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Brave Babes Battle Bus - Holding our heads up like thistles

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MaryMungoAndMidgies · 23/07/2016 16:09

I bit the bullet - Come on in, excuse the faint whiff of dog!

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dementedma · 09/10/2016 16:22

Are you ok lala?
I'm still so fucking gutted about work etc that I'm in free fall with wine at the moment.

lookingforhope · 09/10/2016 17:17

Hugs to both of you Ma, Lala Also a bit rubbish on the wine right now, having stress panic over work and money. Trying to get through evening, plan being to cook dinner, have bath and watch tv before early night as big week ahead. Wondering how Baby, Wry, Indie and co are too. We need this bus to take us to a safe place of sunshine and relaxation .. hope I can pull myself together enough to be in the driving seat soon ....

Elba84 · 09/10/2016 19:12

hope enjoy your early night and good luck for next week- you will be fab, I know it!

lala you ok? How's the face?

Horribly hungover today, predictably, but absolutely no desire to drink at all. And really, really didn't enjoy it last night either. Trying not to kick myself too much and just going to write off today and start over again tomorrow. So day 1, but also day 8 for October which sounds better.

dementedma · 09/10/2016 19:16

Day8 for October is great. I am on day fuck all.
Yes, it would be good to hear from baby,. Indie, wry and also Margie and so many other babes.

PervyMuskrat · 09/10/2016 21:28

ma sorry to hear about the funding and Elba hope the hangover anxiety isn't too bad today.

Day 7 AF here and I've not found it too bad as I'm still getting over how terribly low I felt at the start of the week. DH is away this week so I have the DC on my own and am going to try and be AF for the time he's away. I can feel the desire to have "just one" coming back though Sad - was it wry who said earlier in the thread that nothing tastes as good as the first drink and the rest are just trying to replicate that feeling

Going to have a lovely caffeine free Diet Coke (woohoo!) and prepare for getting everyone up and out of the house super early tomorrow. Good luck to all who are struggling today

showsomeclass · 09/10/2016 21:28

Hello Everyone....

After managing my first AF day on Thursday, I went to my BF's for the weekend as usual on Friday, and after having a massive drunken rant at him (poor bloke) last weekend, TOLD myself I either wouldn't drink at all or if I did, would just drink shandy. I didn't do either, but I did manage to drink one drink to his two on Friday, which was actually only 3, which is extremely good for me! Saturday I only had two drinks and then drank coffee.

This is pretty major - we, as a couple, 'like a drink'. I haven't actually told him how much of a problem my 'problem' is so I think he just thought I was drinking slowly or was ill ;)

I still think I have damaged things between us after my drunken rant last weekend though. He just seems so cool with me. We went out for the day today and it ended up that I couldn't get home (long story) so he insisted he drove me back to my house, half an hour out of his way. I suggested I could stay at his house and go home tomorrow morning, but he really wanted to 'get me home'. I asked him what he was doing with his evening - he said nothing.. he is now in the pub. Without me. I am at home. Because he insisted on taking me home. Grrrrrrr....

ma - I tried to scoll back through the threads and I can't got a total understanding on what happened with work... but I'm sorry it didn't end the way you wanted. Keep those shoulders back and that head high

Elba - Hope your hangover is better! This weekend is the first for as long as I can remember that I haven't had one!

laladidah · 09/10/2016 22:04

Hi all. In tears here, back and neck are hurting. Mr l is being an absolute dick head, apparently I should pay all the rent and be thankful for it. I am a complete twat. How the hell can I afford £1700 a month by myself? Going to bloody well give up now.

laladidah · 09/10/2016 22:26

ma hope you are ok.

elba, hope and all... Sat with a wee dog at my feet. I am very worried right now, think I may be up the duff. Ah, that's it, said it out loud... Probably not as I drink too much, but I am a bit worried

lookingforhope · 09/10/2016 22:35

Lala why on earth does he expect you to pay all the rent? Didn't you discuss this before moving in? £1700 isn't doable for one person is it?
Regarding the possible pregnancy ... Do a test in the morning. It's better to know what you are dealing with. If you have been using protection it may just be stress making you late?

laladidah · 09/10/2016 22:40

hope we did discuss it, and clearly he lied. He is now in bed whilst I am in the sofa with the dog. Feeling so crap right now

laladidah · 09/10/2016 22:42

Sorry babes. This is not in the spirit of the thread....

laladidah · 09/10/2016 22:46

My sleepy head

Brave Babes Battle Bus - Holding our heads up like thistles
Elba84 · 09/10/2016 23:00

lala definitely do a test tomorrow ok?? Better to know one way or the other than keep worrying about it. How did the rent thing come about? Does he earn enough to cover his part? Love the puppy picture, she looks so content with you!

