Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

halle thank you so much, that was such a lovely post and I really appreciate your support. You have done so well and yes I would love to have that same feeling. and hugs to you as well xxx

claret I'm realising more that if i start it won't end until the bottle is finished (or two bottles, or more), but sometimes it helps (or brings me back to reality) to see how other people drink. I didn't see that thread, but Three bottles a week to me would be amazing and that is definitely something you should be proud of. This is a learning experience for all of us who are posting here, I don't think there is an easy answer, but you are critically reflecting and working on your own relationship with a massively powerful substance and you should be proud of that.

mrsmimsy hi and welcome to the bus!

ma thanks for saying I've made progress, in my head I have and I haven't...but I guess I'm acknowledging everything so that's a plus. I'm picturing your purple glowing hair now though

Not a great night here, had planned a meal but instead have eaten the grand total of one slice of toast and a banana today (please please don't think this is a boast, I know it's really not a good thing I just have no appetite). Had a couple of pints and a glass of wine, and again I'm hoping I will stop soon. Weird to type that as objectively I should be able to control myself...

Two biggish glasses tonight and feeling it so off to bed.
The rest will do for tomorrow so don't have to worry there is no booze in the house....

elba I will be about if you want to chat/vent xx

Waves at ma

Waves back at lala

Hey lala very impressed with pup...must be down to her lovely trainer/owner

I've done the meeting people I should know thing too..always gives me a massive complex about what I might of said, but can't remember, but my brain fills in the gaps with the worst possible scenarios...

I'm around for a bit too, would love a chat and a bit if distraction xxx

Oh for f@#k sake .... Yeah so turns out im banned from the restaurant where my sister in law is head chef and where we regularly go for drinks. Last time we were there was about 4/5 weeks ago and I was hammered and don't remember much. Anyway just text my sis in law about the kids and she said im banned for my behaviour that night and I am so mortified and gutted I must have made a right fool of myself. Apparently I was yelling at the manager and staff and in front of customers etc .... (I want the world to swallow me) im cringing!!!!!

I don't know what to say to my hubby .... He will be so mad

Oh halle, that was ages ago!!! Just ignore ignore ignore and concentrate on you and your goals.

elba seeing as i have a puppy who doesn't want to go to sleep, and I accidentally put huge amounts of that lazy chilli stuff in my stirfry, looks like I will be around for a while, trying to soothe my chillified mouth/throat. When will I learn that I can't cook???

Anyway elba fancy a random question game? I'll start... What did you want to be when you were growing up?

Opps. Killed it.

Can I join xxx

halle nothing will change what has happened in the past, just make sure it doesn't lead you to drink to cope with the memories (speaking from experience!), and take comfort in the fact that you have the power to stop it happening again.

lala you can never have too much chilli (chilli fiend here, nothing is ever too hot!). I apparently came out of nursery once and said I wanted to either be a policewoman or a one man band...I think the one man band would of been the way to go! But in reality I always wanted to be what I am now (if only I'd known...!). I actually think my 'go back in time ' choice would be an archaeologist. So your question is what would your perfect career be now? No restrictions, just what you would be doing in a perfect world!

I have a strange phobia of one man bands. I love my actual job, but would love to have worked with plants like at a massive ornamental garden type stately home. Or been a tree surgeon. I'd love to be outside as part of my job.

I've had family round tonight and we had 2 bottles between 3 of us. Going to go to bed shortly and not having any more!

lala and hale you disappeared

cauliflower anything active and based outside would suit me!

hello well done, that shows serious restraint and self control.

Night all, going to try to go to bed in a minute xxx

Thank you Elba, that made me smile

Night all

Morning you lovely lot,

So so much I want to say, I get so frustrated that I can't articulate how much I feel for everyone struggling, how many uncanny parallels to my own past life and how ludicrous I know it sounds when I say that getting sober whilst terrifying at points is liberating. I heard someone say, being sober allows me to respond to life rather than react, I think that sums it up really!!!

It was my birthday on Wednesday and went to the gym, had coffee with friends and dinner out with my dd's and lovely friends, not a thought of alcohol, more interested in enjoying a nice meal, never wanted food before as it would kill my buzz!! What an fool!!!

My last birthday was horrible, I lay in bed, in the dark, unwashed and drunk, much like any other day, so sad for me and my family, mustn't look back though....

I'm off to body attack, booked a last minute holiday for 6 weeks time so need to drop some weight pretty, as always my excitement for a new adventure is marred with the big question, can I stay sober?, will I relapse??? I hope not, I relapsed on my last holiday and ruined it for everyone.

halle and elba I'm rooting for each of you with real passion and warmth, infact that goes for everyone in here, I'll come back later but in the meantime, "do something fabulous today cos your trading a day of your life for it, make it happen" xxx

Belated Happy Birthday Baby xx

Happy birthday, Baby. Good on you for making this year different.

Halle - that's unfortunate about the restaurant but there's nothing you can do to change the past. Focus on what you are doing in The Now.

I'm hanging in there - actually not really. I'm a ghost, just going through the motions with the children, putting on big smiles for them (though I'm not fooling the eldest). I just want The Man I Lived So Much to turn up on the doorstep, admit he needs help with his issues and fast forward a year to being a healed, happy family.

It will never happen, I know: he cannot self-reflect at all.

What's happened with your husband pink? Xxx hugs xx

Happy Birthday baby sounds like you had a lovely day

Just noticed you asked yesterday how SW was going for me Claret, I actually got my stone award on Tuesday evening so seems to be working for me .

wow obrigada well done!

Thanks guys for the birthday wishes, just so relieved to be well and sober to enjoy it.

obrigada a stone is bloody brilliant, can I ask how long it took? I need to shift as much as possible in 7 weeks, doing 4 classes at the gym a week and I'm trying to stick to protein, fruit and veg with lower carbs, I hate the thought of being hot and sweaty on holiday, want to enjoy this one without my thighs rubbing together. I have 3 stone to lose!! Xxx

Hi Baby, it took me 8 weeks to lose the stone , plenty of veg, veg and more veg . I have another stone and a half (if not more) to lose so fingers crossed I keep losing on a regular basis ... fingers crossed!