DRY 13

[lilybetsy]

This is the thread for all those who are living, or committed to living, life free from alcohol.

I will quote a sober poster "I'm fitter, slimmer, richer, happier & healthier"

Go sober warriors !

Hugs rose , the lows are indeed brutal, try and do what you can to take care of yourself - nice smelly bath, interesting AF drink, candle, sweet treat, bed if that feels like a safe place. If you're up to reading, I would recommend Rachel's holiday by Marian Keyes - it's fiction, a humerous but serious look at addiction and recovery -

Stay strong Rose, cry if you need to , post if you like and it will get better.

Lily🌷

Matron, Cooey, JoJo, Lily & Lucy thank you I have just spent the whole of Holby City crying my heart out my DS has just given me a massive hug too which in combo has made me feel much calmer xxx I can't stress just how important you all have become to me u never judge me no matter what Matron you need to stop doing what I do and beating yourself up what's done is done and you are doing so well xxx love to you all and again thank you xxx 💐💐😘😘❤️

Thank you Lily for all the great suggestions I think bed and book will calm me further 💐💐😘

jojo you will come through the fuzzy low. You know what's round the corner and so do I. We must push on through to the good stuff X

lily not found an opportune moment to confide further in DM or DH was too busy doing a big angry woe is me number. You are getting stronger and stronger and that 100 days is in reach. It is encouraging to see you cracking on

Hello all, glad to see so many doing well and rose hang in there. The low will pass. Keep looking after yourself. Vitamins, good food, lots of sleep, cry if it helps to let emotion out

I'm on day 55 I think. Still loving being AF. Habit and cravings pretty much gone. Lots of social events under my belt and feeling good as the sober one who can drive home when she's had enough!

However, one horrible incident when out with DPs family. They know I've gone AF. I ordered a becks blue. His DM clearly didn't know what that was and the look on her face
And change in atmosphere was horrible.

I was so cross. I engineered and conversation so I could make sure she knew it was AF but after I was really cross! Why does she think she can judge me and why did I feel I had to make it über clear to her that I wasn't drinking?

Dp is a bit enmeshed with his family. I have no intention of joining him in that. Feel like I want her to know it's my choice what I drink. Had I chosen a proper beer, she still would have no right to judge me.

Go on oncemore what a lovely place you have got to. Chuffed for you! It's so difficult for people to understand that we are the fortunate ones not the losers. We are the gainers! People waiting for us triers to slip or indeed judging us if we do just don't get it.

That's why this thread is invaluable.

Its 9.29, I've had a bath, put kids to bed and I'm in bed too.

Party on dudes

Yes, good stuff is coming soon for us soon I hope matron. I seem to sink into this fuzzy-ness quite regularly at the moment. Definite highs and lows and am also snappy and irritable too. Hope your row with your dh and dm won't de-rail you.

My dh is currently on the phone to his parents, looks like we are going there next week for a visit (we forgot it was bank holiday so dh will be off so unexpectedly we have time) and then I am going to Scotland to see my parents, again a bit last minute. That's a lot of parents in one week!

Rose as lovely Andrew Johnson says, "each day (without a drink) in its own way, is a success." So you absolutely should feel proud. #winning

Exhaustion kicking in and bed calling, hope tomorrow is a better day for everyone.

oncemore this is one of the reasons I have not told my family I am not drinking - I can't face my mothers cats bum mouth, or her moaning about how terrible it was for her several years ago when I shared two bottles of wine with a friend at LUNCH ! We were on holiday - never again !!

And you are right it's NONE IF HER BUSINESS ...

Hope you are ok Matron

I had an interesting experience today- there is a weekend in July when all the children are away, and DP and I have decided to go to Amsterdam for a couple of days. I was looking at boutique hotels, and found one where they have FREE booze - all you can drink as far as I can see. It looked gorgeous but I just knew I could NOT stay in such a place - the temptation of a load of free alcohol - one temptation too much ! So we will stay somewhere else :-)

Trying to plan nice things for the Summer - don't think we will be a ble to go on a family holiday but I may take the DC away for a few days ..

🍰☕️🍫For all

Lily 🌷

Just checking in quickly, day 7 done here, including client "drinks" in the city after work. Boss looked at me a bit funny when I asked for soda water but didn't comment. Probably worried that I might be pregnant!!