Was a bit premature in saying I don't want to drink...I have most of a bottle or red left over and some beers and they are calling me. Have hidden them in the wardrobe Hmm for now. Feel very, very low tonight probably from hangover and not leaving my room most the day, I know drinking more will just prolong it but feels like the only thing to do. Going to have a bath instead.

laladidah · 09/10/2016 23:06

elba my girl!! Stay strong. I am weak willed. Puppy is sniffling around. Avoiding the pregnancy thing, as that would be the worst thing to happen, ever.

laladidah · 09/10/2016 23:12

Sorry meant to post more, doglet is wombling about. elba have a bath...am watching some crap film, dog at my feet, not sure how I am going to afford the rest of our house....

laladidah · 09/10/2016 23:26

elba please don't do it! I am accidentally watching a film with Leonardo di caprio in it... Showing my age. Need to eat food. I am really hungry. I blame on having been body slammed by the pony

Elba84 · 10/10/2016 00:05

Get some food and some sleep lala and seriously, just do a test. Your imagining the worst anyway surely? Hope your ok xx

In bed now, wine still in the wardrobe.

lookingforhope · 10/10/2016 08:05

Well done Elba. That was a massive triumph. Maybe move the booze to the garage / car / throw it out now so you aren't tempted tonight?

Lala I agree with Elba ... You are worrying now anyway so doing a test won't make it worse and might make things better. We're all here for you.

Ma strength to you at work today. Hope you get some clarity about the funding decision, can you ask again today?

Percy, Class you are both doing so well, awesome efforts on AF / cutting down. Here are some Flowers and Chocolate and of course a Halo for both of you!

Wishing all babes a Happy Monday if possible. Or an OK one if not. Getting kids off to school now then got morning meeting with lovely small client, birthday lunch with 91 year old aunt, visit to cemetery as would have been mum's birthday tomorrow Sad, then back home to catch up before new contract starts tomorrow Shock (bit nervous). Oh and of course making meals, taking ds to sports etc etc. Struggling with anxiety and have been drowning in wine over the weekend (and food. Feeling fat and unfit) but going for an AF week ... Who's with me?

showsomeclass · 10/10/2016 08:20

hope

I'll go for the AF week with you. I only managed one day last week so my personal target this week is to do Monday to Thursday. Gulp!

lookingforhope · 10/10/2016 08:25

Ok, on it with you! Let's go Class Grin Brew

theansweris42 · 10/10/2016 08:35

Hello
2 weeks in new house following breakup, continued trouble from DC dad (ex before this one).
Significant reason for current breakup is DHs drinking (nightly, not benders, but his whole self is about drinking).
I've got myself to a bottle 5 nights a week. More if seeing a friend (not often) and it is too much.
I would like to join in the AF week this week if that's OK?

Elba84 · 10/10/2016 11:57

Ok...it is really, really, really not a good idea to ballot for the London marathon when drunk ShockShockShockShock Over 250000 applicants and I got a sodding place Hmm I'm an asthmatic smoker that can just about manage a 5k, seriously what the fuck was I thinking?!

This is going to be like the worlds longest hangover

showsomeclass · 10/10/2016 13:38

Elba That is exactly the sort of thing I would do!! Mind you mine are normally Ebay purchases that I have to contact the seller and profusely apologise for in the morning

Mondays are so hard! Just made myself a pint of squash

dementedma · 10/10/2016 18:57

Go for it answer. I won't join you as I'm just not in the right place at the moment.
Hope all the rest of you are ok.
,Wry check in please sweetie.

lookingforhope · 10/10/2016 19:34

Ok so AF week is me, Class,Elba, Answer - anyone else?

Pub lunch today but stuck to lime and soda. New job tomorrow (part time contract till January) and very nervous but won't be drinking tonight as early start. Day 1 !

Ma how was work today. Did you find out anything more?

Lala how are you doing?

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