DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Small, thanks, I'm thinking that it's unlikely he went out without any, so that's why I wondered if the police could tell.

Well he must be sleeping and eating somewhere... And he has no money to fund this.

"OP, have they broken into the house? They can at least tell you that, can't they? Otherwise, how can they be certain he isn't there?" of course they can't tell the OP whether they've broken into the house. It's not the OP's property and they need very valid reasons to just break into someone's house. But tbh it's most likely that the friend is/was there and has been able to confirm to the police that the DH isn't there. The police don't have to disclose anything about the friend since the OP has no connection with him and he is not a missing person.

As for bank cards, if the DH was planning to go somewhere and the friend has been used as an alibi to text the OP at a given time, then he may either A, have a bank account the OP doesn't know about, or B, have withdrawn cash over a period of time to cover his going wherever he's gone.

Hobbies. Are there any like fishing ? Something like that? Somewhere he would go to escape ?

Also, without wanting to think the worst - have you called around hospitals?

I am really feeling for you OP. Please try and keep strong. It is just an awful situation.

Hope he turns up safe and well

I know you have stated that DH is NC with his family but it might be a good idea to contact them in case he turns up there Also if you are spreading the search on facebook there is a chance they might see it and, estranged or not, it will be a shock to learn their relative is missing.

There isn't really much else you can do. Do you have anyone who could stay over with you, or who you and DS could stay with, just so you don't feel so helpless?

Hope he reappears soon.

Oh how worrying for you op.
Hopefully they've just got carried away and the friend is paying for everything.
Have you declared him officially missing with the police yet? It's not an over reaction if this is out of character.
I hope you hear from him soon.

This is worrying if it's unusual for your dh to disappear like this. Hope he shows up soon.

Is the friend subject to a missing person report?

Really hope you hear positive news soon

Yes OP contacted work and he's not there. They said they'd let her know if he turns up or makes contact.

OP, what do you know about this friend? Where did they meet?

OP said she'd checked the hospitals at the very start of the thread

Another thought - apologies if it's way wide of the mark - but does he have any strong political or religious or ideological views? Any chance he might have decided to pursue something along those lines and has managed to justify to himself abandoning you and your ds for something he passionately believes in?

Hope he's home soon op

Op I hope he turns up safe & well.

My dad disappeared for a week when we were young but in his case it turned out to be on an alcohol binge.

I hope there's some explanation.

the friend doesn't work.....so doubt he's got money to pay for anything either

Is his friend still missing? Has his friend's family contacted police too?

It might be worth going round to the freind's house and seeing if he is there now. If nothing else, the friend might be able to confirm to you that he's alive.

Everything crossed.

Oh no I hope he comes home soon x

So it was 9pm on Sunday night you last spoke to your dh? And the friend relayed a message on Monday afternoon? No wonder you're worried, I hope this is resolved soon OP.
Do you know this friend at all? And was it just the two of them on Sunday evening?