Ok, so I've recently started seeing someone new. We were having a chat the other night and he asked me to be honest with him about a few things from my past. I went on a girls holiday a few years ago (way before I met him) and I had sex with a few people. I was young and stupid... I recently came out of a relationship and lost my way a little bit. He caused a big argument about how many people I've slept with and about what I did on holiday. I understand it probably wasn't nice to know what I did but in my eyes the past is the past. On the night of the argument we seemed ok again and then ended up having sex. He went home and then told me he was still upset about what he found out!!! 3 days on he's STILL going on about it. I've apologised for upsetting him and explained I wouldn't even think about doing anything like that again I was young. I just don't know what else I'm meant to do!!! I've told him if he doesn't want to be with me that's fine just stop dragging it on. I've told him how I feel and that I want to be with him but I can't make him. On the same night I asked him to hold my daughter (not his baby) and he made a comment saying he's not a babysitter which upset me but I didn't say anything about it :/
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princessmi12 Never heard of this Russian proverb (grew up in USSR)
Do you know I have heard it was an old Russian proverb, but I also heard it was an old Jewish proverb.
Either way its good isn't it?? 
If a partner called/likened me to a "slag", it would be a complete deal breaker.
Don't let him slut-shame you. When you're single, you have the right to have (preferably safe) sex with as many people as you choose. No shame in that at all.
Get rid. He will bring this up in every argument you have otherwise, "Ooh, you were flirting with the bar-tender, whilst buying our drinks", err, yeah, I smiled at him out of politeness.
I would put a month's wages that his insults will increase, been there, got the t-shirt when I was younger. "Slaggy" indeed! 
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Thank you to everyone who has replied. I guess your all right. The signs are there and when I actually think, there is more than just this argument. Like for example I went for a meal with my family last night and he made comments about me not inviting him even though he was working and I did my hair and make up and he said to me "why don't you make an effort for me?" ... I have a 4 month old baby... I don't have the time to do my hair and make up like I used too!! I guess I'll be having the conversation of getting rid later tonight
You should not have to apologise for something you did whilst single, it doesn't matter if you slept with 3 or 10 men in a week (provided you were safe hopefully) it's absolutely none of his business and he can't punish you for it. Calling you a slag is a massive sign of what kind of person he is. "I've been with slags before..." 
I have asked DP about his past, and he is very painfully honest and yes it hurts, but I asked. I can't get upset over something that happened before he even knew I existed. And if he dared try and make me feel bad for my past I would think he was a dick to be honest.
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