That Sunday Feeling!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Welcome to to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends from Onwards and Upwards will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hi WTAFF.

I stayed up to watch the opening ceremony. I enjoyed it.

I hope you enjoy your meal in Newcastle tonight.

Have a good evening xx

Hello. I hope everyone is ok?
I have no pilates today so thought I'd do a quick post to see how everyone is doing.
I've not watched much of the Olympics so far. I remember the last Olympics we watched loads and went and saw the torch as it passed through nearby. Hush I don't know how you managed to stay awake and watch the opening ceremony. It didn't start until midnight did it?
We've now done as much to the garden as we can physically do. It looks very nice. There are still trees and shrubs that could do with cutting down/thinning out but that is beyond us.
I have been keeping busy and enjoyed my first night out last week.
I've signed up for the new software furnishings course that starts in September and I'm off to look for some material this weekend. My next project is to recover a large footstool that is looking a bit old and worn.
I had another counselling session last week and the counsellor says I'm doing well. My next appointment isn't for nearly six weeks and I have a feeling that it might be the last one. How are your sessions coming along Hush?
My daughter gets her A level results next week . I think we are both getting a bit nervous. I hope she has done ok and that what has happened hasn't affected her results.
Enjoy the rest of your evening.

Hello ThankGod.

Good to hear from you.
I have nights when I stay up until all hours. The Olympic opening ceremony didn't start until midnight. I enjoyed it though.
Glad to hear that you are really happy with your garden.
Good you have enrolled for a new soft furnishings course in September. Good luck with recovering your foot stool.
I am trying to make a beach hut themed cake for my friends daughters birthday. It is a while since I have done proper cake icing and I have lost my way a bit!
Glad your counsellor says you are doing well. Sorry you have to wait nearly six weeks for your next session. My counselling went well. I am trying not to cry while I am there but I still do!
Fingers crossed for your daughters A level results next week. I really hope she has done well.

Take care.

Good night xx

Good morning all.
I think that maybe it is time to end my thread as I don't seem to hear from anyone now.
This would be a real shame but maybe that means that all my MN friends are doing well, which is great!
Whatever you are doing please take care and be happy xx

Hi Hush,

I agree that would be a shame. I hope you're doing my ok.

I PM'd you last night as I was thinking about you.

Xxx

Hi Hush. I think you should keep posting for as long as you want. As you can see, you have people who care about you and are here for you as long as you need them xx

Hi WTAFF,

Thank you for your post and your pm.
I am okay thank you.
I have had my Dutch friend to stay for a couple of days and we have laughed and cried. Talked and had drinks. Just really good company. I took her to the airport this afternoon. Which was a bit sad.

I hope you are okay?
Any short breaks planned?

Take care xxx

Hi madame,

Thank you for your post.
I hope you are doing okay?
Thank you for you kindness.

Take care xx

Hi Hush - I'm all right thanks. Just super busy with work.

I watched some of the olympics last night for the first time with my wine and it was much better than expected!

How is your dog?

Xx

Hi WTAFF.
I am glad that you are okay.
Hopefully being super busy at work makes the time pass quickly?
I am glad you enjoyed the Olympics last night with your wine.
I stayed up and watched Andy Murray.
I have really enjoyed the cycling and the rowing.

My dog is a poor old boy. I think within the next couple of weeks I will have to make a horrid decision. Not sure how I will but I think I will have to!

Good night xx

It definitely makes the time pass more quickly!

Good night. Xx

Hi Hushabye

I'd just like to echo the other posters and say don't stop the thread. It's been such a help to you and others - it would be a shame to leave it. I think people dip in and out of posting for many reasons. I find that I'm like that; sometimes I'm on here like an addict and other times I feel I need to step away from the whole internet scene. I often lurk and read posts, especially when I don't feel up to posting myself and I do get a lot of comfort from reading threads both past and present. There are some very interesting "zombie" threads.

I have been meaning to post on my own thread (if I can find it) for quite a long time and will put an update on it in a day or so. There have been various ups and downs since the last time I posted and I'm in a bit of a down at the moment. The decree nisi was pronounced and issued last week and although I'm the one that brought the proceedings, I found it made me incredibly emotional and sad. Have been crying buckets ever since. Have also had another mediation session with a third one in a few weeks.

I still can't believe this is all happening and it's all a bit of a roller coaster still. I have sat and mentally composed post after post, but just not had the oomph to get on and type it up on my thread.

