DRY 12

[HowBadIsThisPlease]

Old thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2584735-DRY-11?

The thread for people who want to kick the booze

I agree with the posters who say that it is who posts, and who posts what, who make the thread.

I just want to check in and say that as you know (thank you for putting up with it!) I have been an emotional rollercoaster recently. Things are not at all resolved in practice and I have lots of legal separation stuff to sort through. P is not talking to me - literally -and I don't even know how to get the ball rolling.
So it's a big thank you, to you from me, that since last Monday, when the shit really hit the fan, it has simply not occurred to me to drink. Well hardly at all ;) when it did occur to me, it occurred to me very quickly - almost simultaneously - why that was a terrible idea. I know that having "talked" recently with you lot, who put up with my endless whining, was a large part of why that knowledge was so far at the top of my thoughts.

I talked to my sister today who phoned to ask me how things were going. I realised talking to her that i feel a completely different person from 5 days ago.

I just want to say that I appreciate each and every one of you determined warriors who has decided, with grit and grace and humour, to tackle this head on, and I can't believe how lucky I was when I needed you and you were here.

I know some of you need to go and I don't oppose anyone who needs to do what is best for them. but I do hope that enough posters, and enough new posters, will be able to keep alive the spirit of the thread. maybe you'll come back if so.

If not - please be happy wherever you are

We are going over the same ground over and over again. Can we just pause a bit on it please.

'OnceMore's' request at 19:14 is in line with my thoughts right now.

Many thanks.

SC

sorry, x-posted with HowBad

I agree with Slim, and Howbad, and many others. Halle we want to help but you need to understand that you did keep on posting long after people politely and respectfully advised you it was triggery to them. Just not mentioning stuff today doesn't make up for that. I would lurk and read and learn if I were you ( and indeed that is exactly what I did in the early days of my sobriety)

Also, posting about us on the BB thread is a bit off, as afair, one person said you were a danger to their sobriety ( after you had said something about dangers on this thread) and you are now presenting it as "now they are all saying I'm a danger to them" which is not true.

Today is day 958 for me and no I haven't been on this thread from it's inception but I send thanks to its creator . I am both a HCP who deals with alcohol and it's impact on a daily basis IRL while seeking support for my own issues here anonymously. I do not think about drinking anymore, I luxuriate in the hangover free mornings and have loved being here on this thread and seeing people nurture each other and their fledgling sober wings. Stay strong sober warriors whether you chose to stay, lurk or leave. I'm not going anywhere :)

Halle you haven't gone "terribly" wrong. You've just consistently and repeatedly stated, until very recently, over the last few days that you are going to continue to drink.
Despite polite requests not to do so.
You shouldn't need repeatedly telling and that is what has really irked people. This, when you know that is not what this thread is for. It's for people who's intention right from their first post, is abstinence and everyone so far has had the decency to respect that fact. Sometimes they slip or realise, like you did,that they aren't ready for total abstinence.... so they take time off the thread, probably lurk, then come back and post when they are dry again. It's a dry thread.

And now you are repeatedly asking why you've upset people.....despite being repeatedly told why.

I'm not leaving............but Halle if you stay I may as well be honest and say that I won't read any of your posts at all. There's no point. I wouldn't continue a conversation like that in real life so I sure as hell am not doing it online. Thing is, I don't think you'll give two hoots about that, hey ho

This has been a happy place for me since 27th December 2015. Somewhere I can come and know I can be honest and just be me without judgement. I've learned so much from so many people here. I'm hoping this is a little blip as its not so great at the moment. So many of us can't be wrong about what has been going on...... so I'm going to dig in for the longterm

PS It goes without saying I want the thread to stay & for you all to feel safe to return but I understand why you might feel the need to withdraw temporarily or permanently. Sobriety first and always.

I'm still here - well not anymore this eve as dp is home and supper almost done so will be off the interweb now. I have made fish cakes and they smell gorgeous. howbad I thought that was a great post and so pleased you feel stronger - and lovely to read about you being so self aware about the demon drink. happy af Friday eve to all the sober warriors. I would do you flowers and tea pictures but haven't got time to learn to drive mumsnet now - those fish cakes need wrangling! Bye for now :)

Slim cross post. I agree with you. Enough now.

