DH just assaulted me

[LadyMalande]

So in the least mumsnetty assault ever DH has just thrown a fruitshoot at me. While I was driving. With DS in the car.

We were having a stupid argument about nothing really. I thought he was being grumpy, he thought I was.

Fruitshoot was in the center console thing. He just picked it up and threw it full force in my face. Then demanded I stop and let him out of the car, which I did. My eye is swollen and tender, small cut by my eyebrow.

He turned up at the house just after I got home, tried to come in. I put stuff in a bag for him and have told him to go. I didn't let him in.

I feel like shit. DS is 3. Asked me why Daddy threw his drink at me. DH does childcare while I'm at work (opposite shifts) so I won't have any for Monday now and nursery is really full.

DS seems ok. Not distressed or anything but I can't believe the risk he put him at.

Not sure where I'm going with this post really. I'm just so sad that he did this. I feel somewhere between numb and devastated.

I have just sat and read op's post and Colditz. I think you are both incredibly brave, amazing women.

After a v negative experience it took me a week of shock before it really started to dawn on me that things were over. Panic and crying attacks took hold and I felt terrible guilt. GP helped and reassured me that the ending of a relationship is like grief - shock and disbelief, pain, anger, nightmares and it all circles round and around. I spoke with family and friends, bought lots of self help books secondhand on amazon (about freedom from passive aggressive and controlling men) and after 2 mths started counselling. 2 mths more and I'm far more stable. Go with it for the moment and seek help wherever and whenever you can. You are right and you will be ok.

Well done for reporting to police.

How is your eye now?

Lots of hugs op
I have been recently helping a very good friend through similar circumstances and I'm just at a loss as to what to do for her that's positive. Reading this post has given me some perspective.

sounds indeed like a tough day op.

i just wanted to say you shouldn't feel embarrassed (know its been said already - your dh should be) and also, no-one ever thinks it will happen to them.

glad you're not going to jump into any fast and hard decision making yet because none of the alternatives are going to be great after this line was crossed.

im going to leave the thread now and hope the next few days with your ds and work will be ok.

line crossed by dh's behaviour to clarify.

I'm glad you've reported it all to the Police OP.

I hope you manage to get some sleep tonight and I hope you feel able to reach out for some support either from family and friends or with one of the charitys that are there to help when something awful like this happens.

It will feel strange and you will have times where you feel sad sometimes OP but I promise it does get easier.

Just checking in really.

Doing OK. Eye still hurts but I've not had a look in a mirror this morning so don't know what it looks like.

I slept suprisingly well. Just feeling a bit anxious this morning, not heard from H or the police so not sure what's happened. I could phone and ask.

Plan is to be busy today, going to take DS out - zoo maybe.

Thanks for the posts.

Glad you got some sleep. Do you know if you can miss work tomorrow?

Have a nice day with ds.

Well done for kicking him out and reporting the assault to the police. That took strength and courage.

Please do call Women's Aid and/or one of the numbers the police gave you for support, sooner rather than later.

You are doing so well Lady. Have a lovely time with your little boy today

Morning Lady,glad you got a good nights sleep and hope you have a lovely day at the Zoo(if you go),lucky DS

You can ring the Police and ask what ever questions you want when ever you want,they'd rather you contacted them than be worried.