Rose hugs and , I hope you feel better soon.

Just checking in. Thanks for the good wishes folks, it was tough but as good as it could be.

Hugs to Rose and jojo, and any other warriors who need them

Morning everyone.

to everyone.

Morning everyone and hugs to all those struggling

The board has been so busy it has been a bit overwhelming for me so I have kept a low profile but I am still here. Day 56 for me. 8 weeks and I'm still not feeling as good as I thought I might

You will, vxa you will. Just hang on in there. I'm at 20 weeks or thereabouts and have singularly failed to turn into the Gwynneth Paltrow type goddess I thought I would. ( except less smug, obvs). This may have something to do with my new 20 a day chocolate digestive habit. But, I am sleeping better, my headaches have disappeared, my skin is softer and I am generally happier (except in the midst of PAWS, during which I am a raging loon). Just remember, it has taken a heck of a lot of drinking to get to the point where you called it quits; it's going to take time for your body to adjust to its new, AF life.

Hey Everyone thanks for all the hugs 💐 And kind words and suggestions yesterday and today xx so after I'd exhausted myself crying went to bed and managed to read 2 pages of Allen Carr then fell asleep even tho still tired this morning head feels clearer and I feel happier Day 23 Sober warriors!! Couldn't do this without you all xx love and hugs to all xxxx

This thread moves so very fast that I am finding it impossible to keep up!

So, I am going to bow out for now, my sober warriors. I am on Day 17 AF, and there is no way I would have even attempted ONE DAY without akl of your kind words, support and advice.

What with this, work, home, studying and (what was I thinking) a new allotment, I am having a rest from social media.

It's been an absolute pleasure hearing all of your incredible stories; you are all so strong and honest and brave.

I wish you all the very, very best on your sober journeys.

sharkskin all the best. We are here if you need us x

sharkskin I know exactly how you feel and I completely respect your decision. I hope you read this...I've also decided to have a break from Social Media as I'm wasting too much time that I haven't got . BUT I've made an exception for this thread as my sobriety is my number one priority in life, as everything good in my life ...(and there is now so much good) relies on it.
I've "allowed " myself 10 minutes a day for reading the Dry thread and that will include the occasional post. 10 minutes a day to continue to learn from the wonderful posters on here, to read tips, strategies etc, etc. But mostly to remain AF. There's no way I'd have been AF since 28 December 2015 without it.
KOKO Sober Warriors
10 mins up......back to lurking

Very tired, but managed day 5 yoga at 6.30, and day 10 AF.

And lol Sybil, only just caught your change name to English biscuit eater!

Morning all.

To be honest a bit of a rest from social media for me would be good for a while too. I have loads on my plate and MN is too damned attractive! (I am angry I wasted hours yesterday on a thread that turned out to be a troll. )

10 mins or so a day like Hurricane sounds good to me too.

Hope everyone has a great day. :) Oh, another trick I have found that seems to work is I write out a scenario of how my day is going to go, filled with lots of happy and positive actions on my part as well. It sounds cheesy (ahem) but lifts my mood. A portion of today's has gone like this;

...' I pick up DS at 4 pm after completing my report and we head out to the park and for ice cream sundaes. As I have completed my work I rest and enjoy the time with DS.We then come home and I drink herbal tea while I bathe DS and help him do his homework. We all sit down together for our meal and I enjoy a lovely bath while reading the AA Big Book. I sleep well.' Like I said -it sounds a bit cheesy, but it is working for me and when my mood dips I re-read and it helps.

anyway, I plan to have my 10 minute MN session at about noon. I hope everyone has a great day, KOKO.

Hi everyone, I can see how that would work slim, it's positive planning ahead and something to go back to if things start to wobble.

Am feeling sharper today, I realised that I'd not been taking the iron drinks that I know I need or any multivitamins recently so was very below par. Can feel the difference already. Have planted out some flowers in pots on my patio which are very cheering also despite the gloomy weather.

How are your work things going matron?

Morning,

Slim good idea I used to write a gratitude diary might start again.

Jojo I'm taking liquid iron too when I remember I think it does help.

Off to work today till late so day 6 should be ok.

All good here. F busy at work. at jojo