Going out of my mind, husband leaving/left/thinking/pissing about PART 2

[garlicbreathing]

Follow on to my first thread about the lead up to the leaving, to the conversation to the aftermath. And it's a big aftermath.

First Part here- www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2622798-Im-about-to-lose-my-mind-here-I-think-DH-is-going-to-leave-me-tonight

Cross-posted, Asteri. I dunno, I wonder if it's actually easier in some ways if the split isn't so calmly agreed? I got all my grieving done very fast & intensely in both cases. I hadn't been expecting the marriages to end, but as soon as they did I could see it was for the best.

Might it be harder when there is genuine warmth between you? No idea, I only had dysfunctional marriages!! My respect for my husbands evaporated as soon as the cards were on the table.

Don't let your husbands comments about lack of control etc persuade you that you "bulldoze" your way through things. A different man would love what I am seeing as strength assertiveness and decisiveness. These are good qualities.
^This.

Yes it will christina
Experience grows people.

Tell that to the mortgage company

OP has a maximum of £7k in this fast-moving deal of hers Christina. I would be amazed if that was enough to motivate her. Or a mortgage company. That is not the deal. Yet.

I thought the experience was motivating her and the mortgage company

Christinea! Have you actually read the original and all this thread?

Yes!

Well it doesn't read like you have.

perhaps you need to read it again

Oh ok, jog on.

Good luck for the future OP.

You have handled everything amazingly well. The next few months will be tough but you will be happy again.

7K equity each is what he says & OP knows that when & if they sell she will find estimates at that point
IMHO, garlic is a woman who is a mover & shaker. I felicitate her.......:o)

Well, that was an intriguing couple of hours My favourite part was "Christinea!" -> "Yes!"

Perhaps this thread's being used by an international spy ring to send coded messages ...

Yup, I'm with you there GarlicShake... I came to check up on, t'other Garlic, walked right into the middle of PP's beef and walked right back out haha.

The fence is now lower. We can move on.

Garlic lol :)

and breathe :)

Am I reading this right that Christina is being attacked by Dailymail for suggesting an OP that is splitting up with her extremely sudden personality transplanted DH should get legal advice instead of living for 'the experience'. How, um, novel.

No, I am not attacking anyone. But I did suggest they should rtft. And then comment. That is all.

And I am NOT Dailymail Quite the opposite! Very disingenuous of you Expell

Apologies garlicbreathing for the inadvertant derailment - I was intended to defend your thread but it seems my post has developed a life of its own. Sorry. I will stop defending you , now. But you have my full support :)

Disingenuous and Dailymail in the same sentence is somehow appropriate, so all good.

xxx