DH is odd mood, concerned

[cresta]

I am a mixture between worried and very angry. The alarm went off at 7am this morning, I started to shuffle around etc, looked over to DH who was wide awake, the alarm is at his side so I asked him to turn off the alarm, he said "no, you do it" .

So I turned off the alarm (bit stroppy by this point) and said I was making a cuppa, did he want one...he said "no".

So I went downstairs, made a drink, made the kids breakfast, it was getting on for 7:30 so I went upstairs and asked DH if he was getting up for work, he said "no". I went back to get the kids ready for school, 8am still no sign of DH, I went back upstairs to see him lying there still wide awake! I told him he was going to be late for work and he replied "no I wont, I'm not going". I asked if he was ill and he just said "no". I was getting really wound up by this point so went back to the kids, shouted to DH that we were leaving for school and got no reply .

So anyway, I got back in the house around 10:30 and DH is sat watching tv, I asked if he'd phoned work and he said "No", I asked him what the hell was wrong and he told me to fuck off and leave him alone! . Anyway since then he's been much the same all day, the only words he's speaking are "no" and "fuck off". I don't understand, we've had no arguments, everything was fine last night, just this morning he's a completely different person, he's NEVER acted like this before.

Is he looking for attention or what??

Cresta, I have a completely different image of your husband on the 'kick boxing' thread to the one here. On this thread you give the impression that this is utterly out of the norm behaviour for your husband. Are you in denial that your husband has problems?

the kickboxing/abuse mentioned does indicate it could be steroid use of some sort.

I kickbox and I'm not at all agressive outside of training. Could somebody give me a synposis of previous thread (or link)

Does he actually fight? what level?

This is the other thread, and it casts a completely different light on the matter.

Are you still there, Cresta?

Cresta - your op on this thread makes me concerned for your dh. But remembering the other thread about kickboxing, I am now far more concerned for you and your children.

my dp is a kickboxer.

the most important thing his tutor tells him is that kickboxing uses self discipline.

he can have his fighting registration taken off him for using his 'sport' in any other way, if this is what he is doing.

as for todays post.is something very wrong at work?

please be safe

OMFG I just read the OP and it turned my stomach. This is not right! and from what you said I'm not even sure he should be teaching.

There is quite alot of respect issues that come with MA's

What dan is he? and does he fight, what level?

The first thing you should be tought is basic moves and how to spa safely and keep yourself out of trouble. not have somebody battering you in the face in your front room.

I am truly shocked.

My first guess based on limited info is steroids. how big is he? and how big are you?

This is not right in the slightest!

can't stop thinking about this.

Just read the following on the previous thread
"It;s not just me he's aggressive with either, he was arrested last year for assault on a man in a nightclub and he has recently being barred from his local, he has also being disqualified from ring fights on many occasions. I don't want to leave him, I just want him to understand that some people like different things, it doesnt mean I respect him any less."

I honestly don't think this man should be teaching children martial arts! I don't think you should be sticking around either.

What happens when he loses it with one of your children?

More and more I think it might be steroid based.

Well remembered WWB. Cresta, could it be steroid abuse possibly? Really worried about you all now.

Thanks for the replies,

I think maybe there could be drugs involved, I have asked him outright about this a few months ago and he got very angry and told me to keep out of his business.

I'm not sure what level he fights at or anything like that, I try to take as little interest as possible (the other thread will explain why) He is 6.1", not sure about his weight but he trains alot and uses the gym alot so he's pretty big. I am 5.9", I have lost alot of weight since he started making me take up his hobby so now weigh 9st.

He's never lost his temper with the kids but has become more violent towards me, its no longer disguised as training either.

We do get on great most of the time but his temper is terrible, he no longer teaches the kids at the class, just adults, I'm not sure why as he wouldn't say.

anyway today got worse, he still wouldn't speak to me by 2:30 when I went to pick the kids up, when I got back I went to a friends for a cuppa and expected him to phone asking where I was but he didn't, when I got back he'd been setting mouse traps all over the house, I asked if we had mice and he said he didnt know?? I asked why he was setting traps and he said "just in case". He'd bought a pack of 20 and had set them all.

