DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

I hope you hear from him Asap OP, what a worry 💐

Yes I suppose if the police can't tell you if they have seen the friend ( as I guess they couldn't break his confidentiality), op could always go round to his house herself just to check?
I was really hoping he'd have turned up by now.lots of love to you OP...

I was afraid to write what cousin wrote but it had crossed my mind. I'm glad you involved the police OP and hope you hear something soon. In the meantime I hope you have access to cash and important paperwork so you are able to manage.

What are the police advising? They have experience of this sort of thing, so are they saying that its still likely that he'll just turn up? Have they asked for his family's contact details?

The friend should know where he is/ was until Monday, so are the police looking for the friend too?

I really hope you find out where he is soon x

I'm no doubt stating the obvious but I assume you've been ringing the friend's phone and DH's?

I know the friend said DH's phone had died but he could have charged it up somewhere by now?

I reckon they've both gone off on a jolly.

Do you know where the friend lives? Can you go round (or send someone else if he knows what you look like) and see if he answers the door? Ring his phone with your number withheld or from a different number? I also think it's possible that he isn't with this friend at all.

HAS HE RETURNED?

A jolly for five days and no contact rainbow?

Can't imagine what you're going through OP. I'd be utterly frantic.

A couple of things are bothering me.
I'm really not understanding how the police can say they're certain that your DH wasn't at his friends house if they haven't spoken to the friend and been inside. I'm reading it as if nobody answered the door when they called there. I know they can't just go into someone's house, that's not my point. My point is that surely they can't be 'certain'.
Have they given you any advice about what to do next?

Also, is it usual for your DH to leave his wallet at home? Would he just have taken some cash out with him instead do you think?

have you called the helpline here ? for advice?
www.missingpeople.org.uk/#

I don't understand the police thing.

If they can definitively state that he's not at the friend's house, then they must have been there. Why couldn't/wouldn't they tell the OP if the friend was there himself?

OP, did you ask them?

friend doesn't work.....maybe he lives in a shared house/hostel etc? police could be certain that way

The police can trace his phone, can see where he was before the phone died

original op says he went to friends at 6pm sunday.....what did he go there to do?

I don't think they can dolly. Even if they were willing too, which I doubt

There are lots of national and local missing person pages on FB. I'd suggest blitzing those with his photo as well.

The OP has already stated she has circulated the information on social media.

I do hope he turns up OP

Dobbybono1, no need to shout at the OP. If you read the thread you would see that OP was on here around an hour ago and her DH had not returned at that point.
The OP is on here to get support not for your entertainment so please use some manners.

OP, I hope you hear some news soon.

I hope he turns up soon OP

God OP I've just rtft hoping for a resolution! So sorry you still haven't found him. Hope there's a simple explanation x

Unfortunately I know from experience that they can trace the phone. At least to the nearest tower

I hope you hear something soon. How worrying and puzzling. It does rather sound as though the friend might not be with him though and is just covering for him, which does at least imply he is alive. I hope you hear something soon.

Oh op I hope he turns up safe!

What are the police advising?
Do you have a laison officer? The police legally have a procedure to follow that includes lots of detailed investigations, including interviewing the family, and colleagues, asking you for photographs, and searching your home, searching the friends, home, .

content.met.police.uk/Site/missingpersons

The police don't seem to be escalating this at all.
I don't understand this situation