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DH has gone missing

961 replies

HeadWrecked26 · 16/06/2016 00:47

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay! Sad

OP posts:
mummyto2monkeys · 16/06/2016 23:43

I'm so sorry OP, what your dh has done is unforgivable and cowardly. He doesn't deserve a wife and child who love and care for him when he has so little respect for either of you.

You said he is nc with his family, I wonder if he has previous form for this kind of behaviour? I hope that you have family/ friends who can rally round and help you at the moment?

Original poster
HeadWrecked26 · 16/06/2016 23:44

I will be fine in the end, thank you to those who've asked. I'm back home with my baby. My Friend has been with me so I haven't been alone.

Long pathetic story short he went off to meet another woman and used friend as a cover. Thought he could get away with it somehow.
There's absolutely fuck all wrong with him and he's wasting A&Es time to pre empt anyone asking.

Going on about dizziness and palpitations when there's no evidence of either. He's a fucking moron.

So my marriage is over there's no moving forward from here. Im completely and utterly heart broken.

Thank you again for the support

OP posts:
AcrossthePond55 · 16/06/2016 23:46

So sorry it ended like this. Some men are sorry bastards.

BlueUggs · 16/06/2016 23:46

I'm so sorry that you've been so stressed and worried and it's turned out so horribly for you. Be gentle on yourself FlowersChocolate

MyMurphy · 16/06/2016 23:46

Be strong, been thinking of you OP xxx

Kuriusoranj · 16/06/2016 23:46

Oh my love. I'm so very sorry.

MaisieDotes · 16/06/2016 23:47

Sorry it's turned out like this OP Flowers

ohfourfoxache · 16/06/2016 23:47

Oh Head Sad

Hope you're as OK as you possibly can be Thanks

DraenorQueen · 16/06/2016 23:47

What an actual cunt.
OP, massive hugs to you. It sounds like he's the biggest of tossers, how could he THINK something like that would work? And why would he DO such a thing?
I'm so sorry that your marriage is over but I am absolutely certain you will have future happiness as you've come across as a sensible and intelligent woman.

DoloresVanCartier · 16/06/2016 23:48

He's a fucking prick and you are waaaaay better off without that wankbadger in your life!!

PurpleThursday · 16/06/2016 23:48

Bastard

JingleJangleJudy · 16/06/2016 23:49

Oh I am so sorry you have been put through this. How awfully traumatic for you. You deserve far far better than this. I hope you have good support and someone you can talk to. x

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine · 16/06/2016 23:49

Hope you've burned his wallet Flowers

2nds · 16/06/2016 23:50

Sounds like you and baby are better off without him.

PointlessUsername · 16/06/2016 23:50

Take care of yourself and the little one Flowers

PurpleThursday · 16/06/2016 23:50

.... There is plenty of moving forward from here... It doesn't feel like it just yet but you are well rid of a nasty, inconsiderate, immature twat like that. I'm so sorry you and your beautiful DS have to go through this. Onwards and upwards OP. Lean on us for strength. Wine

notapizzaeater · 16/06/2016 23:50

What a twat, did he not think you'd be supisious about missing for 4 days

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs · 16/06/2016 23:52

Small comfort now but I suspect he will regret his actions far longer than you will miss him. However bad you feel right now you will get over this quicker than he does.

He has lost his family and it sounds like OW does not want him either.

NoMudNoLotus · 16/06/2016 23:53

My heart goes out to you OP Flowers

EatsShitAndLeaves · 16/06/2016 23:53

Glad your friend is with you.

He's a total cockwomble Angry.

PurpleThursday · 16/06/2016 23:54

And if you hadn't been ringing round the hospitals and happened to find him you still would be sitting at home with your DS none the wiser? What a wanker.

AMR123456 · 16/06/2016 23:55

I've been following omg what the hell? Is he for real? Good thoughts go to you OP X X

YouAreMyRain · 16/06/2016 23:57

What a cuntless idiot!

So sorry this has happened to you.

HisNameWasPrinceAndHeWasFunky · 16/06/2016 23:58

Wow what a selfish utter wanker.

Sorry for this massive trauma he has put you through OP. he is not your friend.

WineCakeFlowers

passmethewineplease · 16/06/2016 23:59

My god, what an abolsute cock.

You deserve much better OP, your DC does too!

Who does that?!

Thinking of you, is your friend staying the night?

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