How are you doing with things? Sorry to hear about your poor dog. It's not easy when they get old. Our dog is going to be 13 in October; a good age for a Golden Retriever. STBXH got him as a puppy - I think he had visions of him and his faithful hound tramping over the Downs and stopping in quaint country pubs for glasses of real ale. However, faithful hound turned out to be messy, smelly, undisciplined, terrified of his own shadow and a car refusenik. STBXH lost interest in him after a while and then found him positively irritating. Poor old dog. He's good natured but not very bright - the antithesis of his master

Anyway, Hush, keep posting!

Hola everyone. Hope you are all well.
I know I don't post a lot very often, but I like this thread very much and it's good to know that we're all doing as best we can. You're all a lovely bunch.
Let's hope we can keep it going.
Adios for now ; )
Xxx

Morning Hush and all.
I echo what everyone else has said. I've found your threads so helpful.
Initially I was posting every day, sometimes more than once! But I have tried to keep super busy recently. I check most days to see if there are any new posts but have not been posting myself.
I'm sorry that the time for you to make a hard decision about your dog is getting closer but glad to hear you've had a friend to stay for a few days.
Got to jump in the shower now but wanted to take a moment to post and say hello and let you know that even if we don't post everyday we all check in to see if you have posted and how you are doing.

Good morning WTAFF.

It certainly does make the time pass quickly!
As long as it is not too busy!
Looks like another hot day here on the south coast.
Hope it is good at your end too?

Have a good day xx

Good morning Tartan.

Thank you for your kind message. I am really glad to hear from you.
I am sorry that you are a little down at the moment. I can understand that the decree nisi being issued brought out a lot of emotions. You may have started the proceedings but I am sure this is not what you wanted but were left with no choice! I feel exactly the same. I am waiting to hear from my Solicitor about the same thing.
I hope the next mediation session goes as well as it can.
It is a real roller coaster I still find that my emotions and feelings differ so much from one day to another. Some days I am coping really well and then something happens and I am back in my pit of despair. Seeing or speaking to my husband makes things much worse for me.
I have had my friend to stay from Holland for a few days which has been a real tonic. We laughed and cried and had a few glasses of wine and talked loads. A very special few days. She flew home yesterday and I miss her already.

I am sorry that your Golden Retriever did not meet your STBXH exacting standards! One thing with dogs is that they are always loyal. My old dog has been a great companion. It just seems that it will be another loss when I have to say goodbye. I have to do what is right for the dog though and put my feelings aside.

My Counsellor is really helping me. I still cry at each visit but not so much as I did. My mind is still so mixed up!

Thank again Tartan. I will keep posting. Have a good day.
xxx

Hola Pisco.

Thanks for your message.
It seems that my thread is still needed.
I hope that you are okay?
Have a great day.
xx

Good morning ThankGod. Thank you for your message. It looks as though my thread will survive as it is still needed.
I am not sure how I am going to make the decision about my old dog but I will have to. I feel so sad when I look at him as he looks such a poor thing.

Having my friend here was just such a tonic for me. We get on so well. She is really easy to talk too and she told me that she really believes that I can do this!

I hope that you are okay? When do your daughters results come out? Fingers crossed!

Have a good day xx

Hello again Hush

Yes, it's a horrible time isn't it? As you say, it's not what I wanted but I have no choice. It must be so difficult for you having to see and speak to your "D"H. There are times when I (inexplicably) yearn to see and speak to my STBXH, but I know it would set me right back to the beginning emotionally, and I absolutely know I could not go back there again. Without wanting to sound too dramatic, I really don't think I could make it through a second time

I often sit and wonder if those b&*@@tards ever have a single flicker of guilt or remorse or, indeed, if they have the slightest inkling of what they are putting us through? And for what? Love everlasting at the other end? Off into the sunset together? I just found out yesterday about a colleague whose "D"H has done the same thing and upped and offed for a much younger OW. Another family torn apart and a woman devastated because of a selfish pair of ... there are no words!

I've found, like you, that friends have been an absolute lifeline. They are there for me and listen to me rave and rant and weep. They have buoyed me up and helped me to look ahead and see that my future will not be as grim as I think it is. STBXH will not be in it, but the void will be filled with countless, far nicer and much more worthy and decent people. People who care and whose respect and good opinion I value hugely. Much better than one selfish, entitled middle-aged man. When he dropped the bombshell he said he hoped we could "remain friends". The more time goes by, the more outrageous that statement seems. He hasn't a bloody clue what the word means ... Anyway, keep seeing friends and family; they are the ones who will count in the long run.

