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Leaving tomorrow. Scared witless.

107 replies

flyblossom · 23/08/2016 10:39

Hello. A couple of weeks ago I had a thread about leaving my partner, I'm sorry I don't know how to link.
Well, d day is tomorrow. I've managed to find a 3 bedroom bungalow that accepts hb which was a feat in itself!
Tomorrow I have hired a van, it's coming at 9.30.
I have packed as much as I can without him noticing.
It's just that I feel so guilty. He literally has no clue whatsoever.
He's being nice at the moment, probably because everything is going his way.
I signed the tenancy today so there's no going back.
I know I'm doing the right thing, I keep reminding myself how he acts and treats us (my 2 dd).
I just feel really guilty and sad for him.
I'm not going to tell him to his face, I know it's cowardly but I am really scared. I was going to leave a note. I have told him before that I wanted to leave but he made me feel really guilty and that he only critisizes us to help us.
I'm sorry I'm rambling but my mind is going 100 miles an hour. I feel sick and want to cry.
Thanks for reading.

OP posts:
whitehandledkitchenknife · 24/08/2016 09:57
Flowers Thinking of you flyblossom
Ratbagcatbag · 24/08/2016 09:59

Good luck for today. I'm in awe of your courage. My mum should have done this and never had the bravery too. It's affected her in so many ways.

Costacoffeeplease · 24/08/2016 10:02

Hope all goes well for you today

whatsagoodusername · 24/08/2016 10:10

Good luck today. I hope it all goes well.

Dowser · 24/08/2016 10:18

Congratulations to you and I'll raise a glass to your new life.

I know someone who did this.
Sorted out some accommodation and left a note to their parents who had been really shitty.

The note went...I've left. Thanks for the roof over my head.

Says it all doesn't it.

Have a lovely evening tonight.

Missgraeme · 24/08/2016 10:20

Your forever life starts tomorrow. Remember you deserve this.

Stay strong. .
And enjoy.

Lunar1 · 24/08/2016 13:28

Thinking of you today, I hope it's going well.

M0rven · 24/08/2016 17:02

I'm also thinking of you and your girls and wishing your all the best in your new home

Shayelle · 24/08/2016 17:02

Good luck x

BeyondLovesSweetDee · 24/08/2016 17:14

Hope it went well Flowers

Crusoe · 24/08/2016 17:21

Hope today went smoothly and a new happier life can begin for you.

TwentyCups · 24/08/2016 17:24

Hope everything went well today and that you are all safe.

WaitrosePigeon · 24/08/2016 17:24

Thinking of you x

user1470781081 · 24/08/2016 18:07

Good luck with your move!

I too have a thread somewhere on relationships about my wanting to leave my partner for similar reasons to yours. I know what I have to do and I really do have to but change terrifies me and I will most likely be going to a refuge first with my 2.

Seeing you come so far and do the right thing is giving me another kick up the bum to do the same so thank you! You're an inspiration to your daughters to not put up with this shitty treatment Flowers

Randytortoise · 24/08/2016 18:10

I hope you're safely tucked up on the sofa in your new home with a bottle of wine celebrating the start of your new life and waiting for bake off
Hope it all went well today, thinking of you Flowers

debbs77 · 24/08/2016 18:24

Good luck!

2 years is a long time! You've done so well saving up for it. And all in secret! You're a genius!

Wonkydonkey44 · 24/08/2016 19:18

Good luck xx

Namechanger2015 · 24/08/2016 19:23

Thinking of you today I hope it all went well xxx

Enkopkaffetak · 24/08/2016 19:41

Hope you enjoy your first day in your new house (in your new life)

AndYourBirdCanSing · 24/08/2016 19:44

Thinking of you and your girls today! Flowers

duckyisback · 24/08/2016 20:12

Hope today went well op.

I am in the same boat, just waiting to hear on a house and then I will go. It's terrifying so it's been helpful to read your story & how strong you have been!

bestofbothhovis · 24/08/2016 20:16

another one here hoping all went well today!

hownottofuckup · 24/08/2016 20:17

Hope all went well OP, how's your new home? Flowers

elQuintoConyo · 24/08/2016 20:40

How did it go OP? I hope you are busy unpacking and breathing easily Flowers

MsKite · 24/08/2016 21:07

Hope it all went well and you're in your own home now op Flowers

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