That Sunday Feeling!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Welcome to to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends from Onwards and Upwards will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hi WTAFF I am glad you are home safely.
Glad you had a great time. Not so good having to go back to work so soon with jet lag!
I think it is good that you have decided to see a Counsellor. I find that mine helps me a lot. Good luck with it.

I am okay. I still miss my old dog and still cry at times. My young dog is a little lost too.

Well WTAFF I better go and get my dog out for her walk.
I hope your jet lag wears off soon.

Have a good day xx

Good morning Kirk.
My visit to the Counsellor was fine.
Plenty of tears when I told her about my dear old dog.
I hope that we are able to move on hopefully before 2020!
I am glad that you are liking your nice single do as you like life.

Have a good day xx

Look Hush what I found in the card shop!

That's great Pisco. How appropriate!xx

Hi Hush,
Just taking a break from the massive clear out! I got everything out from the wardrobes / drawers and went through every item. Two trips to the tip, three bags to the charity shop later, it's nearly all back, nice and tidy and sorted!
Still got a few more bits to clear and then I can start making it all look nice.
I'll never be a Marie Kondo, that's for sure, but it is starting to come together.

How's your space under the bed looking?
xx

Hi Louisa,

Wow! You have been busy!
I am glad that it has really started to come together.
I have failed I am afraid.
I have felt really rotten today.
Will try and motivate myself tomorrow.
I hope you can relax this evening?
xx

Hi Hush. Did you have a better day today?

Hi madame,

My day was okay thank you. I did gardening to keep my mind occupied.
How are you doing?
Just a quick message as I need to vacuum through.

Have a nice evening xx

Hi everyone.

How are you Hush? Hope you are ok.

It's been a week tomorrow since I dropped my daughter off at university. The week hasn't been too bad but the weekend looms ahead with no plans other than housework and the library!

Should have had a house viewing last evening but they didn't turn up. They have sold so must have been through the whole viewing process. They must realise that you get in from work, rush around making sure everything is tidy etc. To just not turn up is so rude. Obviously they weren't really interested. I know I keep repeating myself but I wish it would sell. Then I'd have something to focus on - decorating to do at weekends etc.

Plan to catch up on some tv with a glass of wine tonight.

Have a good evening x

Hi ThankGod. I hope your weekend is going okay?
I am glad you managed to get through your week.
Sorry that you were messed about by the people who were meant to view your house. How rude!
I really hope you are successful soon.
I hope you enjoyed catching up on your tv prigrammes last night with a glass or two of wine.
I went to a friends for some wine and a chat.
I had a long day as I had to go on the train to pick up my sons car and then drive it back 100 mikes.
I better go as I am trying to get housework done.
I hope you have a nice evening.
Take care xx

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Hi Hush and everyone.

I hope you're all well. Enjoy your evening! Xx

Thank you WTAFF.
I hope you had a nice evening?xx

Fine thanks Hush. I'm just watching a bit of an odd programme on lobsters. I didn't realise that they would eat each other!

Hi WTAFF. I am glad that you are fine. Sometimes TV programmes can be so informative!
Take care xx

How are you doing Hush? Xx

Hi WTAFF.
How are you doing?
I am very mixed up as there have been some developments. So my head is all over the place. I cannot really say anymore at the moment.
Have a good day xx

Hello all, may I join you? 4 weeks today since my DH told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me and he doesn't fancy me anymore. 20 minutes later he cleared his wardrobe and left the house. Runnaway Husbands perfectly describes my situation, I had no idea and yes he was having an affair which I found out about last week but tbf I'd read 'The Script' so I kinda knew the craic. I am still in shock and going for my first Counselling session tomorrow. I've lost loads of weight, am suffering from anxiety because of it. We were together 20 years.

Hello bibbidee my love, my, what a cowardly man to do such a runner like that without an explanation. I'm glad you've read the "script", you know what rubbish he's going to spout next. I think we've all had the" I love you, but I'm not in love with you" speech.

Doesn't make it any easier to come to terms with though. You're still in shock, look after yourself and try to eat and keep hydrated, just little bits is better than nothing. Counselling is an excellent idea, get all the thoughts that are whirling around your head out in the open.
4 weeks is still very early on, do you have children together? Are you still in the family home? See a solicitor to get an idea of what you are entitled to and what you need to do.

Hi Hobbit, yes DD 14. I am a carer to DS 19 with mental health issues. Still living in the family home.

STBXH wants me out in to rented initially, then to work full time with a mortgage whilst I look after DD and he takes responsibility of DS whilst he continues to work full time. Sounds fair NOT!! I am a migraineur so working part time, caring for my DS and DD is more appropriate and sensible so I don't know what planet he is on but he is clearly in the affair 'fog'. I really believed he was stressed at work (because that is what he said) and I was looking after our kids and working part time but he was clearly more stressed concealing his sworded affair.

This experience has been the worst in my entire life, a living nightmare, relentless. I wake up and it's still there. I have questioned my take on the past? Was it real? What is in my future? Yes I've consulted a solicitor and things are slowly happening. I wish the anxiety would 'do one' because it's really affecting me, I'm so mentally tired by about 8pm. Thanks for listening.

Well, what "dear" H wants is irrelevant, you have more than enough on your plate, never mind looking for rented accommodation.

It is overwhelming this divorce shit, it is in your head all the time, and at times it's difficult just to put one foot in front of the other.
He has responsibilities to consider, to his children first and foremost, and also to you, their mother.
Can you make appointment with your gp? If the anxiety is affecting your health, < it did mine> they can help you. I'm sure some of the other ladies on this thread can offer advice and a shoulder to lean on. They have been and are still on the same path as you.

Welcome to my thread Bibbidee.
I am so sorry that this has happened to you.
We are a very helpful lot on here.
Always here to listen and give advice where we can.
I am glad you are going to Counselling tomorrow. I find it so helpful.
My dh left me at Christmas after 30 years of marriage.
I lost lots of weight too. I just had little things to eat when I felt like it.
I used to make a batch of sausage rolls and ate one every now and again.
The ladies on here have been such a help to me. It is much easier to type your thoughts and feelings on here plus it took the heat off my RL family and friends.
Hobbit has given some excellent advice. She has been a great help to me.
Please take care of yourself xx

Thank you Hush. I'm on anti anxiety meds but they're not helping. As soon as I wake up the anxiety is like:

'HELLOO REMEMBER MEEEEE!!!!'

So relentless and unwanted.

Good morning Bibbidee.
I am sorry that the medication is not helping.
My doctor wouldn't put me on anything because of my other medication.
I think that the Counsellor will be able to help you with your anxiety.
My Counsellor and the ladies on her told me just to deal with just a few hours at a time. If you try to think ahead it really causes anxiety and panic.
I hope you are managing to eat and drink a little.
Thinking of you.
Take care xx

I cannot get rid of this anxiety. I'm really starting to get concerned now. I have felt anxious every day since the 28 August when my DH abandoned me. It is affecting my appetite, job, home life, finding it now difficult to leave the house I feel so sick. Went for counselling on Thursday and a Neuro appt. neuro thinks I've got something called Charia Malformation so this is making me massively anxious as well now. I need an MRI to confirm diagnosis. The counsellor said I was suffering Trauma, Shock and Bereavement. Honestly I feel so bloody I'll mentally and physically it's draining me. Anyone got any suggestions?