DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Your very lucky baby will grow up without the influence of a cocklodger cowardly tosser living in the house and undermining you, and you now have the chance to hold out for someone who actually deserves you.
He has nothing.
Onwards and upwards.

What a waste of space he is.

OP you probably feel this whole week has been surreal but you are undoubtedly better off without this guy in you and your child's life. I hope you can somehow work out financial matters and most importantly your son will be taken care of.

What a cunt.

I'm so sorry OP. no other words to describe the scumbag though.

We're all here if you need us.

Sending you a big hug, what an absolute bastard. You really are better off without a spineless shit like that

What a bastard, off to meet some woman whilst you sat there for four days thinking he was horribly injured or even dead! You and your baby will be better off without him.

I think for now OP, hot drinks, chocolate and wine as required along with good friends, big hugs and lots of rest.

Just get through. Keep on trucking.

Wishing you all the best.

And when and if you are ready shout, rant and rail.

Can you put all his shit out in the garden and so he can collect it when he stops being a complete wanker and wasting the NHS' time

What's he doing in A&E? Someone needs to tell him they don't issue moral compasses.

Sorry op.

so sorry you're going through this

Sorry op. What a Fucking bastard. Cheers also to his cover friend for not telling you sooner! You're much better off without him

I really hope none of you or your partners suffer with any mental health issues at any point. (okay, not all of you, but the particularly judgemental among you).

A breakdown can prevent rational thinking, cause disassociation (sp?), and cause so much shame that contacting ANYONE would be far too difficult in the midst of those feelings. Close friends usually try to not betray you, in hope that they can help you out of the murky waters of your brain, so do everything you ask of them. If her husband has been admitted to hospital and if was MH related it WOULD explain the 4 days and how he is not classed as being in critical condition.

and IF it is MH related, a bollocking won't help OP or her DH.

OP.

I really hope he has justifiable cause gor not contacting you, and that you and your DC (and DP depending on reason) can pull through this.

Always op has said he was with another woman and lied about palpitations to get admitted to hospital

I'm really sorry op.

He is not worth your heartache.

You have come across as a fucking cracking woman and one day you'll meet somone who deserves you.

goodness, missed 4 pages of thread and posted without noticing more had been added since I opened.

i'm so sorry headwrecked

Always I suffer from mental health issues. Sometimes I want to run away, but I don't, because I have responsibilities and morals. I wouldn't fuck off with another person and then try to get sympathy by pudding along to A&E either!

always it was an OW!

Sorry x-post (took a while to respond, been on the vino!)

I'm so sorry to hear your update, OP.

You and your ds are and will be better off without him. Please remember it's not you nor is it your fault try not to let your anxiety make you think it is.

Only you know the true state of things. I can't imagine how devastated you must be feeling. A lot of people have put negative comments on here-but a lot more have been positive and given sound sensible advice. You obviously need to take time to decide what to do for the best, but it certainly seems your dp has lost a loving family. Its also a worry why hes nc with his family and im guessing hes told you its all their fault? Onwards and upwards x

red psychosis can cause completr lack of "moral reasoning" that isn't controlable.

mum I noticed there were more messages straight after posting. I feel awful, bit it wasn't intentionally ignoring the update

So sorry to read your update head, but I'm glad you have RL support.

red you and me both, it's made me a little slow at replying.

(and a glass for headwrecked ) cheers.

What an absolute and utter animal. In fact no, animals would treat their mate better than your dh is treating you. I hope that one day, someone puts him through the worry and stress that he has subjected you to. To kiss you, hug you both then after declaring his love, walk out that door having arranged to meet up with another woman. Shows a depth of depravity and confidence in his deception, which tells me he has been doing exactly the same thing, every time he was out 'overnight' at his mates.

Please go to a sexual health clinic and ask them to test you. You are better off without this selfish, poor example of a man. The fact that he allowed his wife and baby son, to go so long worrying whether he was dead or alive, is an indication that his priorities lie between his legs. Don't be surprised if the doting Father he pretended to be, is all an act.

I have to confess that when you posted the police response to visiting your dh's friends flat, I read between the lines that friend was there and they were gently hinting at the scenario, when saying they couldn't make him come back, only reassure you of his safety. I wonder if the friend spread the news about seeing them both in the next town. Especially as police had been in touch, he may have felt guilty and wanted to reassure you that dh was still alive.

I am so glad that you have your friend with you. I would be packing up his stuff and dumping it in x location, don't tell him where though, let him worry about his stuff for the next five days before having a friend tell him it was spotted at x location.

Oh no op, I'm so sorry. What a monumental twat he has been. I hope he is ashamed of himself.

I'm so sorry. Take care, I know it won't help at the moment but you're better off without an inconsiderate, adulterous twat.