AIBU to be fed up and jealous

[cinderallaswife]

My husband has a good job but the pay is not that great, we have a significant amount of debt, so money is tight but not impossible. The majority of the debt stems from toys my husband has treated himself too including boats and various cars.
I am feeling really low at the moment as my husband has just been on a week long business trip travelling first class and enjoying Michelin star food whilst staying in a lovely 5 star hotel. He came back from his trip and went straight out on a lads weekend without coming home. The kids are really missing him, especially today as he won't be home till late tonight.
Whilst he's been away I have run everything including walking the dog twice per day and working full time. I'm exhausted. When he arrives home he will expect a roast dinner and the house to be clean and tidy and his shirts etc ironed for the week.
All of this would be fine but, the last time we went out as a couple was 14 months ago for a drink at our local pub and the only meals out I get are when my parents take us out about twice a year to the local pub. I feel very depressed as my husband seems to have a great life whilst I am stuck at home saddled with debt which doesn't allow me to have fun. When he does arrive back tonight their will be washing to do, he will expect an 'early night' and I will be up at 6am to start the daily chores.
AIBU to be fed up and depressed or am I just jealous?

The 1950's just called, they want this man back.

Urghhh. This sound so much like my own ex-marriage.
As a PP pointed out, you have so much power, OP. You work full time and take care of the DCs who, I bet, given the choice, would rather stay with you.
Those of us who have left such marriages tend to have one question in common: "Why didn't I leave sooner?"
Come on, babe. You know what you have to do. These men do not change; they just get worse with age. Either you beat him to death with a Le Creuset frypan or you bail out.

Blunder!!

I remember that episode of wife swap where the brothers swapped wives as well.

The comment about the potatoes would have had me breathing fire😠 😠😠😠😠😠😠 directly at him.

It would be a cold day in hell before I tolerated such shitty behaviour.

He doesn't respect you. His actions don't show love to you. Time to stop giving a flying f**k about him for your own mental health.

You'll never be good enough for him. I suggest you tell him to move to a town called Stepford.

Blunder's comment may be out of date. I doubt even blokes in the fifties would have been such self centred arseholes

I'm a bloke so looking at this from another angle...and I'm fucking angry that a bloke can be such a cheap piece of shit. I'm guessing his 'father' (because I'm guessing dad wouldn't have been allowed)was an arrogant tool as well, and mummy was a good little housewife.

Cindarellaswife, can you in all honesty think you are living a happy life and that this is what you want for your children?

I seriously hope you can open your eyes before you waste your whole life on this twat.

You came on here asking for advice and had an overwhelming response that this is abuse and that the piss is being ripped out of you and that you should stop doing things for him.

So, if you post that you have done one more domestic task for this idiot whilst smiling because 'you have to' or it is 'expected', I will scream so loud that your screen will explode.

@ thedogdays.

Seriously, Cinders, you are not being loved and cherished by your h, and you deserve better. So do your children. Do you want your son to treat his partner like this?

That's a bit harsh, thedogdays

We are talking about a 180 turnaround in the very fabric and stability of OP's home life and resisting the lessons of her childhood. Please give the OP a break. I hope she comes back but won't be surprised if she doesn't.

Terrible way to live for everyone apart from him.
Just stop running about after him it's make a stand time, break up or live as a doormat for the rest of your life.

codepency

Yes I suppose it is. The word smiling is what done it.

I guess it's like giving someone endless advice about a cheater only for the OP to blithely post that she just gave him a blow job for a treat. It's a bit of an insult to people who have given their support.

Forgive me or being somewhat irritated.

OP, I come from such a household myself. Inviting my dad round was always a treat. He would put his dirty plates and mugs on the floor and expect complete homage. This was in 2012, which was the last time I saw the mofo. I had a vagina see, it was somehow "in me" to do housework. Please don't pass this down to the next generation.

Forever and ever and ever wondering why women (and men) put up with so much bullshit. Why why why???

I hate to say it, OP, but does it suit you to be a martyr?

WOW. Your husband's a dick.

Please break this cycle, for your sake and the sake of your kids.

Someone is going to end up treating your daughter this way and she'll take it because it's what dear old mum and dad did.