I've just abandoned my very drunk/high dh in central London in favour of getting ds home

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Namechanged yet again as all this is so, so identifying. Dh has struggled with addictions and after a peaceful few months it came to a head today when we saw his family.

He was being aggressive to everyone and when our bus arrived he wouldn't get on so I've just taken myself and ds home. Now he won't answer his phone and I feel awful I've abandoned him but our son is only 3 and I've got to get him home. I can't help feeling so guilty and bad and am both dreading and wishing him home. What do I do?

YANBU. You're first priority is you your son, his safety and well being. I would have done the same -- no question about it.

I abused cannabis when I was living with my abusive ex. Isolated beyond what 99% of people would ever imagine in their worst nightmares in a country that is too hideous for words.

I couldn't stop. It helped me cope. I eventually knew of another person who used sleeping tablets in the same way. Had drink been an option I/she would have probably used that too.

When I left him and that hell, I left behind the cannabis clearly. I've never needed it again.

Get yourself out of this hideous relationship and I think you'll find the rest of life easier to face. There's help by the bucketload if you need it.

Tramadol for period pain is a complete nonsense. You know this.
Get rid of this guy, get rid of the drugs and you absolutely can turn this around.

I know there's a Lot of tough love on here, but behind this is a true belief that you absolutely can do this.

Remember there are only two drugs that cause a physical dependence (and if used enough they will do this in anyone) and they are alcohol and opiates (heroin, morphine, codeine, tramadol etc). The others, and alcohol and opiates cause this as well, cause a psychological dependence only. There is, therefore, an element of choice in taking them.

My dp got addicted to tramadol when he had a back injury. It was horrible.

Bin it, OP.

I would add nicotine as well WhoAte

Sweetheart no-one take tramadol for periods. They need to go now. Normal non prescription painkillers are for periods. Time to let go of the security blanket.

Ah yes, forgot nicotine!

Tramadol for period pains ?

No.

I don't use it recreationaly. I never take more than 100mgs and only during periods. I don't see it as an issue.

Is it prescribed by a GP?

I don't see it as an issue.

It is an issue.

Where are you getting it from?

"I don't see it as an issue."

It is an issue. Where are you getting it from? It is a class C controlled drug and is prescription only. Is your doctor prescribing it for you?

It was prescribed ages ago, that's how rarely I take it. There's just a few packets.

Sweetheart no-one take tramadol for periods

Yeah they do, particularly if there's a bit of endo going on. That's agony.

There's a lot that you "don't see as an issue" that is a very, very big and quite serious issue.

This is the problem.

I only mentioned it as phequer wanted complete honesty about what was in our home and I know people might class it as a drug of sorts.

"and I know people might class it as a drug of sorts."

That's because it is a drug. You are normalising stuff that isn't normal. It isn't illegal, but it is only available on prescription. I suggest to read everyone's responses on here and take them in.

*Whoateallthedinosaurs

Remember there are only two drugs that cause a physical dependence"*

This is a very misleading statement. Benzodiazepines, such as Valium, are highly physically addictive. And in a very short time.

I'm working up to it. In the park at the moment but will do it later. Phone almost out of battery so not ignoring any further questions.

Lovey, you need to listen to people whose idea of what constitutes "normal" isn't disordered

Having a "few packets" of a controlled drug for something that has several other less dangerous options is not normal, believe me

Nor is you hanging onto the weed in your house

Wow, I appreciate you're all giving advice, but it is NO-ONES place to tell her to throw away a prescribed drug.

THAT is a step too far.

I agree 100% with what everyone is saying here but just on a point of information, people do take Tramadol for very painful periods. I took it when I was 16, perceived by a doctor.

*prescribed