DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

How awful for you. If that sighting is genuine he is an absolute arsehole for putting you through this

Hope you get some news soon HeadWrecked26.

Assuming the DH knew the full extent of the OP's anxiety, to the point of her thinking he might leave her, he is an unthinking unfeeling arsehole of the highest order to just disappear without so much as a decent message.

Especially as he is with someone, this doesn't point to any kind of illness/injury/breakdown/inability to get home. And the OP is in the UK FFS, there's no such thing as not being able to get home or be in contact.

OP I would seriously be getting legal advice about finance, divorce, and supervised access only to the DC. Anyone who can disappear with no consideration is not trustworthy to be alone with his child.

Sending you hugs

His friend isn't working, is he, and your husband doesn't have his wallet. How on earth would they be managing for money?

I don't think the sighting can be relied on as 100% accurate. Sadly

Imperial unfortunately, in the OP's position I would be assuming that my partner was involved in drugs of some sort...taking and/or selling. Something pretty full on like ice.

Money isn't always a massive issue for some people....a friend who isn't working can still be in possession of plenty.

I'd also be suspicious of the two men's relationship at this point.

he was seen yesterday strolling through a town without a care in the world!!

Agree rain.

Oh fgs, wild speculation is not helping anyone. Gay drug dealers?!

Gay drug dealers???!

At least you know they haven't been in a fight or anything like that, OP. That must be reassuring.

What kind of man is his friend? Do you know any of his family or friends?

"If I went missing, came back then discovered DH had been looking into divorce I'd be pretty heartbroken." anyone who goes out for a couple of hours, fails to come home and then gets a mate to text that he'll be home at teatime the next day, doesn't get in contact again and is seen strolling casually around a different town is nothing but a dick.

This is the UK. There is no such thing as not being able to get in contact. If he's in a town there will be shops, police stations, post offices, all places with access to telephones and even phone charging points. This isn't the 3rd world where people actually can be cut off from loved ones.

The only excuse for being out of contact at this point would be if he was either dead or unconscious.

Well it might sound dramatic but given what's been said. Surmising stuff is natural. Neither gay people nor drug dealers are particularly uncmmon.

If this was me and someone told me DH and his mate were blatantly wandering around a nearby town together after putting me through this shit I'd be packing the DC off to Grandma, filling the car with petrol and going out to look for the bastard.

wannabe We don't know for sure it was him in the other town.

I think the OP is being very wise to wait to hear where he is first etc, and cross all other bridges later.

needascarf why the confused face??

I hope you're bearing up op.

Do you know anyone who knows his friend and could contact for you? Or DM them yourself on FB, what's app- which will tell you when friend was online if you can get his number. And you'll know if messages have been read.

Me too Weekend. I do find the op's posts very chilled in the circumstances, but my husband would have to be dead or very disturbed to disappear for 4 days without a word.