Help! Boyfriend advice!!

[chelsm93]

Ok, so I've recently started seeing someone new. We were having a chat the other night and he asked me to be honest with him about a few things from my past. I went on a girls holiday a few years ago (way before I met him) and I had sex with a few people. I was young and stupid... I recently came out of a relationship and lost my way a little bit. He caused a big argument about how many people I've slept with and about what I did on holiday. I understand it probably wasn't nice to know what I did but in my eyes the past is the past. On the night of the argument we seemed ok again and then ended up having sex. He went home and then told me he was still upset about what he found out!!! 3 days on he's STILL going on about it. I've apologised for upsetting him and explained I wouldn't even think about doing anything like that again I was young. I just don't know what else I'm meant to do!!! I've told him if he doesn't want to be with me that's fine just stop dragging it on. I've told him how I feel and that I want to be with him but I can't make him. On the same night I asked him to hold my daughter (not his baby) and he made a comment saying he's not a babysitter which upset me but I didn't say anything about it :/

[smilingeyes11]

Please tell him to bugger off and stop hounding you and please don't let this twat, or any of his ilk, near your precious, brand new baby. He is utterly vile misogynistic, sexist knobber and you deserve a million times better than him.

I don't care if you slept with the whole male guest list of your holiday hotel, he has no right to pass any comment.

[Questioning25]

How would you feel if a partner spoke to your daughter that way? He has zero right to judge you. Even if this relationship worked out, do you want someone who calls women slags and is a misogynist around your daughter while she's growing up? You shouldn't be ashamed of your behavior but you should dump him.

[AnyFucker]

Yeah, it's dead classy to call other women's sexual behaviour "slutty"

I have noted princess that cabrinha's posts have more class in the full stops than you have in your whole library. Your woman hating shirt has no place on a site like this. I am sure you would be better suited to misogynistsRus.com or summat

I have to say that jumperoos should be used judiciously though. They are not particularly beneficial to a baby's development when overused. I have no comment on their status as new or used though

[AnyFucker]

Oh, I bet your shirts are very classy though

[glitterwhip]

This guy sounds like my ex ..He would ask me similar things and say I promise I won't get mad and then of course he would get mad and continued to bring them up over the course of our relationship ..it's a controlling tactic
It's also absolute nonsense..agreeing with others ..Get shot of him he'll get worse

[Cowscockwithonions]

Please just get shot of this waste of space, my ex was like that at the beginning of our relationship, and I wasted six years of my life with him.
He regularly used my past as a stick to beat me with.
The last argument we had (after we'd split up) he called me a whore, a slag and a cunt, in front of my children
It's been a nightmare trying to get rid of him, completely traumatic, he wouldn't accept our relationship was over, but things are slowly improving.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Here we go again princess spoiling another thread...feck off.

What a knob he is 93. I think if you don't dump this twat you'll have problems non stop with him.

[ayeokthen]

sexual behaviour that is promiscuous calm down Mary Whitehouse! It's not 1953! As long as it's legal (no kids or animals) and not someone else's wife/husband/partner, someone else's "sexual behaviour" has buckshee to do with anyone else, let alone for them to judge!

[Scarydinosaurs]

Good for you- stay tough! He is a nob.

[Cabrinha]

Gosh, I would be honoured to be AF's sock puppet, she speaks much sense and with a lovely turn of phrase.

Sadly no, though Princess - so it's truly double the number of people who think you talk shit than you previously thought. You win some, you lose some.

[AnyFucker]

oh princess you could be in our Club if you reeeeally wanted to, no need to get so upset

just try and foster a bit of respect for women in your cold, dark heart

it's gotta be hell being you....I can't imagine being surrounded by all these people who just don't understand you

what a 'mare

[Shizzlestix]

Amythest001 close enough... He's told me how many girls he stopped speaking to for me!

OMG! What a fucking prince! LTB, he sounds like a total twat.

[merville]

SwearyGodmother Perfect! I think there should be a dictionary entry for "slut" (and similar words) as "a word used to describe a woman who has more sex than a misogynist thinks she should have".

Chelsm
I was with a man like this for a loonng long year & a half (didn't show his true colours for the 1st couple of months though) and it never got any better and it was never going to get any better.
I left him to find his 'decent girl' (woman who had only has sex inside a long-term serious relationship leading to marriage, who has never has sex with a man of a different race etc. etc.) and I can't tell you what a pleasure & relief it is to be in a relationship with someone who is not judging, criticising etc.

[merville]

Princessmi12 The clue is in your name too.

[MorrisZapp]

We can adapt the classic alcoholic joke:

A slut is somebody you don't like who does as much shagging as you do.

[Hissy]

Trust me, dumping him is the only option. Well done for doing so.

My ex had a conversation like this with me, exactly the same response.

He went on to literally torture me for hours about it. Waking me up in the middle of the night to have a rant, nobody has that right.

Bullet dodged!

[princessmi12]

Ha ha I'm not upset at all.
I have lots of people that understand me and to live to your own moral standards is hard but I manage :)

Also my partner isn't controlling and doesn't ask me questions like :who did you sleep with before me and how many were there?
Maybe because we DTD after we became a couple and agreed we're in relationship as opposed to have sex first and relationship talk later. I respect myself so he respects me.
Good old fashioned way works ,even though it's 2016 not 1953 :)

[Leefr200]

sounds like an immature prick! been with my missus 12 yrs couldn't give 2 hoots about her past, you have a child you want a man not another child to contend with

[Kr1stina]

OP, don't take him back , you've done the right thing .

Princess, I'm totally shocked that you had sex with your boyfriend and now you are living together without being married . It doesn't sound very old fashioned to me . Don't you have any standards ?

[ayeokthen]

Princess so there were men before him? And you slept together without being married???? You know what my very old fashioned mum would call you love, don't you? But I won't, because it's 2016 and I couldn't give a toss what you do or don't get up to within your "moral code". Just be aware that you have no right to judge anyone else's choices, even if that means shagging their way round the world!

[chelsm93]

Princess, I feel like your making this something more than it needs to be. "Have a sex first and relationship talk after" who X cares if someone had sex before being in a relationship? I was never intending on having a relationship with the men on holiday now was I? I would never see these men again... It was a bit of fun.

Clearly from the responses I can see your highly thought of on here princess. This is is my first ever post on here for a bit of advice. I didn't need some life lesson about how I shouldn't sleep with anyone before a relationship and having a dig at people who choose to have sex before commitment.

I didn't realise you were a saint and you've never done anything wrong in your life.

If you have nothing nice to say, then I suggest you say nothing at all.

[GinIsIn]

Princess are you single? Because you sound like just the kind of "morally upstanding" laydee that the OP's cuntweasel boyfriend is looking for. You really do seem like you'd deserve each other.

OP - nobody should ever get to make you feel bad about your past, and if this is how he's being this early on, you should run an absolute mile. Because people don't get magically less judgemental the more you get to know them and you deserve someone who respects you!

[Newnew35]

I'm really not sure about the whole idea of 'slutty' behaviour being an anachronism. Would we really think nothing of our eighteen year old daughter/ son reporting to us that they had (safe) sex with numerous people in one day? Hand on heart, I'd feel deeply disappointed.

[Newnew35]

• To add to my above post, or if my son/ daughter regularly had multiple sexual partners. I don't think many of us as parents would be telling them, 'As long as you're having fun!'. And yes, even if it is safe sex.