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Can pictures just appear

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 16:17

Hi, I know this will sound stupid but myself and DP run a buisness together earlier his mobile rang so I rushed to answer it. I missed the call but I know this is wrong I checked his phone he's always so secretive with it. I didn't find much but there was 3 pictures of his naked torso with 'goddess' wrote on it. I confronted him straight away he said "I think they're from ages ago, before we met, they must have just appeared" the date on the photos is from Friday. Can photos just appear in the wrong order? I realise how daft I sound.....

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 19:37

I've scrutinised the photos no bed sheets, walls that would give him away just Goddess written in big letters on I am guessing torso just cause there isn't any other part big enough to write in biggish letters on, apart from his back

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sykadelic · 08/08/2016 19:47

It's possible he took them and never sent them anywhere so phone records wouldn't prove anything.

Only you will know whether he's lying or telling the truth and I'd be basing it on his reaction to the photo. Did he look confused? Did he ask to see what you were looking at or immediately say "oh that's old" (if it's 2 years old I'd need to see what you're talking about). I'd also rely on his recent behavior and whether he's been acting odd lately.

I'm sorry OP :(

DonkeyOaty · 08/08/2016 19:49

Was it written sseddoG or Goddess?

(just being nosey)

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 19:54

Written Goddess
He's at work, I'm at home he keeps texting saying he would never do anything like that to me that he loves me blah blah. Don't know what to do. If it was just one photo I may believe it just 'popped up' but 3 there is something not right

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Muddlingthroughtoo · 08/08/2016 20:01

I know it's upsetting but if he told you the truth you could start to deal with it. I hate being lied to, it's so annoying.
Find out why he did them originally (nobody forgets that kind of photo). Look at the contacts on his phone/laptop etc, any weird ones. Ask for details and pounce on anything that doesn't feel right, if it's the truth he shouldn't get flustered, confused or annoyed.

rjay123 · 08/08/2016 20:03

Ask him to send you the pictures. If he does send you them, open them with a photo exif viewer. (F at the end is correct)

This might give you the hidden properties of the photo - when it was created, the device type, the app, and even the location sometimes.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 20:06

That's exactly it I just want to know. He's got both at work no doubt he'll have deleted any trace of anything now

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WellErrr · 08/08/2016 20:07

He's lying.

rjay123 · 08/08/2016 20:12

If you don't think it's whatsapp where he is sending them, ask him to bring up his phone bill on the pc.

If he has nothing to hide, he won't mind. Then look for any MMS messages.

If he objects too much... Well you know what that means.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 20:25

I've told him if he doesn't tell me the truth it's definitely over and I'll tell everyone why and what I found. I know that sounds petty but I just want the truth.

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scoobydooagain · 08/08/2016 20:25

My sony phone does put "anniversary" photos to top of screen, but just the one, at moment my photo is dated July-August 2016 but I know I took it in July 2013, the photo changes often to another one taken on that date in previous years

SandyY2K · 08/08/2016 20:34

If he hasn't deleted them, you can go through all his pics taken with the camera. Samsung actually has folders with the origin of the pics. For example camera, download, whatsapp.

So if it was taken with his camera, you should see the date.

Also, has he had the same phone for over 2 years?

If he has had the same phone, that means he saved the pics to his sim card. Perhaps you'll find more pics, but I reckon he's deleted them all by now.

The men who are into Dommes are addicted to it and if he is using one, then she'll be charging him. Do you know if there has been unaccounted cash disappearing?

SandyY2K · 08/08/2016 20:38

I've told him if he doesn't tell me the truth it's definitely over and I'll tell everyone why and what I found. I know that sounds petty but I just want the truth.

I like your no nonsense approach.

If you know the truth you can work on things.

Would you consider being a Domme for him? Because it's a big fettish for him and he's going to crave it. He might try suppressing it, but he may well just hide it better in the future.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 20:51

I actually said I'd be a domme for him, obviously not all the time but now and again. He said no because he knows I wouldn't feel comfortable, which I probably wouldn't I would defo need a few wines! No, no cash missing

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Boogers · 08/08/2016 21:48

Lara, gut instinct, he's lying and you know it. He's going to admit to what you can prove, and the rest will stay his hidden secret, only he'll get better at hiding it.

Samsung phones have a hidden folder, code protected behind two codes. You think you've unlocked the phone but there is a secret folder of emails, photos, conversations etc hidden that you don't know how to find or get access to. Being cagey with his phone is very suspicious. 2 1/2 years in, I'd be running for the hills if I were you, for so many reasons.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 21:57

We have been texting (he's still at work) he said he did take the photos but didn't send them anyone that's it's just part of his fetish. What does that's even mean?? He won't tell me more then that. I'm honestly heartbroken feel like somebody has stabbed me in the heart. If we split not only will I lose the man I love but my life will be such a mess

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SandyY2K · 08/08/2016 22:19

I'm not buying the story about him writing Goddess and not sending it to anyone. It doesn't make sense at all.

If there's no money missing, then he's not likely to be using a professional Domme.

I'm trying to think what the alternatives are and nothing good comes to mind.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 22:33

He says now he was copying something he watched

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AnyFucker · 08/08/2016 22:33

he's the drip that keeps on giving....

SandyY2K · 08/08/2016 22:37

By the time you get the truth you'll be drawing your pension at this rate.

FairyHoof · 08/08/2016 22:43

I'd suggest we do some D/s play, tie him to the bed naked with handcuffs on and go out for the evening. What a useless lying knob.

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 22:43

Even if it's true about him copying something he's watched that's really turned me off yuk!! Can't imagine having sex with him again

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SandyY2K · 08/08/2016 22:52

But even if he saw a sub with Goddess across his torso, it would have been for a Domme and not just for the hell of it.

People do copy and try and re-enact fantasies, but his story isn't making sense. I'd not bother with any more texting him and just say you will talk further face to face.

The texting gives him time to come up with another little lie to cover up and you can't see his reaction.

sykadelic · 08/08/2016 22:53

He might have not sent it, but the only way to know for sure is to check his text message history (will his phone records show texts? mine don't), but seriously seriously doubt it. He gets off on photos he takes of himself and leaves in his camera roll? No. He gets off on sending them to someone.

He first lied about when he took them. In the face of your threat that it's over if he doesn't tell the truth, he's now admitted that he took them on Friday (because that's the proof you had). He's only admitting to what you have proof of, expanding on that lie as necessary.

You could try calling his bluff: "Well I've called the phone company and have the text message records. I already know the truth and hoped you'd tell the truth but it's apparent you never will".

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Laraloulou · 08/08/2016 22:58

He's saying all men have fetishes all his mates have. I doubt very much lads talk about that. I feel physically sick! I think I just need to sleep now he's staying at his dad's probably messaging 'goddess' I may have a clearer head tomorrow. Thanks for your replies ladies

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