What a prick! Pissed offwith me because I've got my period.

[FindingSmeagol]

I've been away from Dp for a week with dd 2. It was only meant to be a couple of nights but she ended up in hospital for one night with an infection (absolutely fine now) so I went from there to my family as I knew he'd be working and I wanted some support. First morning home and he notices San pro in the bathroom and says 'oh ffs your kidding?!' Um no these things happen monthly and no I've no control over it . I said 'you are Joking right? He's not. He feels cheated out of another few days of sex because he knows I'm not up for it in the first few days. Not really an AIBU. Just a 'what a cockwoble' klaxon type rant. Agh and breathe.

he doesnt like porn

yeah ok-whoever says that is a liar

just his way of making u feel guilty so u feel u have to sleep with him

He needs to grow up

Urgh this thread is making me feel quite sick. You're being abused here OP. I hope you can see that and get away, not just for yourself but for your daughter.

I was making myself see it as just a pestering Dp being a bit of a dick about sex but now, after reading the replies I'm starting to read more into his behaviour. He still won't let up about the bloody blow job and has agreed it's not going to happen today as I've got period pain but it will be happening tomorrow (according to him ). Just us on the sofa about 20 mins ago him touching my breasts and saying 'look you've got a nipple on so you must be up for it'. I don't have to put up with that do I but I know if I try and shrug him off he'll get sulky on me. It's not really on is it?

He's demanding a BJ. And he thinks that if your nipple is erect you are up for a shag. And he sulks.

If your daughters BF treated her that way, what would be your advice to her?

No, it's really, really not on. :(

I want her to grow up to be happy, strong and respected as an equal.

What would happen if you refused any sex or blow jobs for a week?

Because that's not a long time for most couples. Would he make your life unbearable?

So he uses sulkyness to manipulate you into sex... How is that acceptable?

Poking your nipples? He's lucky you've not decked him for it. Fucking rancid twatwaffle.

You have a manchild OP. Tell him to stop willy waving and tell him to keep off your nipples. My DH wouldnt dare touch mine during "that time" as it can be painful and he'd get a slap.
If you feel he's just being moody, let him sulk for a bit. If you have other worries then I hope you chalk him up to experience and leave. Sex should be a mutal thing, especially not a chore!

just a pestering dp

Sorry but that is wrong. No partner should pester in anyway. Would you poke his nipples or penis and expect 'service'?

Please don’t let him touch you. Get some space and take this all in. Time for a change!

I think he'd just be a pain in the arse and stroppy. I've never tried it.
I did feel like telling him to fuck off my breasts but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Yes I know, pathetic....

So he gets sulky - tough - tell him to grow up

Sorry that was a reply to jinx

Cross post - hurt his feelings!! FFS

He's really got you where he wants you, please don't put up with this a minute longer

It depends on what type of pestering and other behaviour. My DH will be suggestive (and pester me). Sometimes its annoying, sometimes its not. He's not abusive and certainly shows compassion and understanding.
The OP can tell the difference if he's being abusive.

As in spurning his advances could hurt him.

And that would be a bad thing because....?

He doesn't seem to mind upsetting you and hurting your feelings.

I'd say fuck him, but no don't. Really don't!

FindingSmeagol does he have low self esteem? Spuring his advances shouldnt hurt him.

I don't know. Guilt on my behalf. I am less physical affectionate to him since dd came along.

Are you every having sex that you don't really want or don't enjoy?
If you said no would he try to talk you round?
In my book that is damn near as rape as makes no odds.

Without wishing to sound patronising it sounds like you have been in this relationship for a long time and have lost sight of this being how relationships work.
Any decent man would respect the fact that his partner didn't really want sex and would walk away without comment.

I'd call him a cunt but that would be unfair to cunts.

Dont blame yourself, he should be more understanding of your feelings. Tell him how he is making you feel. If he doesnt listen or acknowledge and support then i'd be making some long term plans to leave.

Sometimes we have sex because we both want to and sometimes I make an effort to get into it. Never ever rape. If he sees during sex that I'm really not getting into it we stop.

Yes, if I said no he'd always try and talk me round.