OK, so *is* anyone else on here poly/kink-aware?

[madamez]

Or should I just slink off back to Wierdo-net?

Answers to questions above:

a) Pegging is when a woman anally penetrates a bloke with a strap on. As shown in the "Bend Over Boyfriend" series, among others.

b) cod's problem is typing, not spelling. The fins aren't really suited to a keyb.

I'm sorry, but I have to put in a reply to some of the points raised.

1. I don't believe for a second it was arrogance on the part of the original poster, starting this thread

1. It is not that we 'alternative' people feel that we are any better or more interesting than people who do not indulge

1. IME people who share an interest in something, be it knitting, waterskiing, whatever, generally like to group together and chat as they have a common interest, I don't see that this is any different

Rant over

i agree with you wheresthevalium, especially point 3. I myself like watersports...not fussed on knitting though

I knew a woman once who practised water sports. Only so that she could earn more £ per film/shoot though

I'm not joking....

that wasn't hunker, was it? hope you get good news today, vvvqv.

LOL! No, aitch, it wasnt hunker.

and thank you. I am expecting a reply this afternoon. This means they are obviously considering it so that can only be good. Fingers crossed, eh?

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But hey - that means you've tried it coddy if you have found you dont like it

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LOL!

I'm a lady!

i don't think it's so odd that people want to talk about things that interest them... but the 'us' and 'them' thing is tiresome. one might have thought that being on the end of a computer actually freed people from being defined by their lifestyle choices and would allow them to befriend people whom they otherwise would never 'meet'.

anyway, i'd have thought you'd have plenty of friends to chat about polyamoury with if you are actually a practising polyamourist.

i'm definately not a man. And who said they were choosing friends based on sexual interest? That's like saying the people who post about BLW only want to make friends with other BLW'ers, it's not the case.

Why is it that people can't post about something that may be seen as a bit 'different' without it always decending into piss taking and bitching?

No wonder wheresthevalium and i had to discuss our bin fetish on msn instead** I fibbed about the bin fetish bit. But you know what i mean!

May I just say I love NQC (not in a poly/kink way). Not just the mindboggling knowledge, but the helpful examples: "The Bend OVer Boyfriend" series, etc.

i said it wasn't odd that people wanted to talk about things that interested them. it's the 'vanilla' chat that gets on my tits. i don't go around saying that people who spoonfeed their children purees have shit sex, for example. (although i might privately think that they must do, being exhausted from all that hand blending... )

LOL at the handblending Aitch.

i'm sure NQC will be along with a definition soon, DG.

Why is that people take the piss (no pun intended)

Human nature, dear.

I don't think its men Cod, more like teenage boys

Aitch....

yes vvvqv?

hey, did you get news?

Aitch, I don't have to practise watersports. I'm already very good

yeah, a pro.

Hmm, I guess 'vanilla' can be a slightly derogatory term, but it's not as value-ridden as, say, 'normal'.

I certainly don't assume that anyone has worse sex than anyone else - it's just not possible to compare, is it?

(Ok, I'm leaving out the case of Tiresias, who says, with great authority, that women get nine times as much pleasure from sex as men.)

Oh, and, um, thanks? I think? Turquoise. Were you why I got quizzed about my Sex Doctor credentials at that boozy luncheon?

I did get news aitch, yes. I have another thread if you care to look for it.....

Sunnywong: I don't think it's entirely unfair to comment that some posters seem to feel threatened and distressed by other people having different viewpoints about sex. Given that some MNers have posted more than once on this thread about how "boring" it is (if it's that boring, why are you reading it?), and others are now insisting that anyone who talks about any kind of sexual variations must be either a sex worker or a man.

ANd, OK, I appreciate that the term "kink-aware" is a bit wussy and annoying, but can you not imagine the responses I'd have got if I stared a thread called "Hands Up all the Perverts and Swingers"? (oh, flip, yes, that does bring an image or two to mind, doesn't it).

Though what I would say for the term I used (kink-aware rather than kinky) is that I hoped (obviously wrongly) that it might indicate what i meant which was NOT let's all see who's done the most startling/physically dangerous/newsworthy thing in sexual terms, more a case of: who's got an open mind about other people's sexual/emotional/political lifestyle choices.
And I guess I am finding out the answers to that one.

I am officially too old for this business.