I've just abandoned my very drunk/high dh in central London in favour of getting ds home

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Namechanged yet again as all this is so, so identifying. Dh has struggled with addictions and after a peaceful few months it came to a head today when we saw his family.

He was being aggressive to everyone and when our bus arrived he wouldn't get on so I've just taken myself and ds home. Now he won't answer his phone and I feel awful I've abandoned him but our son is only 3 and I've got to get him home. I can't help feeling so guilty and bad and am both dreading and wishing him home. What do I do?

"but it is NO-ONES place to tell her to throw away a prescribed drug."

Actually, you are correct. That would be an irresponsible thing to do. She should take the Tramadol to a pharmacy who will dispose of it safely.

I know people might class it as a drug of sorts.

No 'of sorts' about it. It is a controlled drug.

I am on it for acute and chronic pain. Dr prescribed. I have to order it separately from my other prescriptions, can only have a certain amount at a time, have very regular reviews and it has to be counter signed when it is dispensed at the chemist.

We're any of party to her medical history and her gps reasoning behind prescribing it?

No? Then back off, it's crossing a line you have no right to cross.

If it's his weed could you pass it onto a member of his family or friends?

This is a chaotic household

Already the toddler has been found playing with drug paraphernalia

There should be no drugs stronger than simple painkillers in that house.

Neither of these parents have a good record in keeping the child away from the chaos.

No strong drugs should be around at all

Then address that. but its bloody irresponsible to tell anyone to throw away a controlled prescription drug they were legally prescribed by their gp.

AF, you're not a doctor, stop dishing out medical advice.

OP. Chucking away the weed is the most important thing. As for the Tramadol phequers gave good advice. Go and discuss it with your doctor, be honest with him about how much you take, find out if it's reasonable and if there is an alternative which suits your needs but is a bit safer.

Then address that. but its bloody irresponsible to tell anyone to throw away a controlled prescription drug they were legally prescribed by their gp.

Imo the OP should go back to her GP.

She hasn't said that what it was prescribed for is what it is now being used for.

No they shouldn't be thrown away however it is a highly addictive drug in a household where there are severe issue with drugs.

OP go to your GP and be honest.

It does make you wonder if the GP who prescribed Tramadol had any idea of the illegal drug use history - I would guess not. In the circumstances exploring safer alternatives with your GP would seem sensible.

Agree with Phequers on this. OP should speak honestly with her GP or a counselor.

As far as the weed goes, honestly, I'd destroy it. Don't feed his addiction.

Was it prescribed or did you get it another way Holding ?

Regardless, it gives you a buzz, and that's not necessary for period pain, I would chuck it personally.

More than one child has died as a result of getting hold of their parents drugs.

Tramodol is not a drug of sorts as others have said. It is a very strong drug and it is wrong to have a few packets in the home.

OP, time to grow up and make some decent choices.

I wish your DC luck. I hope you do what needs to be done.

Don't see AF dishing out medical advice as a doctor..

Holding , I've been following your threads although haven't commented before, I think you're starting to make better decisions for your DS but there is still a way to go.

Can you clarify if the tramadol was prescribed for you for period pains? From the way you mentioned it, it sounded like it had been bought illegally and you were trying to minimise the fact by suggesting a 'legitimate' reason for using it.

What I said is not medical advice.

This is a chaotic and disordered household. Having weed that op is reluctant to dispose of and a nonchalant attitude to a few packets of tramadol when there are other options available is evidence of that

Op alludes to waking up to her situation but so far she has had to be metaphorically hit over the head with how wrong her thought processes are

It's very worrying that that she is minimising so much

Holding, you really are coming along leaps and bounds, but as pp have said, there's still a little way to go. The truth is your starting point. Tell yourself the truth, accept it and own it and all of this will get easier, and you can start to address it all.

"As for the Tramadol phequers gave good advice. Go and discuss it with your doctor, be honest with him about how much you take, find out if it's reasonable and if there is an alternative which suits your needs but is a bit safer."

That's good advice. Now can we please stop bashing the OP over the head about these side issues.

She needs support to keep her ex at arms length while she finds her own strength.

She's had good suggestions about the drugs, can we please move back to supporting her in the immediate situation?

Please let's not drive her away.

My thoughts exactly arandomname.
The Tramadol is a side issue that people seemed to have picked up and run with. There has been nothing posted to suggest that the OP is taking it regularly or is reliant on it. She is attending NA meetings where she can discuss the use of painkillers.

It's important that the OP is given support with her attempts to break up with her alcoholic, drug addicted partner who has just subjected his family to a frightening relapse manifesting in an alcohol and cocaine binge and violent behaviour.

In my eyes, the OP's main addiction is him.

People really ought to clarify whether or not the tramadol was prescribed before telling the OP to get rid of it. Personally I have a cupboard full of morphine perfectly legally, people seem to forget these drugs were developed for medicinal reasons originally. OP, if you did get it illegally you need to dispose of it responsibly by handing it in at a chemists, then get yourself to the GP for some appropriate help.

Christ we beat people up for tramadol now? we should see my painkiller collection. Does no harm sitting in a cupboard for occasional use.

Christ we beat people up for tramadol now

No one is beating anyone up!

It is a controlled drug. Is highly addictive.

OP is attending NA meetings.

Can you not see what it may be an issue in OP case?