I'm off to The Island (if you are South Coast you'll know where I'm going) today to visit a friend I hadn't seen for a long time. I texted her once, out of the blue, in a fit of despair and she got straight back to me and has phoned and texted ever since to see how I am. No mention of the time that has elapsed, just care and concern. Now, that's a friend!

Yes, poor old dog certainly didn't live up to his master's expectations. STBXH started off with this fantasy picture of a master and hound relationship and what it would be like. He bought the hound - £500 - over my protestations and then found over the years that his fantasy was being eroded. The dog was messy, cast hair everywhere, retrieved everything and anything and left a mess in his wake, developed flatulence and crapped all over the garden. STBXH became tired of the dog, found him irritating and I think began to actively dislike him. Didn't turn out to be the dog he thought he should have been, so he was quite happy to abandon him. I now feel some kinship with the dog; our situations have turned out to be quite similar - well, apart from the flatulence and crapping, but give it time

I'd better be off and get ready for my voyage. Take care and keep posting.

Hi all. Haven't really posted for a while as it sometimes seems like so much effort to put my situation down in writing even though I know there is very positive yet gentle support on this thread. So here I am nearly 8 months down the line and not much seems to have changed. My husband is still living in his man cave yet is 'crippled by guilt' and won't see us struggling because of his 'life choices ' I know that this makes me a lot luckier than many on this thread (part of the reason I don't post much I think) but does mean that it is harder to move on because he is still essentially a good man although extremely selfish because of what he has put me and DD through.

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog Hush. My lab is my buddy and I would be devastated if anything happened to him. I just want to see him through this year as it's been such a crap one and unfortunately I don't think it's finished with me yet!

I'm glad this thread is still going. It's so gentle and unjudgemental - very un-mumsnet at the moment 😀

Hello again everyone!

I'm just in from work. I'm surrounded by people who don't really know what they are doing at the moment due to lots of staff changes. So I'm doing a lot of handholding.
Hopefully they will Get into the swing of things quickly!

I'm watching say yes to the dress and holiday shopping online. My life is so rock n roll(!)

How's things today? Xx

Hi everyone I text hush as in menorca at the moment , my 4th holiday in my 50th year , do you think I am trying to run away ?? Lol , we are hush's team and like Madame said just nice ladies , I Am ok , same stuff different time ! He is still playing mind games saying he is leaving job as she is always there then doesn't have the guts 😡 My mortgage is due to be renewed so I will have to meet him ?!?!? Not seen him since April ! Keep posting winter is coming and we will need each other and I too had a lab I lost 2 yrs ago aged 14 yr 😢

Good evening everyone. I wondered where this thread had gone.
I've been abandoned (adult daughter has moved out) which is fine but.... she's taken the dog with her. So I am suddenly feeling the absence of a little friendly furry creature. He was a great improvement on the ex .
I get to dog sit but am trying to decide whether to get my own dog - as I run a business from home the walking and exercise was a real help .
I think that this thread is very representative of real life - small steps. We don't transform our lives over a weekend of shocking revelations. It's up and down - which we can see on this thread. xxx

Good evening Tartan.
It is a horrible time!
I really feel for you. I do not know how these men can do it?
I do not know what they expect from us. They seem to think that we should just accept it and move on. If only it was that easy. I still hurt like hell as I am sure you do as do our other MN friends?
Every time I see or speak to him it sends me backwards. It just freshens everything up.
I am sorry to hear about the position your colleague finds herself in because of another selfish pair.
Friends and family have been an absolute lifeline. Not forgetting our MN friends!
I hope you enjoyed it on the Island today with your friend. That is a real friend. I hope talking with her today has really helped you.

I am sorry that your dog did not meet your STBXH standards. My STBXH bought another dog which I didn't want. When he first left I didn't think I could cope with the two dogs. I told him this and he told me to sell the young dog! I couldn't do that as I love her! As if it is that easy!
Dogs are good company and they make me feel more secure. I am sad that I am going to lose my poor old dog as he has been a real loyal friend.

I really hope you enjoyed your day.
Take care xxx

Hello madame.
It is good to hear from you.
I am sorry that not much has changed in your life since you last posted.
It must be very hard for you to accept?
I am glad that your lab is your buddy.
I really hope that things will improve for you.
Please take care of yourself and your DD.
Good night xx