DH is odd mood, concerned

[cresta]

I am a mixture between worried and very angry. The alarm went off at 7am this morning, I started to shuffle around etc, looked over to DH who was wide awake, the alarm is at his side so I asked him to turn off the alarm, he said "no, you do it" .

So I turned off the alarm (bit stroppy by this point) and said I was making a cuppa, did he want one...he said "no".

So I went downstairs, made a drink, made the kids breakfast, it was getting on for 7:30 so I went upstairs and asked DH if he was getting up for work, he said "no". I went back to get the kids ready for school, 8am still no sign of DH, I went back upstairs to see him lying there still wide awake! I told him he was going to be late for work and he replied "no I wont, I'm not going". I asked if he was ill and he just said "no". I was getting really wound up by this point so went back to the kids, shouted to DH that we were leaving for school and got no reply .

So anyway, I got back in the house around 10:30 and DH is sat watching tv, I asked if he'd phoned work and he said "No", I asked him what the hell was wrong and he told me to fuck off and leave him alone! . Anyway since then he's been much the same all day, the only words he's speaking are "no" and "fuck off". I don't understand, we've had no arguments, everything was fine last night, just this morning he's a completely different person, he's NEVER acted like this before.

Is he looking for attention or what??

A hallucinating DH would be alarming enough, without the violence.

Please, cresta, what would you say if your (adult) DD, or sister, came to you and said:

My husband has started, over time, to hit me sometimes. And now he appears to be seeing things, and doesn't realise they're not real.

What would you tell her to do?

Must just mention this; many of you have advised that Cresta get their GP to come out.. that just doesn't happen anymore does it (except maybe on EastEnders! ) In my experience and those of everyone I know, you ring.. you get an out-of-hours service/receptionist, you are advised of either a GP callback (some time in next few hours!) or to go to A&E or nearest out-of-hours clinic in your area. Nobody comes out.

And if it wasn't out-of-hours, they would want Cresta's DH to come for an appointment and he's not going to do that.

I think Cresta it might be a good idea for you a phone a mental health helpline at least, and get some professional advice on a confidential basis at this stage, if that's what you want. You can desribe to the person on the phone what you've told us and see what they advise; we are only giving our opinions based on our own common sense; you need more than that.

If you look here , near the bottom of the page is a list of areas in the country with phone numbers to ring for advice. If I was in your position I would do this now, at least. I know it must be difficult to rock the boat, but his behaviour is not normal and is obviously getting worse so you owe it not only to yourself but to your children to do something about it. Phone today while he is out at work.

GPs can come out to section someone..I think that might have been the inplication forgive me if wrong

Correct me if I'm wrong as well... but I doubt setioning would occur that easily in this situation; after all, Cresta has not even sought medical help before. And don't two family members have to sign to say that they feel the person needs sectioning as they are danger to themsevles and/or others?

Correct me if I'm wrong as well... but I doubt setioning would occur that easily in this situation; after all, Cresta has not even sought medical help before. And don't two family members have to sign to say that they feel the person needs sectioning as they are danger to themsevles and/or others?

Make an appointment for yourself to see your GP. Write down what is happening before you go so you don't forget anything and get some advice. Quickly.

I'm not suggesting that he needs sectioning just an observation that i thought that was one possibility for a gp coming out

I would contact my own gp if I was the poster

and they can't do it alone only in conjunction with professionals etc etc not family and various other rules, but a gp would be most likely to be involved..

Don't get me wrong, Zippi, I think GPs should come out.. they just don't! Also, if Cresta arranged for the GP to come and see DH and home, what would happen when the GP left??

I think you going to the GP is a good idea Cresta, especially if you and DH have the same one.

I do too..

How is he this morning Cresta, has he gone to work?

hi cresta
im a regular but have name changed as dp would not be happy if he knew i was posting this.

It was about 4 years ago now, dp started acting very strange would allways be listening out for noises, i would wake up to find him sitting up in bed just watching nothing and listening to nothing.
It turned out he was having a nervous breackdown and was hearing voices and halucinating. he was convinced someone was watching us and took apart the tv and light and plug switches and holes.
I would say that maybe your dp is going through something simular, my dp wouldnt go to work as he was convinced me and ds would be in danger if he did leave the house.

so maybe the mouse traps is his way of protecting his family from these mice hes been seeing.

the only advice i can you is
1)you need to see a doctor staright away, they should provide some sleeping tablets if hes listening out for noises and things.then they will sort out some other mediction suitable for him.

and 2) dont tell him that their is nothing their, it could turn him against you even more, tell him you belive him that their was a mouse on the top of the door no matter how silly it sounds, he needs to feel that you are on his side not against him.

