DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Gosh, how worrying. I hope he comes home soon.

Bloody hell! I like to think I'm pretty laid back about DP but even I would be beside myself with worry now after 4 days!

What have the Police said? Did you manage to speak to his employer to see if he's been in touch with them?

How worrying for you OP Have you got anyone staying with you for emotional and practical support? If you haven't I would urge you to ask someone so you aren't facing this on your own.

for you OP

Doesn't sound right to me either, only the OP knows whether her DP has form for excessive drinking or even drugs. They may indeed have never left the house and I think the police need to be involved to gain access to the house and question neighbours etc.

Good luck OP, hope it all works out and the worst to happen is he gets a massive bollocking from the police and you.

My heart goes out to you, Op. I would be going crazy by now checking his phone every 2 mins.

How old is your DH?
Does he take recreational drugs sometimes?
Do you actually know his friend? Or do they have other mutual friends that you know? Is the friend male or female?
Have you contacted his family and friends?
Has he been turning up for work, or contacting his employer to explain his absence?
Do his parents know that he is missing?
Has he taken anything from the house e.g. Driving licence, passport, clothes?
Does he have his own bank account? Have you checked the bank and credit cards to see if there have been any transactions?

Wow!

Is his friend still missing too? And your DH has no access to money because he left his wallet at home, and no car?

Do you know or can you find out enough about his friend to trace his family (parents or siblings?)

Was he due in to work on any of the intervening days? Have you talked to his boss to see if he had leave or has just failed to turn up?

Can you get in touch with your DP's parents or siblings? His parents might be able to help you think of places to look and would want to know (and there might be a tiny chance he is with them...)

Definitely file a report today - maybe get his parents involved too, to back up the fact it is totally out of character and get it taken more seriously.

I hope he turns up soon, how incredibly worrying. The fact he is with a friend certainly adds a dimension and somehow makes it more likely they will turn up I would hope...

I assume the op went to sleep after her last post. I hope she comes back to update, hopefully with good news.

Hope he's made his way back now OP

Hope he's ok.

OP l do hope you find your dh and everything is ok.

I did think have you checked for his passport?

OP, I hope your DH and his friend are safe and well but today is the day the police need to get their acts together and get in the house.

Does friend have a family?
Does your dh work - haven't they been asking?

It's a myth that you need to wait 48 hours to report someone missing. You can report it at any time. Various factors will be taken into account before anything is started though.

Dod your DH forget his wallet? It seems strange to plan such a long evening/night with a friend and not take money.

I assume that by now you would have contacted family, friends, work, friends family, social media etc. This is more than going on a blinder OP, could he have made an escape plan - throwing you off the track by leaving wallet, getting friend to ring to cover for him a while longer?

Sorry, not what you want to hear, but i am afraid that would be my first inclination. Do you have a joint account. Worth taking a look if so.

Does his friend have any issues? Would find it worrying that the last text came from his friends phone.

It's certainly very strange

If anything I'd say you are under reacting

This is all very strange.

What about his work?

Love you can't say that.

As red said, you never need to wait 48 hours to report someone missing! You can report them whenever you like, they'll risk assess each situation based on the facts available at the time. There's even an 'absent' category if they deem there to be no risk... However if something is out of character for a person its likely to be 'missing' (just as an aside)

I hope he turns up soon. How worrying.

Oh come on. This is all bollocks!
That's usually my thought. But here I add 'Is he a recreational-drug user?' and 'Is he in Manchester?'

How weird! Hope he is ok - although how ok can disappearing be, I guess?

Have you been in contact with his work, OP?

I really hope you hear something today. Are you sure he doesn't have another bank card? Going out for any amount of time without a wallet seems really odd.

Sounds dodgy. I hope it's all nothing in the end.