 20somethings and I, for one, am not prepared to go out with a man just because he's realised he can't do any better.

When I was in my 20s, there is absolutely no way I'd have considered going out with someone who was 20 years older than me.

I did briefly date someone who was 38, but it was never serious and my friends all regarded him as a bit of a loser because he couldn't get someone his own age!

Also older men come with lots of baggage which just doesn't happen when you're in your 20's. Why would you bother? Not a fair trade off.

Surely it's just simple biology.

Young women are at their most attractive. Nothing more, nothing less.

It's evolutionary.

Absolutely, Scarlett.

If I had a quid for every time I saw a misappropriation of a scientific study, I could have retired already.

At most attractive or at most fertile?
If most attractive, then arguably many men are also at their most attractive in their 20's before balding etc. hits - so why wouldn't most older women want 20 something men in the same way?

Because men are more looks oriented?
Because men, as I've said above, are on average more objectifying of the opposite sex and what they want/feel is not really considered?

Personally I think it is mainly fertility - and it doesn't have to be conscious i.e. with the intention of starting a family, it can be entirely subconscious/instinct.

Other points people have made about being more malleable, no baggage, status with other men/society etc. could be factors.

Anyway, I've had 2 relationships with older men (30 or more yrs, and 10 yrs) and both were disastrous.

Not surprised to see so few answers mentioning biology tbh. I haven't seen so much denial since the black knight's ''it's just a flesh wound''.

Oh good a bit of evolutionary neurosexism.

Read Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine, on the use of science to justify gender stereotypes.

That was to Scarlet

merville- I disagree. I think men are most attractive in late thirties/early forties. This could just be my opinion though.