DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

for you, OP. There's no real good outcome here, is there? Just hoping for the least worst for you. (Resolution as soon as possible. Honest explanation.)

I assume that's exactly what the OP thought about her husband, too, firesidechat.

You have to be beyond callous to intentionally disappear for 4 days when you have a wife and baby at home.

Hope you're okay OP, and get some answers soon

i was not the chilled type. I did not have children in the home when the person I loved went missing.
but a team of horses would not have held me back from driving the next town over, checking in with the local police, and finding out more about the sighting.

I have just read through this and I'm so sorry for what you are going through, I really hope he comes home soon op

Weekend not everyone has the sort of option. Op has implied she doesn't and so is letting the police handle it

What are you trying to say Out2pasture ? That we are all different?

Hopefully they are both found safe and well.

Very chilled because she's typing to a bunch of strangers looking for support? She could be bawling her eyes out and on the phone to anyone and everyone trying to get answers for all you know.

I can't comprehend any of this. I'd have been beside myself when he wasn't back for tea on Monday. I'd certainly not be able to sleep! I would've asked to speak to him myself when friend called to pass on the message that he would be late - I'd find the chinese whispers method of communication really, really off. If my own DP did this I was would be quite certain he was dead, hospitalised or had had a complete breakdown. It would be beyond out of character and if he was alone then this is what I would be assuming, but he's seemingly got company. I think I would've broken into the friends house myself. Can you contact whoever sighted them directly?

If he is indeed alive and well I don't see how you can do anything other than kick him straight out. This is unspeakably disrespectful and really fucking odd.

As others have said there's no good outcome to this. Either he is incapacitated in some way - in which case why would friend be covering for him unless he's bumped him off himself or he is a complete cunt of a man who thinks this is an acceptable way to behave? Nothing makes any sense though OP. None of it.

I don't buy the closet homosexual theory. Surely if you were gonna peg it with your secret lover you'd at least take your essentials with you and you certainly wouldn't pretend you were coming home if you had no intention of doing so!

You do seem a bit passive OP. I hope you have some support with you

Have you told your family about this? What have they said?
My family would be so mad I mean honestly my dad would be out hunting him down

My heart goes out to you. I really hope there could be some decent explanation to all this. It's the not knowing that is the worst.

Hope you hear something soon! Try to look after yourself, eat if you can x

This all sounds very strange OP.My DH is a Police Officer he can't understand why anyone in the force would have told you not to make a missing persons report.

Not sure what you've already done but if you share a picture of your DH on facebook,say what he was wearing(if you can remember)how long he's been missing and what area you think he was last in and you make it public on Facebook people can share it all over the place.I've shared missing reports(people looking for missing loved ones)on Facebook for lots of people I don't know so have lots of my friends and family.It's a good way of reaching hundreds of different people on tons of different places.Some of them that have been shared have helped find people on there as well.

I hope you and your DS are okay and I hope friends and family are helping to look for your DH and helping to support you both.

Please try to eat and sleep, you are no good to the baby if you can't function properly

Bloody hell love, I hope you get some answers soon

Just... for you, OP.

The good news is that your OH and his friend aren't dead from an overdose in friend's house, but walking around somewhere. (Bet he stinks, too, after these days of wearing the same nix... )But that's his choice, for whatever reason as is his not contacting you. Christ! I've sent a text from a strangers mobile before now when I've not had mine with me more than once. Never been refused, either.

All good thoughts with you and your baby, hope you don't have to wait long before you hear something. X

Yes I was wondering that too coconutty

Any news OP? Sending you strength at such a shitty time. Some people are so fuckin selfish - been through a similar thing with a parent before

Been following this thread all day. Very odd.....

Where in the UK are you - can we help? Can we share the page, help raise awareness?