DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Do you have access to his online banking?

I know you said he hasn't got a bank card, but you can usually withdraw in branch if he has ID.

I'm assuming the friend is also missing.

I'm pleased to hear the police are taking it seriously.

If you don't mind going public I'd suggest you blitz social media, facebook and twitter are great for getting the message out, local to me there are often missing people posts shared and the reach is really good.

Do you want to say what part of the country you're in? Local posters could help by spreading the word on their own facebooks.

I really don't think he will have gone to France, that's an odd thing to suggest imo, people don't go for a night out with little money and no passport and randomly decide to leave the country to go to an event that have no accomodation or tickets for

You need to find him somewhere on CCTV and track his movements forward, do you have any known place that he was at o Sunday?

Good luck

In your position I don't know whether I'd be angry or worried OP.

I had an exbf disappear for a week once but as we didn't live together it was less worrying. He was having MH problems at the time and had gone to ground at a friends house.

What is v odd on this case is that it is noth of them which makes me more inclined towards the selfish arse than mishap line of thinking.

But even selfish arse is a very unpalatanle thought. Who wants to have dc with someone who would do this for no good reason.

I hope he turns up.spon so you can stop worrying and then get on with the process of kicking his arse because really in this day and age 'my phone died' is no excuse for being nc.

What a horrible situation

or he's too chicken to come home now

Um...? So what's his alternative - leaving his wife worried sick about him being a missing person? Seriously has he done this before or something... 'too chicken' is kind of an odd attitude for him to have unless he done this disappearing act in the past - surely he'd be frantic to contact you, from anywhere ringing the landline from a pub, handing himself into a station, pretty much anything other than 'too chicken.'

You must be sick with worry, but well done to you for appearing so calm & collected.

If this happened to me I don't think I'd be coping half as well as you are!

@RivieraKid If I was in a similar situation I'm sure I would be finding all sorts of ways to rationalise the situation is such a way that I can continue to think positively. Whether there was a past history of this kind of thing or not I would seek out explanations which could be plausible.

I sincerely hope that he and his friend are safe and well and that they turn up very soon.

I realise you may not want to advertise that he has gone missing but given the length of time it may be an idea to post something of FB along the lines of - 'if anyone sees my DH could you please call or message me' and make it a public post. If you tag his name then his friends, that aren't yours, will see it as well and someone may contact you.

Can't imagine what you're going through OP. Hope he is found safe & well soon .

Riviera I'm just clutching at straws and tell myself anything that means my husband is alive and well when really there's. Part of me thinking he must be dead. I have honestly no idea what his options are right now or his thinking process I'm just trying convince myself he's fine.
He does not have form for disappearing for days on end at all. At most he's gone out and been home the next morning and has always kept In contact when ever that happens

Do be honest I'm not coping greatly but im trying to plod on for my DS. I've had my crying fit and jumbled rant to a friend whilst DS was sleeping. Just now trying to stay as positive as possible

What an odd situation. I think it is probable that he has done something daft and is now embarrassed but hope you find out soon either way.

Sorry just to add I've put posts on social media and haven't had much response yet but people are saying they'll keep an eye out and ask around also

Well I have to say it's a relief he's not dead from carbon monoxide poisoning.
I hope something comes to light soon. Where in the country are you roughly (don't answer if you don't want to, I won't push it)

OP, have they broken into the house? They can at least tell you that, can't they? Otherwise, how can they be certain he isn't there?

Do you know the family of his friend? I'm assuming he's also still unaccounted for. Might be worth joining forces with them?

Does he normally stay out overnight, OP? Is it possible there's another woman? How much do you trust his friend?

ooh! have you tweeted?

also police tweet pics of missing people regularly- not just kids

it can get all over the country pretty quick

Has anyone put a photo and missing person appeal on Twitter? Once people start to circulate the information it can reach out far more than you'd imagine.

I always feel for relatives of people who go missing without any explanation.

sorry if it's already been covered but will the police tell you if his bank card has been used?

I am not sure how the police work on an adult going missing if the adult isn't considered vulnerable etc?

Cross posted there Mudda

toomuch he doesn't have his bankcards. OP has them in the house. Unlesz he has another bc in which case OP won't know about it.

I hope you hear something soon

Oh how worrying this is for you OP. I hope he turns up soon and gets a right bollocking

I'm just desperately hoping he's just been a git and now feels silly, like everyone else reading this, I suppose :( I'm glad the police are being supportive and taking this seriously. Really hoping you have good news soon

You poor thing, such a worry for you. Agree with Fetchez - are you able to contact any of the friends family? Are there any other friends that the two of them may have met with on the first evening who might have an idea where they are. Are you having to go in to work yourself? Do you have family who could come and stay with you so that it's not just you and baby, someone to give you a hug and make you a cup of tea?