not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I'm at home too. Only got a few hours sleep! Watching X Factor.

I've been so horny this last week I've been crawling the walls!

Should I kiss and tell? Well he didn't have a micro penis, phew, was just perfect. Did it twice last night and twice this morning! Cuddled me lots which was so lovely. I haven't been held for so long. Didn't get out of bed till 1 and he made me lunch and then made me watch first episode of Breaking Bad!

One funny thing that happened. My hair colour is completely different from when we first met and he didn't notice till I pointed it out!

Wow single and destiny am very envious of the moose burgers! Sounds like you've both had fabulous times.

waving how annoying having plans cancelled- although on the face of it, seems decent of him to prioritise his son. Agree with you being 'high value' and not accepting a last minute summons.

I've been messaging a few irons on GSM. mrKent is lovely and chatty but says he's a short arse ( I'm 5'9") and he lives in Kent (I'm in N London) so not sure about distance. Still he's very amusing in his messages and am due to meet him on Tues.

mrcagey is well, cagey. I think I'm swayed by him being v tall and good looking in his photo- though his photo looks like one of those professional model shots which always makes me suspicious for some reason! His messages have been frequent but very brief- just one sentence, often just 3 or 4 words! I blame the heat but I agreed to exchange numbers and to meet on Tuesday night. But now I'm wondering if I'm being a bit daft- I know very little about him, he was slightly evasive about his job and area of town he lives in. I feel he has found out a lot more about me which makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Most of his texts have been extremely flirty so I'm guess he's after something casual which I wouldn't rule out, but then he started asking if I wanted kids. I'm staying with family this weekend and mentioned the general area and he immediately replied with 'whereabouts exactly'. Just makes me feel a bit odd but can't pin point why. So undecided about whether to meet him.

Ooh destiny glad youve had your, err, itch scratched! 4 times you lucky cow.

single how much younger than you is audidriver again? I do think that the older i get the less a few years matter- I'm 40 so guess that 6 years wouldn't really bother me for example- but more than that and I'd think that they couldn't possibly have learned and practiced all the dirty shit that I'd need them to know! He sounds like he has though. Sex aside, don't discount him if all the boxes are being ticked because he sounds fab- and if you like him what does it matter?

Been out to cinema with friends tonight (bad moms- really funny but silly, laughed all the way through) and MrWoodsman has been living up to his name with some very flirty texting...even if we are not each others type in person on Thursday I'm having some very happy thoughts ;)

Clawdeen I am starting to think that gut instinct has a lot to be said for it. If you still feel he's a bit vague if you do finally meet up then that's maybe for a reason?

Claw I'm matched with someone who says he's a short arse! Is he a lab technician? Also in London, maybe we all have the same irons!

waving outnumbrd that is very funny! There could well be overlap with irons. I'm only on Guardian Soulmates at the moment. I've selected an age range of 40-53 ( I'm 43) but I wonder if I should make the lower limit lower. Most messages I get are from men that are 58-60! outnumbrd think you're safe, 'my' short arse works in marketing.

sicknspan, yes I think you're right about gut instinct. Probably comes back to that nice girl thing of 'oh someone wants to meet me, I should meet them'. Plus I get so few messages from men that are actually taller than me. I shall see how his messages go today and tomorrow before making a decision. The cost of a babysitter certainly focuses the mind! mrwoodsman sounds fun, your date could be interesting! Hope there's the same spark in person.

Hi all I'm meeting Mr straight laced today and we are spending the day together.
I went out with friends yesterday and ended up messaging Mr profile altered.
AlSo has messages/ texts from 3 other men.

2 really really want to meet me ( both called Steve- same as my ex).

Not sure whether to meet them or stick with Mr straight laced( can't think of a better nn for him).

He hasn't tried anything on he is very gentlemanly.

Also thinking of wearing my little black dress- hope it's not too much although it will be the 4th time we've met.
I wore it to go out with Mr profile alterer and it led to what I believe yo u ladies refer to as a moose burger!

Claw How is Guardian Soulmates? What type of guys are on there. I got an email today with a half price offer and was seriously tempted. I'm looking for an arty type of personality but who has a proper job!

emily wear your little black dress, he may not be so straight laced once he sees you in that!

The age gap is 14 years

In his favour though is the fact that he's highly educated and a father. To be honest when we met i thought he was at least 5 years older. He has a mature air about him.

Funnily enough, my longest relationship was with someone 12 years younger than me and i only finished with him because he had a weird fetish and never wanted to go anywhere.

Im just going to enjoy it for what it is - a bit of fun. He is so lovely

Good luck with Mr Straight Laced Emily.

Spik that would make me think he was trying to spy on me.

Ha ha Sick I can assure you that he is very accomplished & very dirty. Its swoon making watching him get his kit off - its like a 6foot wall of hairy muscle coming towards me

Hi guys, just, today in fact, split with my boyfriend of 16 months because he doesn't love me anymore. Not sure I'm ready to date just yet, but I will be soon.

Hi I am new to this thread too. I hate OLD but I keep dipping my toe in and out.
I am all or nothing nowadays, can't do FWB. I just get hurt.
I have been texting the most funny guy for weeks and I think we may meet up in a couple of weeks when we are both free (both have kids, holidays and plans) and I am half dreading it, half excited.

I honestly need to work on my confidence. I am haunted by all my previous terrible choices in the past and my appearance. I have developed some self control under the influence of alcohol - proudly I have not done anything stupid when pissed for a good 2 years!

Hi previous and new posters!

I didn't go on POF thinking I'd meet someone I'd actually like, but Mr Walker keeps ticking more boxes as we go. One thing that makes me feel uneasy is that we may be coming in at very different financial stances. I have a career and a good salary for our area, he is likely to be lower and managed to get into debt with his ex.

I'm over-thinking and not being fair here aren't I, or should I find out more?

So I should be out I got a phone call earlier saying he was just leaving it takes an hour to get here and that was three hours ago......i give up

3 hours

I am a bit concerned about the drunk texting I have done.
We never say anything remotely rude, which is what I like about him the most - it is all messing about, silliness but possibly this could friend zone us quite easily. Also I have had a few more social events than is ever usual for me recently as I rarely go out and it so happens that these are the times the funny texting happens but I worry he has a bad impression of me now as lame hardcore party girl

Ooh 6'4 sounds good waving. Good luck with Mr Copenhagen!
I'm feeling a bit wobbly still but I have joined tinder and okc tonight

lilac I wouldnt hugely worry about it just yet and just see how things go - at least he has a job and has presumably been honest with you which are all good things!

destiny I am very jealous its been a long two years for me and although l've been out a couple of times with this new guy nothing remotely exciting has happened - he seems lovely but not sure if the physical spark is there.

pathetic - seems wrong to call you that! If its all still raw just take it slowly hopefully it will be an ego boost for you tho.

How does everyone deal with seeing several people or talking to lots of people or do you not? I am seeing the guy mentioned above for a meal at his on friday but there has been nothing physical yet and not sure if he is my normal type. Would you still speak or possibly meet other people? My friends dont even think I should talk to more than one person at a time but they havent done OLD so probably not the best people to advise lol.

Do you think there are men who'd date a woman with 3 dc? Feeling a bit hopeless