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I've met someone and want to ask him out

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ProfessorPickles · 25/04/2016 22:30

I've recently met someone who has really taken me by surprise. I've been single for around 3 years now, apart from a short relationship, and I'd had very little interest in men for a long time until I met him.

He's good looking but what got me by surprise is his personality, he's very smiley and has a great sense of humour. He makes me laugh and is a genuinely nice person. I haven't met someone who's even caught my eye for a long, long time so it's a little bit exciting! Smile

The problem however, is that he's a teacher at my university. Not my teacher, but I have contact with him occasionally.
We are a similar age (I'm a slightly older student) and I will be leaving in 2 months so would wait until then.

I have no idea if he is interested in me too, but I can't believe I've had my head turned after so long of being adamant I was going to be happily alone forever so I feel it would be foolish to just ignore it.

My idea was to give him a 'thank you' card/gift as I am leaving (for helping with my work, I'll be giving them to two other members of staff) and put my number inside. I thought this would be good so he can choose to take it or leave it, as it's potentially a little bit inappropriate?
If he isn't interested he can simply ignore it to spare me the embarrassment of asking to his face! Although, I've known several teachers to get together with students once they've left so I suppose it isn't that radical of an idea.

Best case scenario: We go on a date, fall in love, get married, have children and tour the country with our family band.

Worst case scenario: He never contacts me and life goes on.

It's worth a try surely? Grin

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Vintage1996 · 02/06/2016 19:59

What is this thread about Confused

LovePGtipsMonkey · 02/06/2016 20:35

ha This, I thought so too - not that she's made his life hellish (that's giving me too much weight!) but she musty have remarked because he used to respond occasionally and then stopped, and soon after she was posting possessive stuff, it wasn't about me but she became much more present on his page than before. But it could also be tbh because he himself found it too keen of me.

ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 20:39

Evening everyone! Smile hope you're all well? This thread is growing rapidly still I see Wink

Vintage - this thread is pretty much 4 MNers chatting and discussing their fancy men Grin

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LovePGtipsMonkey · 02/06/2016 20:43

well you and B don't need lots of actual talk, it's all much more free with body language and flirting as his single. I mean compared to that, and of course even more so Prof's communication with her guy, I had very very little of face to face, it was mainly social media or looks from a distance in crowded places. Very frustrating. You had a lot happening on that whisky evening - and that's the real him that you saw, as we said he can't possibly act like this when at work due to his boss being there, and he can't ask you out in case (he thinks) that you aer just enjoying the attention and flirting but don't want anything else. When yo uinvited him to a party though - after this he should make some step but you need to be at least coming up to see him at garage, or better asking to look in for a chat after work. You haev to give him the chance of asking you out - by arranging to see him away from work again.
Any more thoughts on me trying to bump into mine successfully and what to say if he is not pleased to see me one to one? If it happens, it will be in a few days time. I need to get it right if I'm doing it at all.

LovePGtipsMonkey · 02/06/2016 20:47

do you know of Brian the skater as you mentioned it - it's not a French name though. I thought Bruno but that's more Italian. Can't think really - so many more names beginning with M.

apivita · 02/06/2016 20:51

Benoit!!! Grin

ThisIsTheRightTime · 02/06/2016 20:59

Bruno is a French name, but it isn't his.

I promise PGtips I'm thinking about solutions for you meeting up ...

I'm on the phone for the time being. Smile

ThisIsTheRightTime · 02/06/2016 21:00

Hello Prof! Smile

ThisIsTheRightTime · 02/06/2016 21:00

YES apivitaiii Grin Wink

ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:02

Sorry PG, I'm not sure if I've missed all the details but what will the situation be like when you'll possibly see him?