Right, I'm going to post my new lovely drink again. Belvoir Blueberry and Blackcurrant cordial mixed with sparkling water. All natural and Glad it was quite low carb, 6%....not much more than Eisberg
It was delicious!!

HowBad great to read that you can see a difference in yourself already

I think one of the very best aspects of this thread is seeing people join, and grow as they accrue sober time. I have seen that so clearly recently with posters such as yourself, Lily, vxa, oncemore and countless others.

Much love x

Treating myself to pizza, chocolate and Purdey's here this evening

Good think I had a workout this morning!

Like , I love Belvoir cordials :) All of them :)

X-post Hurricane :)

X-post glad, OnceMore Fuzzy Sybil
Hellishly busy day so no time to pick up AF beer so will have to suffice with Seedlip Yum! :)

Love a bit of Seedlip I'm sure I read they were working on a new (summer-y??) botanical - has anyone else heard anything?

Marry when I first posted on here I was politely guided elsewhere when I mentioned drinking next week at a works meal Halle none of your positive posts mean anything to me in here whilst you are posting on another thread about drinking tomorrow when friends come over?? You said you were completely honest on here, obviously not!! That kind of stuff is a trigger "well if she can do it why can't I" I don't want and choose not to drink now I'm not nice and it's so bad for my health so stop being a fake!!

But I'm on the Belvoir tonight. Also a mission to find the best fieryest ginger beer - recommendations welcome! Have tried all fever tree's offerings, and have fentiman's and belvoir in the fridge...

Sorry masses of X posts with everybody

Agree rose

Fuzzy yep more in the pipeline I believe
Right off for a bubble bath and Headspace followed by Seedlip & seasalt chocolate. Who needs booze

PS Reading Pema Chodron - can recommend

Glad! It's lush, like Ribena without the crazy sugar or calories.

I'm having a major health check next week at work. Its a follow up from one that I had 10 years ago as we started to use a piece of equipment back then which uses mobile technology. It's very comprehensive and I have to keep a food diary for the next 7 days. It is so incredibly indepth, I have to write down every single thing I eat or drink and exact quantities, including ingredients in home made dressings etc, etc. And I have to record the times I have them.
In the drinks section, I have listed water, tea with skimmed milk and the one Belvoir I had earlier. I feel so T.S.P!!!!!!!! Well, definitely the twatty smug bit I'm so proud if myself though. I know the nurse will comment and i shall proudly and breezily say, "Oh yes, I don't drink!"

Like gotta love a bit of TSP
Right - bath!

Is anyone still here?
I was trying to find the right words to write something on my lunch break today but I couldn't keep up.
I really dont want anyone to leave! It's meant to be a little safe corner of the internet where we can all gain strength from each other to battle our addictions. Think Halle you didn't get the feel of the thread and unintentionally rocked the boat and made us all feel a bit wobbly. I think you had a lot of very good advise and words of wisdom from people who have been through same or similar or have professional knowledge on the subject. I don't feel it was bullying or anything like that I think it Was - ok here's our advise, we emplore you to take it and when it Was made clear you weren't ready for that advise people were then concerned for our own sobriety's and felt that if you wanted to moderate then this wasn't the right place to be. Which is fine. I think you get it now and understand that we can be here to help you abstinate and cheer you on!
marry You've royally pissed me off for a number of reasons but the main one Was your post aimed at vxa suggesting that other peoples problems weren't as severe as halles, I mean.. WTF.
Anyway. I don't want anyone to go. Please stay and let's all respect the battle the other person is going through whether they keep things closer to their chests or shout it from the roof tops. DRY is for staying sober, BBBB is for moderating.
Anyway my positivity if anyone's still about.
*I'm a better mum, definitely.
*I've found my motivation -or most of it!
*Saving money
*Skins better, hairs shinier, Eyes bigger ans brighter, psoriasis and eczema have literally vanished.
*sleeping better
*losing weight -slowly.
I realise how much time I've lost due to alcohol I'm not letting it take anymore from me.

Fuzzy I am also a ginger lover and one of my favourite drinks is Belvoir ginger cordial, topped up with ginger ale, a dash of lime juice and crushed mint. I occasionally add a dash of tabasco for extra kick. It is very very good.

Woops took me so long to write that post with these nails on, everyone's back....
As you were