Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

Hugs isinde

Morning babes,

inside I'm so so sorry things are tough at home, I know it's been difficult for a while and I know how that unhappiness permeates every part of life making it exhausting. Kids are very very resilient and if it comes to it happy and separate is always better the together and miserable!!! Been there and done it.... Maybe you could consider some counselling or mediation of some sort to get some perspective, resentment warps reality a great deal in relationships. Big hugs to you my lovely friend, you are very much loved on here.

venus oh wise one... You were spot on In your analysis of my situation. If my bipolar head kicks in I know there are certain initially quite subtle changes that escalate to much bigger swings in my mood. My dh has been briefed and knows what to do if things go awry, thank you for your concern and wonderful advice xxx

elba claretwill and lala, loving the team spirit and genuine warmth that is shining through in your posts. I love the magic of this bus, never fails to inspire me and make me feel part of something elite and special.

I also watched the documentary last night, sadly it confirms what I have worried about in my own recovery, I I can stop drinking, it's hard but ive done it, it's the living that's hard... Nobody wants to lie in bed drinking alone in the dark, when you choose that over life, there's a reason but not always a clear solution, I wish there was.

I think I'm always gonna be fragile, a little girl in a grown up body but I have lots of great people around me who love me for that and after seeing last night's programme "there by the grace of God go I".

Hugely relieved to be well and sober if more than a little chubby, today's my boost button day so gonna embrace a healthier lifestyle and enjoy the journey....

Have a good day y'all xxxx

isinde so story that things are so tough for you. I have been on this bus long enough to remember the birth of your DTs. Well done on the AF weekend it must have taken a lot of strength not to pick up.
Hope you are able to come to some resolution with your DP and as someone who left an unhappy marriage I can tell you that the sun does shine again.
Sending you a hug even though they are not allowed on M N
I am going to join you all in being AF until Friday. I have already turned down an invite to go out for dinner tonight because for me it is really an excuse to drink .
I spend more time choosing the wine than I do choosing my food
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Sending positive vibes especially to ma in the hope that you get positive news

isinde well done on an Af weekend despite all the crap going on at home. I've not experienced separation first hand but my dh has (who is a twin) and he would 100% agree that seperated and happy is better than together and miserable.

sober I can totally understand why you turned down your dinner invite, we have people over tonight and I wish we didn't. Hate the temptation. But I will not drink.

Bloody diet has gone out the window today, on a course and the buffet was just too tempting. Blooming delish but a bugger for the waistline.

I was thinking more about the documentary from last night...a shame they didn't show a couple of less 'shocking' examples, i.e functioning alcoholics (holding down a normal life, job, family etc) I actually think that'd have been very hard hitting for many people (myself included). Think you said similar elba. The stories they showed were easy (or easier) to separate myself from...'I'm not that bad so I don't have a problem' and so on.

Anyway, interesting viewing at least.

Hope everyone is ok.

I was thinking that too claret, kind of thought "well I'm ok then". But that's false, after all, they didn't start off like that.

Jeez. I think the worst thing about being an alcoholic is just how bloody self absorbed I am capable of being.

Sorry guys, I was drinking when I posted last night.

I can't namecheck I'm afraid - there are too many people to name - I've been on this thread for so long. So many helpful, positive people. And I'm just a waste of bloody space at the moment.

I just need to get some momentum going. Need to get my brother's wedding (this coming weekend) over and done with. We don't get on very well unfortunately.

I'm also really wobbling over my SMART meetings. They are all dry and I feel like I am de-railing things.

Christ on a bike, did I happen to mention that drinking makes me just a teeny weeny bit self absorbed??

Me, me, me.........

tang you are most definitely not a waste of space! And don't feel you need to apologise (although I did the same not long ago so understand why)

Do you think you can get a few AF days under your belt this week? And do you have a plan for your brothers wedding?

Isinde sorry to hear about you and DP,

Just checking in to say hi. Hope everyone is ok. Cold and miserable and I have had that awful lingering hangover all day - not feeling bad but sort of fuzzy and not quite with it.

Determined to have an AF evening. Will pop back later. In the meantime

hi - i'm a long-time lurker and occasional poster under a different name

just watched the Louis theroux programme and I could see myself in every one of the people. depression, anxiety, loneliness, low self-worth. leading to drinking and caused by drinking I could see myself refusing to stop drinking when people around me desperately wanted me to. I could see myself reinterpreting health warnings because I didn't want to believe them.

I seem to be lucky in that even after drinking 20 - 25 units a day I could stop without terrible effects. the programme has made me determined never to get that close again.

tang you don't sound self absorbed at all, just like someone trying to cope. Keep posting.

claret I was kind of expecting it to look at the consequences for people who drink to excess but manage to function to some extent (like me ) as well as the more extreme examples. But i guess that wouldn't make for good TV!

Completely wasted day here, not even bothered to get dressed. Realised I'm using the fact that I can have the odd AF day as an excuse to binge whenever I have the opportunity. Stupid as it doesn't taste nice anymore, and drinking to 'feel better' makes me feel so much worse. But if I stick to my AF days this week there will be no opportunity to go crazy, need to get units down...I'm really scared about what it's doing to me.

lala claret and will will be cheering you on for day 1 this evening!