He's still acting very strange, even with the kids, he's usually very playful with them if he's here when they get in from school but today he just asked if they'd seen mice anywhere and if they ever do they're to tell him straight away.

Not spoken to him since, I want to ask if he's going to training tonight because if he is I will no doubt be "encouraged" to go too and will need to prepare mentally for it, if not I can relax, he usually would be going but given his mood maybe he won't...I don't want to bring it up though incase it reminds him!

Feeling quite sad and exhausted by it all today

Jesus. it's not safe to have lots of mousetraps around if you have young kids.

Sounds llike steroids if he just told you to mind your business. I would call a doctor to be honest.

I would also refuse to go training.

I couldn't help think about paranoia when you said about the mousetraps. I really think you should call your GP out.

Mouse phobia??? Or maybe something scared him shitless last night and he thinks he saw or heard something... supernatural.. (maybe?) and wants to blame it on mice for his own state of mind!

He sounds very unstable. Most men would share what was on their mind if it was affecting them to this degree

call out gp

"Or maybe something scared him shitless last night and he thinks he saw or heard something... supernatural.. (maybe?) and wants to blame it on mice for his own state of mind! "

It's funny you should say that, a few nights ago I woke up to see him sitting upright in bed, I asked what was wrong and he said he'd seen the door moving and kept telling me to be quiet...I said it was probably just a draft and he got angry and said it wasnt just the door, it was the dressing gown that was hanging on the door...I never gave it a 2nd thought, maybe he is just being a bit paranoid after thinking he'd seen something.

Hmm. I thinking drug-induced-paranoia more rather than ghosts, Cresta.

Ask outright "Right, what's with the mousetraps? What did you hear in the night?"

Please please, call out your GP. Regardless of how angry he might get... if anything that's more of a reason to do it.

Actaully, go back a second... where di he get the mouse traps from? I presume he went out when you went out?? which wouldn't fit with his charcter you described for the rest of the day...?

He must've gone out, I went out at 2:30 and got back around 4:15....
I'll ask him in a few minutes what he's playing at and where he got them from.

I'm going to go and put some tea on but Ill check back on here when I can and keep you updated.

Cresta - call the GP.

read this.

i have a dh who scares me and beats me up sometimes, he forces me to excersise with him.

he is a sportman and goes to the gym regularly. this morning he refused to go to work would speak to me and when he did told me to fuck off.

now he is setting mouse traps all over the house.

CALL THE GP

He sounds as though he's having some kind of mental health problem. He needs to be seen by a professional ASAP. Call your GP for advice.

Do you think he could be trying to come off the steroids?

Read this:

Administration of AS may affect behavior. Increased testosterone levels in the blood are associated with masculine behavior, aggressiveness and increased sexual desire. Increased aggressiveness may be beneficial for athletic training, but may also lead to overt violence outside the gym or the track. There are reports of violent, criminal behavior in individuals taking AS. Other side effects of AS are euphoria, confusion, sleeping disorders, pathological anxiety, paranoia, and hallucinations.

Anabolic steroid users may become dependent on the drug, with symptoms of withdrawal after cessation of drug use. The withdrawal symptoms consist of aggressive and violent behavior, mental depression with suicidal behavior, mood changes, and in some cases acute psychosis. At present it is unknown which individuals are particularly at risk. It is likely that great individual differences in responsiveness may exist. Some individuals try to minimize the withdrawal affects by administration of human choriogonadotropins (hCG), in order to enhance endogenous testosterone production. However, it is unknown in how far the hCG administration is successful in ameliorating the withdrawal effects.

Agree with custy. Call the GP.

or just getting the side effects

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I am almost positive (from what you've said) that he is using steroids and I really really urge you to call your gp