DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

I think this friend is covering for your DH, they are possibly not together but friend told his mate of the 'sighting' to placate you/put you off the scent. What a total coward if so. Hope you hear from him soon.

Just a thought, OP: Does the friend's friend actually know your DH? Could he have seen the friend with another bloke and everyone has assumed it was your missing OH but was in fact someone else? Or could the FOAF be completely mistaken and neither of them are the missing two? Until there is more information you cannot be sure.

If he has done a runner he has chosen a particularly cruel way to go about it.

This is awful. OP I hope he comes back soon and if he has just been an arsehole I hope you give him hell.

I'm fine thank you to those who've asked. Not eating/drinking/sleeping much but I'm fine. And baby is perfect
If this turns out to be him leaving I'll be fine on my own. I have savings that only I have access too and the joint account is Mainly used just for bills etc, so even if he chose to empty it it wouldn't leave me with nothing.

My gut tells me he was being a dick and did go on a bender or something and ended up quite far from home maybe and he's got himself into a situation he's struggling to get out of such as not being able to get home with no cash etc etc. And is now being sheepish and doesn't know how to face the music.
That's my instinct anyway.

There's been no argument that could cause this only minor ones such has who's turn it is to do the washing up!
When he left all was fine. Said where he was going, gave me a kiss and off he went. Even on the call later that night he was fine, ended the call with I love yous and said he'd be home later on.

It makes no sense that the DH would just be off somewhere with the friend where he could be spotted by mutual friends.

Given the OP's previous posts on the thread saying that she thought the friend's text was dH's immature way of telling her he was leaving her, coupled with his staying out regularly overnight (regardless of whether he was in contact) would imply that perhaps there is more to this that the OP hasn't wanted to say on this thread.

It seems blatantly obvious that this wasn't a good, loving relationship. Even in the OP she stated that he adored his DS but made no reference to their relationship iyswim.

I wonder if this isn't as unexpected as the OP wants to believe.

I've been feeling for you all day OP. It is just bloody cruel on his part if he just can't face coming home after a bit of a bender.

There is no excuse for it.

I hope you hear something definite soon.

WannaBe you're totally off the mark there. He doesn't stay out regularly at all Ive just said that when he does stay out there's always been contact.
I didn't think I needed to declare our loving relationship if I'm honest. So I didn't. I mentioned DS and not us because it's anxiety making me think he's left and I know even when I'm anxious that DH adores our son but the anxiety makes me believe that I'm not a person anyone could love/like/be with so my first thought was being dumped.
But that's as far into my own MH as I'd like to go to be honest. I can't see explaining it further would be beneficial

what do your family and friends think about it all?

Just read your whole thread, OP, and want to add even more support & love for you
I'm very impressed by your intention to cross one bridge at a time - I hope he realises what a strong woman you are, & somehow makes amends for what he has done to you.

she said a few posts up what she feels has happened

There are very few scenarios that would explain this that don't result in your OH being a moron.

Hope you're okay.

Like what changesofmind?

The thing is, even if he didn't want to face the music, surely he could have the decency to let you know he was alive. Either directly or by getting in touch with a mutual friend or family member.

Nice, good people don't abandon their family without a backward glance for four days. I know you don't want to hear that but someone who can leave their wife and child with no idea of their whereabouts for FOUR days is not someone I would even consider taking back. It's awful.

Hope he turns up soon

op ive been following your thread and just wanted to say

1. i'm glad it sounds as though he is safe and well
2. i sincerely hope u r doing ok and getting through this with lots of support on real life.

This must be so awful for you OP, I hope you get some answers soon xx

Do you mind me asking what age he is OP?

I'm wondering if he is very young to be so irresponsible?

You don't need to explain yourself OP. What he has done (if it is intentional in anyway) is completely out of order.

Just know that you have people here that care and are thinking of you.

So many posters (including op) surmising that he may have lost his wallet and "not be able to get home". . How is this even remotely possible?
Would any normal human being decide to simply stay and set up home where they'd pitched up because they hadn't the money to get home?
From the next bloody town?
It's outlandishly bizarre.
Hope it turns out as well as it can, op. But the fact that he asked his mate to give you a message (!) when he was already over 24 hours late would kill it for me.

I think the OP was just trying to hope for the best molly. It must be a really confusing time for her to say the least.

I cannot see any possible explanation that is in any way forgivable. Unless he was abducted by aliens.

He left his wallet at home molly