That Sunday Feeling!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Welcome to to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends from Onwards and Upwards will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hello everyone!

Monday morning again. It's horrible here in the north east. Absolutely pouring down.

How are you doing Hush? Xx

Well after weeks of thinking I'm doing better I just keep crying!
It started last week as A level results got closer. I was worried that my daughter wouldn't have done as well as was expected and that this would be one more thing I would never forgive him for. She did well and is off to university in just under 4 weeks. This has me so scared. I'm trying so hard but I'm still so lonely most of the time. I'm filling my time as much as I can and my friend has been coming round each week but with my daughter gone I will be alone virtually all of the time.
I go to Pilates which I enjoy and I've signed up for another soft furnishings course. I'm going out again next week with my friend but I can't expect her to be my sole source of friendship and the only person I have to socialise with. But it's a catch 22 situation. I can't make new friends if I don't go out. But because I only have one friend to socialise with I don't go out enough to meet new people!
I keep telling myself it's early days and that things will get better but it's hard to stay positive.
I suppose I will keep having these ups and downs but I have been trying to present a positive attitude to everyone.
Sorry for the pity fest.

Good evening WTAFF.
Sorry that you had horrible weather today.
It has been good here.

I had a disaster today I damaged one of my front tyres and they are very expensive! Will have to get a new one.
I went to my Counsellor this morning which was fine.
Sat in the car park waiting for my son to finish work. He is running late. Feel really tired tonight.
I hope you are okay?
xx

Hi ThankGod,

I replied to your post and then I lost the lot.
It is really late but I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you.
Will be back tomorrow.
Take care.
Good night xx

Hello everyone. Hope you are all well.
On holiday I saw a great t-shirt a girl was wearing with the slogan
'Onwards and Upwards. Nearly There'. Maybe a thread title for us in hopefully the not too distant future.
ThankGod - it's not a pity fest at all. It's a genuine problem. Loneliness is crushing. But you really are doing all the right things and hopefully it will lead on to more. Keep at it lovely, who knows what the future might bring.
Take care everyone x

Hi Pisco.
Glad to have you back.
I hope you had a good holiday?
Thanks for the suggestion for the next title of our thread.

You are right about loneliness being crushing. I think that ThankGod is doing all the right things too.This is a really hard road. Hopefully we will all be happy with our lives again!

Take care.

Good night all xx

Hi all. The loneliness you are feeling ThankGod is something I am feeling at the moment. I'm still away and struggling at times. I miss my DH!

I think that when it's time to start a new thread, we could direct it to those mumsnetters who are coming to terms with the loss of a long term relationship and that it takes a lot of time to heal, with each day bringing different feelings. I think it's important for women like us to realise that we are not weak because we haven't moved on and found ourselves new men or sorted out all our finances or still have feelings for the men who have rejected us. We are women who are dealing with the bereavement of an old life and there is no easy way to come to terms with that. We don't need judgement or 'tough love' (until we ask for it ). We just need support from others who are going through what we are.

Hi madame.
I am sorry that you are feeling lonely too.
Especially as you are so far from home.

I do not think that any of us are weak.
We are just doing the best we can with the hand we have been dealt.
One day at a time really.
I have had a hard day emotionally and I felt overwhelmed.
I still do not know how I am going to cope with everything.
The trouble is what other option do I have?

On my thread support is always here for those who need it.

Take care.

Good night xx

Thanks Hush. I'm due home this weekend but honestly feel like there's nothing to come home for.

I'm sorry you've had a bad day. Is there any particular reason or just the situation in general?

Hello madame,

I hope you and your DD have a safe trip home at the weekend.
Please try and look for some positive reasons to come home.

I heard from my solicitor and I think that we are starting to get to the serious part and it frightens me. The unknown is very scary!

Enjoy your day xx

Virtual hand hold Hush xx

Thank you madame x

Hi Hush,

How are you feeling today? Xx

Hi WTAFF.

It is another beautiful day here today.
I hope you have the same.

Still feeling a little overwhelmed but I have to try to get through it.

I hope you are okay, are you doing anything nice over the Bank Holiday weekend?

Enjoy your day.

xx

Good afternoon all,

I hope all my MN friends have a good Bank holiday weekend.
Hope the weather is good for you all.
Not a lot planned. Will just take it as it comes!

