Why do men of all ages want women in their early-mid 20's....

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2 different studies, same results :

time.com/3433014/men-women-dating-mid-20s/

time.com/3302251/9-ugly-truths-big-data-ok-cupid-book/

Doesn't make any sense, does it?

I'm past my prime and the pool is now a very small puddle.
I am not bitter about it.

I mostly get a huge interest from Asian men - of all ages. I think a lot of men who really are interested in a personality are not on POF.

It's because younger women are deemed to be 'better' by society than older women.

Men want to be seen to have the best.

Should probably clarify that by fertility I do not mean that women older than this age group are significantly less fertile as they are not, but that as a man gets older his chances of impregnating a woman who is not at absolute peak fertility are lower & lower. (Same rules apply to genetic material of both genders .. older women still ovulating have more chance of a successful pregnancy with a younger man acc. to stuff I've read).

I always attract cab drivers-I have travelled the world from new york to Thailand and always been propositioned by taxi/ cab drivers

Jonso mine is men in petrol stations, not just locally. It's such a common thing even my children notice it now and laugh

Jonso - oh yes I personally think men are attractive at all ages, entirely depends on the person.
I was just debating the point that arguably both genders might objectively be viewed as at the peak of their looks in their 20's, but why is it that so many more men want 20 somethings/women decades younger than them than women.

My older man (he was 32, I was (only just) 18) wanted someone sexually inexperienced who might not realise he had a premature ejaculation problem (and a really bad attitude about it).
Eventually had to say to him "I can read, you know. I also talk to my friends about sex. This (2 thrusts and done) is not usual and it is something we need to talk about". He was really pissed off about having to communicate like an adult about sex with his little love-toy. (I am not unsympathetic to sexual dysfunction, he was a misogynistic chancer)

Of course it's pure natural biology. It's normal that your 40 something husband will be drooling over 25 year olds. If you think their not, they will be, as others say whether they can get them is another matter that goes into other threads. Just the truth.

I hated men my own age when I was a young lady. So it works both ways. Young women often love older men for lots of reasons. Money, status, experience. Young lads can be immature

Trickleupeffect - same here, 1 older man suffered from PE; the other suffered from ED. The first was (apparently) completely unaware it was not normal. The latter lied about how long it had been going on, what caused it and also claimed he did suffer from it with his on/off gf.

Sorry - claimed he did not suffer from it with his on/off gf.

Isn't that strange username? My friends also find it hilarious and make me sit in the front

Runoutof, exactly. It reminds of all the women who think their husbands only have eyes for them, don't watch porn, would never cheat etc... I guess coping is part of human nature. Biology is a motherfucker, it doesn't take any hostages. At the end of the day we're just hairless monkeys with Iphones.

merville I think sometimes men just are attracted to younger women, and sometimes they are hiding a "flaw" that they thing an older woman would spot.
(Sexual inadequacy, emotionally abusive trairs, general hatred of women, bitterness, desire to control).
Didn't put me off, though. My husband was older ( by a whole 6 months)

Oh user147getaproperusername .. some of us know our husbands watch porn, some of us watch it too. Some of us know our husbands must appreciate an attractive women just like we appreciate an attractive man. As to never cheating - no-one has a cast-iron guarantee their partner will never cheat (and may be tempted to cheat ourselves, I know I have), but we can have a reasonable idea of the likelihood of that happening.

You sound bitter and gloaty - 'what is your major malfunction?' as the drill instructor in Full Metal Jacket asked.

"Think" and "traits" sorry

I'm engaged and have a child to an older guy. Why? Because we fell in love.
I don't know why some people have such an issue with age. I used to always date lads around my age but they were so immature that as I got older I was just more attracted to older men because they seemed more ready for commitment.

A lot of older women are also immature, there are tons of reasons why a man or women might be attracted to someone a lot older or younger.

If you're confident in yourself then why worry what someone else's type is unless it's illegal.

Hairless monkeys with iPhones, love it. Some of them are not so hairless I can tell you.

All male animals chase young fertile females it's normal (again I am a older woman in a relationship with someone of the same age so have no axe to grind so to speak, just see life how it is.

Trickle Absolutely. That sounds like a shit experience; glad you were sensible enough not to taken in by him - and glad you found a good un

I was 19 when i met DH He was 42. I have a thing for older men. Or i did. Maybe its on the wane. Im 43 and ive done things arse about face.

I was 21 stone in my 20s. Im ten stone lighter now. In fact i feel very good in myself. I look and feel a lot better at 43 than i did at 25. I look at those wedding photos and its no longer who i am. Its like im a different woman. Older men seem to be attracted to me though. I had someone from school say to me a while ago "You are one of those women who bloom as they get older" which was nice.

I think that there are, as with most things, both biological and social factors.

The biological aspect is that men like younger women because they are more fertile and attractive. Harsh but true.

However older women also feel the same about younger men. That is biological.

The social aspect is that men feel more entitled to express and fulfill their desire for younger women because our culture not only tells them it's acceptable but encourages them to do so.

Not the same for women. Women aren't taught to objectify men in the same way.

The current one sided setup is a legacy of patriarchy where men had the money and power and a woman's capital was in her attractiveness and fertility.

oh dear user, trying to make the mumsnetters feel insecure? you've not been on here long :)

old men may want young women but they dont often get since the desire is rarely reciprocated
for most older men the only chance they have of sex with a young attractive women is if they pay a sex worker

Lessthanaballpark - agreed, though I'd be inclined to think that women on average are also not as inclined to objectify men in the same way (in addition to not being conditoned to).

Also arguably women may not desire younger men quite as much as vice versa because their fertility ends earlier than mens' (?)

Lessthan, all very true.