Hello, I have been reading and hiding .

Awful time at home, DP and I having major problems.

Finally facing up to my financial situation after being threatened with court. Got left in debt by DD's dad.
Now 3/4 bottle down after talking to debt management people and basically feeling like shit.

I did ok over the weekend had 'moderate' as in 2 glasses a night. Right now I just want to drink to forget. That isn't going to solve a thing.

On the plus side I've been to the park to collect leaves for homework (DD's not mine!)

Hope everyone is ok

Hi rarity good to hear from you!! I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with, it all sounds awful. I don't know what to say other than keep posting here, share, vent, whatever - but we're all here.

Here I am wishing for a quiet night but instead have to entertain guests. Boo.

Boo to guests!!
Hi claret planning on pyjamas, stodgy food and bed here. Hope you have a nice time.

I have just eaten three bags of crisps and two chocolate bars. Out of wine now and definitely squiffy. Pj time. My god it's barely 7pm

Good to hear from you rarity sorry you're also having problems but like claret said, vent away here.

are the babes having an AF day doing ok? So tired I think it will be a breeze!

Gosh this AF lark is hard. Not really craving but feeling extremely irritable, have a sore throat from shouting at my bickering children.

How is everyone else doing? Sounds like a lot of day ones

rarity that sounds like heaven! I just ate a bowl of carrot and coriander soup. Oh how virtuous I thought, AF AND nice healthy soup. Then accidentally scoffed the remains of an indian selection pack that had been left on the side...

will I am starting to struggle now. Was doing ok, but now I am getting a bit restless. It's raining here, otherwise I would go for a walk or something. How are you getting on?

elba how are you feeling? I completely understand what you mean about using the fact that you can have AF days here and there as a justification to drink to excess on the other six nights of the week...

Hope everyone is having a good evening...?

You're in SE Londonderry too aren't you Lala? I'm doing good, trying to decide whether to watch Marcella or Bea Gryils the island? That's if I stay awake that long!

I have my root canal tomorrow! Never had an injection in my gums so I guess ignorance is bliss as to what to expect . Poor ds did cry today after his Jab :( he said to the nurse "what have you got there? What's that sharp pointy thing?" Then he found out

London!

at Londonderry! I am indeed in London, although across the river from you it seems. Bloody cold and rainy and miserable here. Although I think that makes it easier not to drink? It's harder I find when the sun is shining... Weird Eh?

I can only share my root canal experience... I was living down in the West Country, stupidly hadn't registered with a dentist, and had the most excruciating pain in my tooth, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, literally it was painful enough to take my breathe away. NHS told me there was a six week waiting list, so my lovely dad paid for me to go private. The dentist literally did it there and then. Didn't feel a thing! Just wandered around in a state of bliss at finally being pain free for the first time in two weeks! really should face my fear of dentists and go for a check up very soon, it has been longer than j care to remember so that's a positive story for you! And well done ds, he is braver than me.

Wondering whether to bite the bullet and take the dog for a stroll in the rain. Although have to carry her as she hasn't had her second jabs yet.

Added a massive bag of kettle chips to my evening of snacking. I always eat so much when not drinking, I sort of justify it by thinking about all the calories I am not consuming in liquid form

at Londonderry! I am indeed in London, although across the river from you it seems. Bloody cold and rainy and miserable here. Although I think that makes it easier not to drink? It's harder I find when the sun is shining... Weird Eh?

I can only share my root canal experience... I was living down in the West Country, stupidly hadn't registered with a dentist, and had the most excruciating pain in my tooth, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, literally it was painful enough to take my breathe away. NHS told me there was a six week waiting list, so my lovely dad paid for me to go private. The dentist literally did it there and then. Didn't feel a thing! Just wandered around in a state of bliss at finally being pain free for the first time in two weeks! really should face my fear of dentists and go for a check up very soon, it has been longer than j care to remember so that's a positive story for you! And well done ds, he is braver than me.

Wondering whether to bite the bullet and take the dog for a stroll in the rain. Although have to carry her as she hasn't had her second jabs yet.

Added a massive bag of kettle chips to my evening of snacking. I always eat so much when not drinking, I sort of justify it by thinking about all the calories I am not consuming in liquid form

at Londonderry! I am indeed in London, although across the river from you it seems. Bloody cold and rainy and miserable here. Although I think that makes it easier not to drink? It's harder I find when the sun is shining... Weird Eh?

I can only share my root canal experience... I was living down in the West Country, stupidly hadn't registered with a dentist, and had the most excruciating pain in my tooth, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, literally it was painful enough to take my breathe away. NHS told me there was a six week waiting list, so my lovely dad paid for me to go private. The dentist literally did it there and then. Didn't feel a thing! Just wandered around in a state of bliss at finally being pain free for the first time in two weeks! really should face my fear of dentists and go for a check up very soon, it has been longer than j care to remember so that's a positive story for you! And well done ds, he is braver than me.

Wondering whether to bite the bullet and take the dog for a stroll in the rain. Although have to carry her as she hasn't had her second jabs yet.

Added a massive bag of kettle chips to my evening of snacking. I always eat so much when not drinking, I sort of justify it by thinking about all the calories I am not consuming in liquid form

Oh bloody hell, posted three times. Sorry!