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DH has gone missing

961 replies

HeadWrecked26 · 16/06/2016 00:47

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay! Sad

OP posts:
KoalaDownUnder · 16/06/2016 03:19

Have you contacted his work to see if they've heard from him?

And yes, post on their Facebook pages (his and the friend's)! One of them must still have a working phone, surely.

puglife15 · 16/06/2016 03:43

All very strange. How is your relationship? Does his friend have a partner?

MiracletoCome · 16/06/2016 03:52

Had he already booked the Monday off work for any reason or is it just a non-working day for him. if he had booked a holiday he must have had plans for that day.

YouSay · 16/06/2016 04:02

Hope he is ok op. I think it is odd that he is going on sleepovers with friends. Does he have a drink problem? You haven't mentioned him missing work this week so assume he does not have a job?

rainbowstardrops · 16/06/2016 04:18

Hope everything turns out ok OP.
I'd definitely be reporting it to the police and asking them to check friend's house. I'd have probably done that on Tuesday if I'm honest.

All sounds a bit odd Flowers

PollyCazaletWannabe · 16/06/2016 04:27

Thinking of you OP. I can't imagine how worried I would be in that situation. Hoping all turns out OK x

Scarydinosaurs · 16/06/2016 04:32

Have you checked his use on all social media? Can you activate the find my iPhone?

99percentchocolate · 16/06/2016 05:18

How terrifying for you op, I hope he is home soon.

zen1 · 16/06/2016 05:43

How well do you know the friend? Have you ever met them? I agree that police should be informed and asked to check the friend's house. Very worrying for you OP. Hope he turns up soon.

MrsFrankieHeck · 16/06/2016 05:54

I'd be leaving his stuff out side the front door.

Offred · 16/06/2016 05:55

The police absolutely should take this seriously, you are absolutely not worrying unreasonably. Sad

DontDrinkAndFacebook · 16/06/2016 06:00

I was just wondering the same as Steff - you say he works hard, has he just not turned up at work for the last 3 days then? Confused

Do you know any of the other people they would have been with that evening and have you tried contacting them though facebook or anything?

The odd unplanned overnighter would be annoying but explainable. Three-four days sounds serious.

DontDrinkAndFacebook · 16/06/2016 06:03

Ask yourself honestly HeadWrecked is it likely he is caught up in something seriously dodgy? Does he seel or take drugs or have any connections to criminal gangs?

NavyAndWhite · 16/06/2016 06:08

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MiracletoCome · 16/06/2016 06:11

They must have been OK, or the friend was on Monday as he made contact Monday afternoon at 2pm. Have you contacted his work OP?

MagicMonkeys · 16/06/2016 06:13

Any news OP?

MiracletoCome · 16/06/2016 06:13

It sounds like some planned dodgyness which has gone on longer than expected

amysmummy12345 · 16/06/2016 06:16

Hope he's ok op, that's a long time with no contact 😌 x

iloveberries · 16/06/2016 06:17

This sounds awful OP.

Have you reported him missing?
Have you had any responses from posting on social media about it?

Hope it all turns out ok.
Let's make sure he's safe first

DontDrinkAndFacebook · 16/06/2016 06:20

I would be scouring the house to see if he's taken stuff with him and also looking at online banking to see if a large sum was withdrawn before he went awol. Is his passport where it should be?

BoGrainger · 16/06/2016 06:26

Crikey it's Thursday! No wonder you are worried, you need to escalate this straightaway. Was he due in work and have you contacted them? They might know something or someone with information. E.g. He might have phoned them to say he's not coming in.

hippydippybaloney · 16/06/2016 06:28

I hope the police are more helpful today - it is a pretty long time already. Good luck!

Costacoffeeplease · 16/06/2016 06:31

What about parents/brothers/sisters/other friends?

Groovee · 16/06/2016 06:31

Hope he's home soon X

pilates · 16/06/2016 06:32

Why did he get his friend to phone you and not speak to you himself?

This doesn't sound right.

Hope he turns up soon.

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