FindingNewMo - Part V

[MoKoKo]

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If the gift cards are for dept stores then I would accept these but save these for Christmas or birthday shopping or for when you need to replace bedding/household things. In the meantime go to charity shops and your preferred shops.

Mamie that's a good idea.....what if he wants specifics on what has been purchased?

I very badly want to reply that gift cards are not accepted as a form of enforced child maintenance payments so he'd better just get used to paying cash from now on.

Actually...maybe that's why he's stalling his return - he's on the run

But good ideas, thank you. If he asks to see receipts later it will be too late, I won't have kept them.

I think I would have some fun with it!
Maybe choose a store that does adult clothing, get the kids what they need anyway then when the gift card arrives blow it in something frivolous like a new handbag!
It really depends how much the dealing with him will upset you!

Haha, he will definitely smell a (fictitious) rat if I say John Lewis! I'm taking my time with a reply. Actually think I just want to be honest with him and say can you please stop these games, your time is nearly up and this won't last forever, and say it in a calm way. That's what I think I ought to do. Keep the upper hand and all and be reasonable, unlike some. Now to word it calmly and in a civil manner...

After ordering the cards of course!!! Yes.

Do they refund purchases made with gift card?
If so, buy things for kids with his fucking gift cards, then return them & get the cash. I agree it's a slog, but at least you get the cash, & can save it or spend it how & where you want.
You can even scan him a copy of the receipt, before redeeming the lolly
:o)

So you respond Next, M&S or John Lewis, if he insists it's a shop that sells children's clothes only (do such places exist in the high street?) say whoever, you buy the clothes, you take them back the next day and you get a refund. I guess what he wants is for any refund to go back on the gift card so that you can't convert the money into cash. Easy-peasy, sell the card to a friend for cash.

Fab idea Mix (as always )

Mo you should do this most definitely (just check that they will refund in cash if bought by gift cards) and then buy where you like.

Like you said, wait until you've got these cards and then send that email (remember it's more evidence of his twatishness).

KOKO

No you they won't refund you cash, it goes straight back on the gift card again or a refund card (I've tried). But selling to friend is a possibility, even out of principle. Even if I ended up buying stuff in that store.

I know this is hard but why play this game?

It makes my blood boil and I have nothing to do with it!!

You just need to tell him you are now separated and you want X paid in cash to your bank or you will chase him via CMS.

I have followed your thread from the beginning and i know you have reasons to drag it out but really this is totally ludicrous! (and creepy)

I know Donners. I know x 100. It won't be for much longer. If he continues to delay his return, then I will just keep going with enforcement abroad.

Shit though. I don't think the holiday is going to happen now either. We were going to do two things, a longer one and a short break. Looks like I can only do the short break now. Hey ho. I'm upset but what can I do. My fault for getting carried away with thoughts of the DC running around on the beach.

What's particularly gob-smacking is that he's treating Mo as if she were some kind of absolute spendthrift who can't be trusted with so much as a single penny of hard cash - yet doesn't make the 'obvious' leap that he could buy these bloody clothes online if he's that fussed. But he isn't - he couldn't give a shit if the children have some clothes, it's purely about reminding Mo that she is beholden to him.

Yes. I can look after three children single handedly seven days a week for seven months without any issues. Yet can I be trusted to buy them clothes for £150? No.

I will buy gift vouchers from you at face value from some shops. Happy to do so, if it helps. We live really remotely but get to the big city in August so I am always ready to splurge. But, I have big kids so would need to be in shops that do all ages.

M&S could be an option, as they do kids stuff/unfiorms/household/adult & food.
H&M ?
Debenhams
J Lewis
I agree though, you can't buy a pack of 3 pr of socks on offer in X store, but can I pair in Y designated store for the same amount. its ludicrous.
This is all about not wanting you to save up any real "cash" of course. I doubt it's even about the actual sum. it's about knowing you have nothing, therefore beholden & controllable. Bastard

Mo, I've not commented for ages, but have been following and cheerleading in my head. How about making an online shopping list at eg next, and sending it to him telling him the kids have grown out of x y and z, and these are the proposed replacements - then he can order them and have them sent direct. you dont spend any money, he has no excuse to say he doesnt like your choice of shop or whatever, and the kids get the stuff?

Donners...your use of the word creepy has really stuck with me! It is, isn't it. He is a creep. A sad, pathetic, lonely creep with no other way to make himself feel superior.

Well I told him a couple of stores and he's ordered the cards. I saw some bargains in a different store while I was out today and bought some nice things for the kids. When you're restricted you don't find the best deals, it's just common sense. I will be buying things for the sake of it too, when I use the cards, because I might not even like the stuff that much. But it's so not about that.

Yolo - I don't want to give him more details than he needs, because if I do, he will just nitpick and make me even madder. Like the time he went OTT over the uniform shop, and quibbled over every item and criticised my choices.

Roseformeplease: that is LOVELY of you, thank you, but I can't accept any offers from anyone. Things are better than they were because I have a bit more cashflow, even though I'm still living on "his" budget as much as I can so I don't eat into my future fund. Plus MN will probably jump in now with a warning about offering cash to strangers!

Not strangers, Mo, online Pom Pom girls with rattles and GoMo cheers!

You know Mo you will feel so much better when you don't have to bother with him.

He just reminds me of my ex so much. But now i get NOTHING from him there is nothing to lose and you'll feel like that too. You will be fine without "his" money.

We have nothing right now really but i just don't care (no gift cards even ha ha) and he still tries to wind me up through the children but eventually theres not much else they can do to you!! (and it's not that bad honestly!!)

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Bless you Donners, now me moaning about gift cards makes me feel oh so ungrateful
I'm full of admiration for you, you know I am.
There is that though, to think about whenever he ruffles me: the kids and I do marvellously well without him.

no sorry Mo i didn't mean it like that - i just meant you will manage without him!! You definitely have nothing to be grateful of! You totally should be moaning about those sodding gift cards!!

Yes, keep the moral high ground no matter how tempting it si to do otherwise.

Sell the gift cards; I expect if you can't find someone to buy them then they'll go on ebay. Worth a try if it comes to it.

I am with Donners, though. We're hardly strangers are we (well, Ok, I recently namechanged, but hey). I'd be fine buying a gift card from you if we have whatever shop it is here (rather restricted) and what the time limit is.

How are you Mo ?