I've met someone and want to ask him out

[ProfessorPickles]

I've recently met someone who has really taken me by surprise. I've been single for around 3 years now, apart from a short relationship, and I'd had very little interest in men for a long time until I met him.

He's good looking but what got me by surprise is his personality, he's very smiley and has a great sense of humour. He makes me laugh and is a genuinely nice person. I haven't met someone who's even caught my eye for a long, long time so it's a little bit exciting!

The problem however, is that he's a teacher at my university. Not my teacher, but I have contact with him occasionally.
We are a similar age (I'm a slightly older student) and I will be leaving in 2 months so would wait until then.

I have no idea if he is interested in me too, but I can't believe I've had my head turned after so long of being adamant I was going to be happily alone forever so I feel it would be foolish to just ignore it.

My idea was to give him a 'thank you' card/gift as I am leaving (for helping with my work, I'll be giving them to two other members of staff) and put my number inside. I thought this would be good so he can choose to take it or leave it, as it's potentially a little bit inappropriate?
If he isn't interested he can simply ignore it to spare me the embarrassment of asking to his face! Although, I've known several teachers to get together with students once they've left so I suppose it isn't that radical of an idea.

Best case scenario: We go on a date, fall in love, get married, have children and tour the country with our family band.

Worst case scenario: He never contacts me and life goes on.

It's worth a try surely?

Glad you are feeling better about if was maybe someone wonderful will catch your eye over the summer!

I agree with LovePG about your man Thisis, I think a relaxed set up will suit you both perfectly.

Have you seen tutor man so far this week Prof?

No news from me I'm afraid! I'll have to try on Thursday as I won't be in tomorrow or Friday. The card has arrived today!

I know what time he goes for dinner roughly so I'm going to try walk past around that time like a bloody stalker

Ooh good plan!

I'm bored of myself thinking and talking about it at the minute, yet I can't bloody seem to stop!

Is there a restaurant or cafe on campus that he usually has lunch in?

I feel like I am stalking him now, and I don't even know him

I'm not sure where he goes if I'm honest, but I know he goes somewhere! Maybe I could follow him, stopping only to hide behind corners and conveniently placed shrubbery

The last thing I need is someone else catching my eye, muddle - I want to be freeeee.... the whole thing has thankfully subsided to a pleasantish, and manageable frisson again. Phew! The less you see them the easier it gets ....
Prof be patient, your time will come!

I usually have the patience of a saint but it has currently vanished both about tutor man and my uni work

I really think was is onto something with the Spring theory, I've been thinking a lot about 'the one that got away' lately, but today it rained all day and I have been a man-hating-cat-woman-in-training the whole time

You could wear a disguise and follow him prof, like this:



I think you should do that and let us know how you get on

Oh the picture didn't post..

I agree with the spring thing also, although the weather hasn't put me off today! I feel like a love sick teenager.

Yes I might try that not suspicious at all haha!

I was dealing with a very difficult man at work. I might have spent a bit too much time today running around the building saying "see this, THIS is why I stay single" to anyone that would keep still.z

That's so funny Muddle that made me laugh!
What did he do?!

He just thinks the world revolves around him and him only. And he makes lots of digs at people that he describes as 'banter/jokes' when challenged.

I absolutely hate that. Dickish behaviour being justified by it 'being a laugh', pfft!

Exactly. There was no laughing from me, but there was a lot of ranting.

Have you got exams at the moment?

I could just imagine you stomping around shouting it at passers by

No exams for me but plenty of assessments and assignment deadlines!

Tuning in here! Another lovesick teenager here in a different way to you ProfPickles but just as potent. Everybody has said the same thing to me recently. Whether you are twenty or seventy when love (or lust) strikes we all behave like fifteen year olds. So true in my case!

I can absolutely imagine how sick and tired you are of being so caught up in your brain with this wonderful man Prof in the knowledge that you cannot see him for quite a long time. Plus, how do you manage to concentrate on your work? My creativity went out of the window and is slowly creeping back, thank goodness.

It's almost painful. And wonderful. And scary. And exciting. And very, very frustrating.

Spring was definitely the culprit for me. I never dreamt I'd fall for a man ever again after the year of hell I've been through. After living in Greece for two years, many moons ago, I recall the potency of the sap rising in hotter climates. Oh my goodness; there were lovers on every street corner. It was a joy to behold and slightly bewildering too!

That intense, deep eye locking gaze way back in March was also the culprit. Yes, I'd found him attractive before but would never have felt anything if he hadn't instigated things.

Yay, great to see you back ThisIs. Your post was very romantic and almost poetic!
Has mechanic man and the boss been round yet?

I'm definitely struggling with my work at the minute, I'm doing a lot of "logical" straight forward tasks as anything that requires thought seriously isn't happening.

Hope all is well!

Why are you fannying around OP ? In a few weeks he will be history. A nice thank you card with your number will suffice.
Leave the ball in his court.

Ah yes the deep eye locking gaze was the culprit for me too Thisis! Any update on mechanic man?

I'm not fannying around Another, just being incredibly impatient
I have the card ready to write!

Snap, Prof! Lots of admin, logical things to attend to here (as well as divorcing a Narcissist and being a stable parent for my three DC) but it's absolutely pathetic how being lovesick has replaced all my creative energy.

I'm working on that! I have too as that' how I make money!

Tuesday morning came and went with no sign of two car mechanics! TBH I was almost wishing they wouldn't come because I had NO idea what to say, not say, etc. Ridiculous woman! And then I got highly irritated. I have so much to do which involves being out of the house and there I was blocked indoors. Had the Jag been taken away I could at least have ticked that off my to-do list. In other words, I completely understood that my old jag was not a priority after a long bank holiday weekend. I could obviously imagine that they had more pressing car problems to deal with and, to be honest, they have never let me down before but I would very much have like to be informed.

And then I got a little paranoid. Perhaps the boss's wife was pissed off because I'd had a few drinks with her husband and employees. I know I hadn't done anything wrong but I don't like upsetting people.

So I called Tuesday before closing time and found out that they had been absolutely rushed off their feet; the boss's wife sounded stressed but apologetic. She told me my car mechanic wanted to come the next morning but I told her it wasn't possible for me; how about Friday?

So, Friday I need to call in the morning to arrange a time.

And I still don't know what to do or say!

My best friend told me to just see how it goes; she's absolutely right, of course. I'll get a feel for things but I know myself, I'm just going to be sensible and polite and let the moment pass and then possibly kick myself.

Goodness, I sound like utterly pathetic! Good job I'm having a good laugh at myself.

So sorry for all the typos.