OK, so *is* anyone else on here poly/kink-aware?

[madamez]

Or should I just slink off back to Wierdo-net?

There is a slight whiff of showing off about this type of discussion, imo.

I have to say, the thread is a little patronising...it seems to hint at others on the board being dull or unknowledgable if they don't know what it's referring to / do it themselves.

I have no desire to post what i've got up to (regardless of the fact that you don't know who i am) because

1. I can guarantee at least 80% of you would find it / me revolting. 2. This is Mumsnet, not an 'adult' sex / relationship site or forum.

There's nothing wrong with a sex thread if people are asking for advice say, but then the people that start them don't feel the need to say 'BTW we do it missionary'

Perhaps weiro-net would be a good idea Madamez

Anyway, i'm off for coffee and impure thoughts.

It is def about showing off and attention.It can't be trying to find like minded others surely?Why would you need to find others who like the same thing in the bedroom I know I don't!

snurk @ 'special parking spaces'

RE saltines comment

'There is a slight whiff of showing off about this type of discussion, imo. '

A case of more than one upmanship???

this reminds me of another thread from not so long ago..about finding alternative mates nbecause the general run of parents were too dull

think john major and edwina currie..you never know

The alt mums thread was a shame though- it started off with a couple of us chipping in that we liked alt music/films/tattoos etc, then it was ruined by someone saying that the "normal" mothers must be crap and boring in bed, then the "boden mummies" (i still don't know what that means!) ripped the piss out of all of us and accused us of thinking we were something special. It was a minority on both sides being bitchy and stereotyping that ruined it.

I had quite been enjoying having a chat about my tattoos and music, i don't see that often on here.

Why be bothered about what one person says though?
If you're enjoying a discussion carry it on.
Fab thing about MN is that you can just ignore everyone/everything you disagree with.

I don't think this thread was started with the intention of showing off. madamez hasn't been listing her exploits etc, just looking for people with similar background, imo.

And as for the whole "the people who do this have to brag about it all the time", um, yes, people who brag about their sex lives, of any sort, are a) boring and b) probably lyiing. But there are loads of people who do their own thing, sexually, and don't feel the need to provide everyone around them with details.

it's frustrating trying to talk when others are taking your posts and taking the mickey though- puts you off somewhat!

Yes, I'd agree with that DG. Also, I'm not really desperate to talk with other mums (or anyone other than DH) about my sex life, iyswim.

Knowing there are "kindred spirits" out there is nice, given some people's urge to turn all mums into Mary Poppins, but I don't need (or want, really) all the intimate details.

Sorry, I took the mick .

I just don't see the point of being 'poly/kink' aware, though. I mean, so what if folks want to get freaky with all and sundry and involve toys, camera phones, costumes, etc. in it?

thank you seasonsreasons for biggest laugh of the week

seasonsreasons

I'm so straight its bordering on the weird

New terminology, same old same old boring kinky nonsense

I am with Noddyholder on this one

madamez, if you want to CAT to chat about this, my email address is [email protected].

This doesn't seem to be the place to discuss this!

I'm chuckling at what this thread has morphed into. No one (well, hardly anyone) on here has listed 'wild' practices they indulge in/boasted about what they get up to. I thought the OP was just trying to find out who is interested in this stuff (and who gives a flying fk what terms she used?) - and I am interested because I find the whole subject of sex and what different people like fascinating. I also find classical Greek architecture fascinating, but I don't spend all my time talking about it and it doesn't define me as a person.

I responded yesterday to a question from expat (I think) about what would constitute kinky sex - I didn't add 'and by the way I do all of these every night standing up with different guys/girls ooh what am I like'

Also snort at 'this is not appropriate for mumsnet' view. We are adults.

Even tho' I didn't understand the title and would never dream of discussing my sex life on here (wonderful tho' it is ), why can't there be this sort of thread on here?

For those who say it's boring - don't read it
For those who say it's people showing off - dont read it
For those who say it's offensive - once again, don't read it.

If like minded people want to get together and discuss ideas why the hell not, this is a site for parents and by that definition sex is something that we have all done

If someone's idea of fun is being tied up with extra long liquorice strings and being slapped on the feet with a wet haddock and then some one else tells them that trout gives a better thwack, who am I to comment?

No different to sharing food ideas really

lilibet I totally agree!

I still stand by my statement that what i get up to doesn't belong on mumsnet. It mightn't belong anywhere

completely agree with DSW and lillibet.

Personally, although I was pleased to see someone else was interested in similar things, however, in deference to some peoples sensibilities, I would suggest that anyone who is interested in discussing this further we find somewhere else to do so

where do you suggest?

I can't help wondering if i am more''deviant'' than everyone else I hope not! (Perhaps! )

well, msn perhaps?

my msn is playing up, but DP can sort it out for me.

add me as [email protected]

will do when I get home, very naughtily on here at work! I'm [email protected]