Enjoy xx

Hello all, hope you are well. How are you doing Hush?
Madame, have you returned home yet? I hope you've had a good trip away. Does your daughter have any cousins where you've been?
WTAF, how are you? Have you been managing to keep up with your training? I have to admit I've lapsed with mine, but need to get back with it once the children go back to school. I'm dreading it actually, I don't enjoy it at all but I like the results!
Hello ThankGod, do you have any plans for the weekend? I wish I could find a curtain making or dressmaking course where I live, but there are none. I'd like to make some Roman blinds.
Louisa, how's the decorating going? And did you have much success in your garden? All my sunflowers were eaten, the cosmos are bushy but hardly any flowers, and my sweet peas are finally flowering.
Hello Tartan if you're there. Things pretty much the same here.
Hi Kirk, did you have a good holiday? I wasn't too far from you, we could have pumped up our lilos and paddled halfway for a sangria or five!
Kids birthday party this weekend, and that's pretty much it.
Take care everyone x

Hi everyone , now in Southampton taking my 88 yr old nan and mum on a cruise , they are paying, someone said to me last week are you running away doing all these holidays for being 50 , trying to find yourself a new life they said ??? It made me over reflect again,why is this so hard , the sadness , the loneliness ladies, why can't we move on ?? I wish there was a magic wand , he came round Monday to discuss mortgage and I cried and cried to him ! Unrequited love is not a way forward 😢 shall we all go on holiday together lol can you organise it hush for us 😘

How wonderful Kirk! I'd love to go on a cruise, a cougar cruise! Have a bloody good time. I wouldn't say your trying to have a new lifestyle, just grabbing life and opportunities with both hands. Good on you!
It still hurts Kirk, even after all this time. But we'll get there in the end and we'll be more than ok. Have fun lovely xxx

Hi all. In transit at the moment. Arrive home on my wedding anniversary 😣

Pisco - my DD has no cousins unfortunately but is very close to Dsis and DBIL. She was very teary when we left but she has college to look forward to. She got her GCSE exam results when we were away and did very well. Onwards and upwards for her. Just need to try and keep up with her! Xx

Well done on the results MademoiselleHooch! Good girl! Onwards and upwards indeed! Have a good journey back xxx

Hello Hush, Pisco and all
Here we all are on a bank holiday weekend.
The garden has been lovely thank you Pisco and the decorating nearly finished (have had a bit of a break).
Kirk, don't let other people make you feel down - if you get the chance to holiday it's not 'running away', it's breaking out, expanding your horizons, having a good time. TBH, they sound jealous!
Have a good long weekend everyone.

Good morning all!

Thank you Pisco for your post. It is so nice that you mentioned everyone.
I am sort of okay. I have had some real low points again. As we all know that is how it is! I hope you enjoy the kids party.

Enjoy the cruise Kirk. I really hope that you have a great time. Where is the cruise taking you? I am sorry that you were upset again when you saw your ex on Monday. It is still so hard! I am still trying to avoid speaking to mine as all it does is upset me.
Do you think it would be a happy holiday if we all went away together?
I wish I had known you were in Southampton!
Have a great time X

Have a safe trip madame. I am glad that your DD did very well in her GCSE's. I hope she settles in at College. Onwards and Upwards for her. Although you cannot see it yet it will be Onwards and Upwards for you too!
Have a good flight xx

I hope that all my MN friends have a good day xx

Hello louisa,

I am glad your garden has been lovely and that the decorating is nearly finished.
We have a very overcast day here today and the dogs are still waiting to go out!
Woke up feeling depressed this morning as seeing the Divorce forms yesterday made it oh so real! Still I do not really have a choice!

Have a good long weekend xx

Oh hush yes Southampton I could of met you last night as stayed in the city centre going on brittania to not ways , one of my nans lifelong dreams as she is German , so sorry your divorce forms have come hush I could of given you a real hug . To all the other of my Mumsnet friends , we are in this together and just think our loved ones are all ok doing well in GCSEs , doing our gardens and pisco if I don't get off I will make sure as the ships nurse you can all come for a free cruise , just in car park awaiting boarding , lots of love kirk xx

Lol not ways , meant Norway !