That Sunday Feeling!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Welcome to to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends from Onwards and Upwards will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Thanks madame.
Have just come back from walking the dogs. They are mucky again!
I hope you continue to enjoy your book.
Enjoy your day xx

Good afternoon ThankGod.
It sounds asthough you have made gains in your life. I know that there are plenty of losses but you seem to be doing things for yourself now.
It is miserable out there. I hope you get to walk your dog.
I am waiting to hear from my sons as I am supposed to be picking up some more of their stuff. I think they are probably still in bed!
Have a good day xx

Afternoon Hush.
I've not walked the dog yet. He hates the rain - wouldn't even go out in the garden earlier. He's also got arthritis in one leg so only has a short walk now otherwise he ends up limping and sore.
It's hard suddenly being on your own and having to do everything - but yes as you say I am starting to rediscover who I am.

I am also realising how hard it must have been for my Dad when my Mom died.n They had been together over 45 years and I just didn't understand why he wanted to give up. He's dead now as well and I know he found the 9 years without her really hard. He had to learn to cook, use the washing machine etc.

I've got my second telephone counselling call tomorrow - but I'm worried that they will think I'm coping ok and decide that I don't need face to face appointments. It's been 4 weeks now since I went to the doctors. I can't believe it's such a protracted process. God help someone who is on the edge and needs help quickly.
Are your sons coming home from university? It will be nice for you to have company. I know they probably spend a lot of time in their rooms or out with friends but it still makes a big difference knowing they are around doesn't it.

Hi ThankGod.
I wished my dogs hated the rain! They will go out in all weathers. Not keen on thunder though!
My eldest dog struggles a bit on the way back though!
I think that it is worse for a man to be left when their life partner dies than a woman.
I hope that you get nearer to seeing a counsellor face to face very soon. Tell them how you really feel in your dark moments.
One son will be home from Uni this month. I am gradually moving him out of his student house. The other one is moving to another property but I have to move a lot of his stuff here first and then take it to the new place. I think I need a bit more consideration! Because I have always done everything they just expect me to carry on!
It will be good to have company though!
I have to go and collect some more stuff very soon.
Enjoy your day!xx

Hello everyone. I'm just checking in. I have been lurking for a few days as I didn't feel able to post.

I hope everyone is well and has had a good weekend.

I'm feeling tonight like absolutely nobody cares about me. The people that I speak to never ask me about how I am. I try so hard to be caring towards people but sometimes feel a bit taken for granted.

Monday tomorrow anyway! I'm looking forward to getting up and getting to work
early. How sad is that?!

Hello WTAFF.
I am sorry that you did not feel able to post you know you are always welcome on here.
We all care about you. I am sorry you feel that you are taken for granted.
You have always been caring to me and our MN friends on here.
I do really not know what to say. You seem really kind to me.
Please try and keep your chin up. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.
Take care. xxx ❤️💐

Ah thanks Hush. That means a lot.

I was just feeling a bit down. What happened last weekend threw me a little bit. I will get over it.

How are you doing anyway? Xx

You are welcome WTAFF.
I can understand that last weekend threw you a bit. I hope you will feel a little brighter and stronger again soon.
I am okay thank you.
Have been busy moving one of my sons belongings. It was a bit much for me really. The trouble is I have always done it. Not sure it has got me anywhere. I have tried to be a good daughter, wife, mum, sister, friend and human being but I think at times I have tried too hard and still am!

Sunday is nearly over and tomorrow is the start of a fresh week.
Onwards and Upwards!
Sleep well!xx

Good morning WTAFF how are you doing? Has the kitchen dried out properly? X

Thanks Hush - I'm feeling a bit brighter today thanks. I had been texting a friend yesterday and all they talked about was themselves. Perhaps they are fed up of me moaning! How are you?

Morning Pisco. The kitchen is just about dry now I think! I'm ok thanks for asking. How are you doing?

Slightly better than yesterday evening. Thanks for asking WTAFF. I keep saying to myself that this too will pass. But sometimes it just gets to you.
Are you still with the PT? Any results with the weight loss?

Good afternoon WTAFF.
I am glad that you are feeling a bit brighter today.
Some people only want to talk about themselves!
I am sure they are not fed up with you. It is just how they are!
I am okay thank you I have just come back from seeing my counsellor.
I cannot believe how quickly the hour goes!
Have some housework to do then have to go and get some food shopping.
I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.
Take care xx

Good afternoon to all my MN friends.
Sitting down with a cuppa contemplating going to do some food shopping.
I felt fine when I came back from the counsellor but now I feel somewhat exhausted!
Have to buck up as I have to collect some of my youngests belongings later.
I hope you are all having a good day and being more productive than I am!
Take care! Xx

Afternoon.
Hush I think sometimes everything just catches up with us and I'm sure that seeing your counsellor is emotionally exhausting if nothing else.
I bet you will be glad when you've finally finished collecting all of your sons belongings.
Husband has apparently returned the agreement to the solicitors again but "forgot" to let me know. This is despite me chasing him up about it on Friday evening (he said he hadn't received it) it arriving Saturday morning and him sending it back the same day. He only confirmed this because I contacted solicitor to ask when it was posted out to him again (he didn't complete it properly first time round). How do you go from being married to someone to forgetting to text all within six weeks. I'm astounded. I joked with my daughter that aliens must have swapped him.
Joking aside he has become someone I really don't recognise anymore. He was so kind when I met him and now he seems to have moved on so quickly.
My telephone counselling session went ok - they are referring me for some face to face sessions but I don't know when my first appointment will be.
I'm doing ok ish. But I'm really scared about what I'll do when my daughter leaves for university. I am going to be so lonely.
WTAFF I think that sometimes people get so caught up in their own lives they forget that there is a world outside of them. I know that I was definitely guilty of this before this happened. I hardly spoke to my brother and hadn't seen him for 18 months. He lost his partner of 20 years to cancer nearly 3 years ago and I wasn't there nearly enough for him. It wasn't that I didn't care it was just that I never seemed to have time. Then before I knew it 2 or 3 months had gone by since the last time I spoke to him etc. I have apologised to him now and we have re-connected. Another good thing to have come out of this situation. I am trying to find positives wherever I can!