My dp is all better now after a long 2 years on medication he is all better but i still have to watch him carefully just incase.

Good luck and please stay safe xxxxx

A person will only be sectioned if they are considered to represent a significant risk to themselves or someone else. Nowadays, "significant risk" means that they are likely to commit suicide or murder someone.
My sister is a GP & heartily wishes she could section considerable numbers of her patients, but the criteria are very exclusive at the moment. Mainly a funding problem of course!

There is a condition called Steroid Psychosis which is psychosis brought on by use of certain steroids.

PLEASE go to your GP and discuss this situation. He or she does not need to come to your house but you need to have professional advice.

My GP came out last week when my back was bad and I couldn't get out of the house. They still do home visits every day - just not for coughs and colds like when we were young!

Yep - our GP's do home visits if absolutely necessary. I would say that this was one of those occasions, tbh.

Quite often, when you have a mental illness, you dont know you do, and thus you are not likely to think you need help nor want to see a doctor....doctors are well aware of this.

yes definitely

Hi everyone,

Thanks again for the replies, he seemed a bit better late last night, we were having a laugh again, watched a bit of TV together and we went to bed feeling good, I thought maybe it was just a one off but when DH told me to be carefull around the bed I realised he'd set up 4 mousetraps under the bed I mentioned that we'd agreed to just 2 in the bedroom and he said he was sure they were running around under the bed in the night. I didnt want to cause an argument with him so just left it. Anyway, fell asleep...1:30am I woke up to find DH diving out of bed in a panick, I asked what was wrong and he said he thought the house was on fire, he said he could see the flicker of fire in the hallway. Anyway he checked the house etc, realised there was no fire and I pointed out to him that with a fire smoke would be the first sign...well actually in our house the super sensitive fire alarm would be the first sign! He got back into bed and laid there looking at the hallway saying he could still see it and telling me to look. I fell asleep after a bit, don't know what happened to him after that but this morning he said he had woken up after having a nightmare that he'd been kidknapped and tortured, I asked what kind of torture and he said there were japanese girls being ordered by a man to torture the hostages (of which he was one) and the bloke in front of him had had his fingers trapped in a mousetrap and the boss man was wriggling it around breaking all his fingers , so apparantly that's why he woke up.

Changer - thanks for sharing that with me, it sounded quite familiar as today DH has gone around the house putting celotape over any holes or cracks in the walls as he's sure mice are getting in through them.

He didn't go to work today but he's been alot nicer and has said he's going back tomorow, he just needed to finish off mouse-proofing the house.

I want to give it one last go at talking to him, about steroids, making me go to the gym/kickboxing, the OCD etc and if that doesn't work I'm going to make an apointment to see the GP, I need to see her anyway as my headaches have become daily and are getting worse, I think it's stress.

Glad you are ok Cresta but have to agree.

Get the doctor out urgento. Before the school collection etc. Not sure how old your DC are but they do not need to bear witness to any of this.

You obviously love the man because you are tolerating what he's doing but you must understand that he's having a mental health BREAKDOWN and he needs help.

Help yourself and the children, I do not see this getting any better without medical assistance. Imagine if he goes to work and starts yelling that there's a fire, what action they take could be very scary for him.

Please, please think of yourselves. Get onto the doctor. There really isn't any time to waste, particularly as he has been violent with you.

If you love him then you really need to get him some help. if you don't love him you really need to pack your bags and get out!

Get the GP out now! He is definately having some sort of mental breakdown and he needs professional help!

My brother was like this last years and ended up being sectioned.Do something now

I have to agree that you're burying your head in the sand. How can you possibly have thought this was a one-off, given your previous thread?

This needs dealing with, not brushed under the carpet. He needs help, and if he won't get it then you and the children need to put your own needs before his.

Ask your GP for the number of your local mental health team - I believe that you can contact them without a referral from the GP.