I saw tutor man today, he was coming up the stairs behind me and my friend. I hope my bum looked alright Grin
We talked to him a bit and he's so bloody gorgeous, his smile is beautiful .
He's just such a genuinely smiley and friendly person, he makes me laugh and that's what I need!
2 weeks until we leave and hopefully he will be coming to the pub on the last day, I will try and enquire Grin

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ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:03

How is Benoit pronounced? Smile

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ThisIsTheRightTime · 02/06/2016 21:08

Oooh, so excited Prof for you!

God, I'm crap with phonetics Prof even though I did a degree in German and am/was an English teacher abroad. Silent 't' is the best I can come up with.

ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:10

It's gradually coming to a close This, haha!

So like Ben-oi? Blush I'm worried I've got this horribly wrong and I'll embarrass myself!

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Alpies · 02/06/2016 21:10

Bey-noa

Flisspaps · 02/06/2016 21:11

Ben-wah

I know this because of NCIS Grin

apivita · 02/06/2016 21:11

Hello! Sorry I've been missing for a while. It's half term, I'm busy and the weather is shit.

Glad I got the name! I thought Bernard first but then when you said no, I immediately thought of Benoit. I'll leave it to this to do the phonics!! Grin

I've been having strange dreams. Dreams of ex's and other men. Must be you lot subliminally getting to me!

Did you not ask tutor man about coming to the leaving do?!! Argh! Go on it sounds like you are building up some momentum. Strike when the iron is hot!!

BigApple11 · 02/06/2016 21:12

As far as I know you pronounce it 'Ben-wa' but in a French way!

ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:12

It's gradually coming to a close This, haha!

Are you new posters long time lurkers and French enthusiasts? Grin or have you just stumbled upon our rambling thread?

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ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:14

Apivita - I'm trying I swear! Wink I just seem to constantly pass him in the corridor at the minute Grin

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ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:15

Ooh, I could possibly do a "are you coming to the leaving drinks?" And if he says no I could suggest the two of us going the following weekend instead!

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apivita · 02/06/2016 21:17

Now you're talking!!! Grin yes that's what I would do. For sure!

ProfessorPickles · 02/06/2016 21:19

Sorry that our ways have been creeping into your dreams also Grin

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LovePGtipsMonkey · 02/06/2016 21:35

ah so it's Benoit! how nice - I love that languid open sound ! It's traditional - I was thinking of modern ones for some reason.
Does he speak English, This? if so does he use just Ben for shorter version, I wonder.

ThisIsTheRightTime · 02/06/2016 21:36

Flisspapps. Apivita and BigApple11, thank you ladies for coming to my rescue! I'm strangely touched by this flurry of French experts! {smile}

Momentum is building for you, Prof and we are ALL rooting for you. It's good to see you back Apivita and I cannot believe this thread is stirring up your dreams!

I'm seriously delighted and remember, please do, Prof when you were feeling low a week ago how I told you things would look up and that life often has a funny way of sorting itself out. As my children tend to tell me 'you're always right, mummy. Well nearly always'! Grin

PGtips is always so good at coming up with solutions. But if you other ladies can give me a helping hand. Two weeks ago last time I saw Benoit the whole chemistry/tension things was spot on. He's taken the Jag away and should hopefully bring it back once it's been repaired and has passed (fingers crossed) the MOT so that I can put her up for sale. But so far, no news.

I am seriously missing not seeing him and would appreciate a little momentum here in my corner of France.

(PGtips is slowly pulling her hair out here.)

Muddlewitch · 02/06/2016 21:38

Hello everyone, thank you for the Birthday wishes, I've had a lovely day, breakfast in bed from the kids, flowers, cake and lunch out from my lovely work mates and then family time tonight. Pleasantly tipsy now Smile

Prof That is absolutely what you should do, that is perfect.

ThisIs I quite like the idea of popping into the garage to chat about what needs doing with the Jag, is there a 'good' time when B is likely to be alone/free to chat?

PG The reason he is off could be pretty much anything though, couldn't it? Long holiday, moving house, planned op/ medical procedure etc.