Good afternoon ThankGod.
I think counselling is emotionally exhausting.
I am not going to pick up my youngests stuff unless he contacts me again and asks properly. I am not a slave!
I was worn out last night after moving all my eldests stuff into the house! Perhaps I better apply for a job with Pickfords!
I am sorry that your husband is not being straight with you. These men seem to live in a world of their own which unfortunately does not include us anymore. I am in a slightly different position as I have been here before.
I think that makes it even harder this time!
I am glad that you are being referred for face to face counselling. Let's hope it will not take too long!
You are right that people get caught up in their own lives. Some more than others though! It wouldn't do for us all to be the same. I am glad that you have re connected with your brother again. I am sure he is happy to have you back. Another positive in your life.
You will get through your daughter going to University. I know how hard it is. When my eldest went I felt like my world had ended. Then when the second one went it was worse. I am lucky as mine were not far away but they still were not here. I think it is hard for them to start with.
Well I better go as I have to sort the dogs dinner out.
Have a nice evening.
Xx

Hello Hush, Pisco and Thankgod ( and everyone else!)

Pisco / my PT is going well. I'm much fitter than I used to be and I am slowly changing shape (that said I've just been out for dinner!) it is expensive but definitely worth it.

I hope everyone is having a great evening.

Hello WTAFF.
I am glad it is working out with the PT!
Good that you are fitter and that you are changing shape.
I hope you enjoyed having dinner out tonight?
I have company as my youngest is home for a few days.
Good night
xxx

Hi Hush - yes the food was really good thanks. Company a bit odd but there we go!

Glad you've got some company.

Have a great day! Xx

Hi WTAFF.
Glad the food was good. Shame the company was odd! It takes all sorts!
Feeling tired this morning, did not get to sleep until the early hours!

Have a great day! Xx

Oh no - can you take it easy today or do you have lots on?

I hate it when you can't sleep so you have my sympathy.

Thanks WTAFF. No I do not have lots on today. Which is good.
I think it is going to be a slow start!
Have a good day xx

Good morning all.
I hope you all have a good day.
We had sun here earlier but now it is rather overcast.
I have guests for coffee this morning.
I have walked the gigs and they are busy spreading their mess around the floor!
The grass needs cutting again!
I am feeling overwhelmed this morning as since my son has come home with a lot of his stuff(nor all of it) all my rooms seem to be in a mess!
I do not really know where to start?
Compared with the rest of the things that have happened this is probably nif naf and trivia!
I better tidy up a little before my guests arrive.
Have a good day.
xx☀️

Good morning Hush. I'm sorry that you feel overwhelmed with all the things that need doing around the house. I think that if your surroundings are quite orderly then that helps your mind to be more orderly too. I hope that makes sense. But worry not! As WWK keeps reminding us there is no housework police. The grass will get cut when its drier. Dogs are dogs! Not much you can do there. And your sons stuff will get absorbed into the house. But he needs to take responsibility for it, and not just dump it all into a corner. It will be ok
Enjoy your coffee with your guests. Will your son join you? Xxx

Hello everyone.
Even though the weather has been awful I've still succumbed to a Magnum at work.
Got a viewing in a bit so fingers crossed. I know that not everyone on this thread is keen to sell but I so want to be in my own house. That I own and that he has no claim on. Living here now I feel on edge in case he turns up to collect any of his things that are left or his post. He hasn't so far but it always hangs over my head. I have no intention of telling him where I move to so feel I will be able to relax. Plus I won't relax until the financial side of things is sorted once and for all.
Hush my grass needs cutting again as well. If it's not done weekly then it takes much longer to do. Hopefully the weekend if not warm at least might be dry enough for me to get it done.
You always seem to be having visitors which must be lovely - they help take your mind off of things. I wish I knew as many people as you do.
I've got my sewing class again tomorrow and I've also joined a pilates class which starts in two weeks.
Better finish tidying!
Take care

I've got my sewing class again tomorrow and I've also joined a pilates class which starts in two weeks

A very big well done to you

I hope everyone else is well. We're all fine here. The new baby is gorgeous, and my DIL has the breast feeding well and truly sorted this time round. She's just so happy. My wee grandson is here everyday, they only live two minutes over the road, and he is at last blethering away and calling me Nana. I was a wee bit worried about his development for a while but I think his language delay was down to the fact he was hearing two, and sometimes 3 languages. I know its a lot but its very common here and they wee ones take it in their stride. I actually think he was a bit delayed with English more than having an overall delay because it struck me the other day that he'd spent a lot of time in his mums home country and only that language would have beens spoken. Sometimes living so firmly in the world of ASD and associated co-morbids means you're inclined to pick up on things way before people normally would do so and it can be quite scary. Its too easy at times to think oh my god could this be x y or z. Anyway, Im feeling rather relieved and so is my daughter the Special Ed teacher as she also had her concerns.

I had my weigh in a the gym today and whilst Ive surprisingly not lost any weight in 3 months Ive lost fat and gained a quite considerable amount of muscle so its all working even stevens. But I really must stop the nightly tipple and snickers bar and perhaps make it a weekend treat instead. I looks as if Ive lost weight but I believe it now when they say the scales arent that important.

And the other good news is that my son has now gone 4 days without emergency sedation and he is a lot more like his old self. Im so happy and at last I feel we are on the right track with his new medications.