Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

That's good work Trills!

It's like a badge of bravery isn't it?! I did a first date................ sober. Victoria Crosses all round.

But then trills, as you said, and I agree, a first OLD is the zero-th date. the second OLD is the first date. In real terms. I know what you mean. In real life, you'd have met the person, quite possibly sober! seeing as how you don't go in to work or to the gym sozzled.

I bet I get slagged off by tortured musician guy for our second date. I was an idiot though. I fell backwards out of a taxi, cracked my head on the kerb and he had to take me to hospital to get my head glued. To be honest, that wasn't drink related though. I am just a clumsy idiot .

Hahaha shame

True about the zeroth date. In real life you'd have met them sober but there'd have been no expectations. You'd have been able to meet them and say hi and exchange numbers.

An OLD first date, while it is really the zeroth date, has expectations and you have to sustain conversation for a period of time. I find that easier to do with a new person if I have a drink.

Did you know there have been 102 posts on 7th April already? That's too many, surely?

I know, it's mad but there are expectations.

Stay classy shame !!

Did anybody have a date on the 7th April!

Handy exactly. So sanctimonious to sit there and tell me why he is special!! Geez. That was a joyless date.

See, I have never met anyone in the gym (what is a gym?) or a shop or at work even and gone right up and asked them for their number. All my relationships have started with drunken nights out, snogging on the dancefloor to some crappy indie music, ringing each other's phone over chips after and then arranging to meet in the pub a couple of days later.

In yorkshire dating is a new concept... so yeah I have really struggled with meeting someone I have never spoken to IRL and never shared a drunken snog with. Hence why a sober first date seems so far outside my realm of normal.

Trills had a date but dumped him for a chinese

Well, me neither, but apparently this happens to other people.

oh same here shameandregret I didn't date in my youth either. That scenario, ringing each other's phones over chips, that was as close to a date as I got and even then, I'm racking my brains.
I did once meet a man by the last supper (caravaggios) in a gallery. what a couple of knobbers we were. we were in our late 20s. I'd laugh now if I met a man and he suggested that. At the time I thought it was beautiful

I did indeed.

Bad signs from this guy:

Cancelled a date - and he didn't proactively message me to cancel, I messaged him the night before to ask when/where and he cancelled then.

Didn't communicate in between planning date and date itself.

When we met (at a place of his choosing), he was standing outside. He hadn't made any attempt to get a table. I'd expect a sensible person to either have booked ahead of time, or to at minimum have checked the wait time and either put our names down or decided that we would go somewhere else. He hadn't even been inside, was just standing outside. It turned out to be very busy so we went to a pub instead.

Generally was awkward with words and I didn't find him at all attractive.

What's the MH line for why you won't sleep with someone on the first date? Got a feeling I might need it!

freaky
you mightn't fancy bacon! He might have a really high pitched voice, or he might have a bit too much saliva in the corners of his mouth.

I don't know though, what does MH say? I wouldn't want to so I don't have to worry about being tempted. I just never want to that soon.

Ooh Freaky !!!

I think something along the lines of 'part of me would love to, but I don't move that fast'

Or 'I think you have me confused with a version of me that's been on many more dates than you'

knows MH word for word

Is Bacon getting saucy???

Pissed off re the Twix situation. I think it's cos he doesn't phone.

11 days of texts. Meh....

Hahah 314 re saliva in the corner of his mouth.

Trills Oh god, that sounds awful!

And "dating" is a weird concept. Last time I was single, I was 23. Went out with my mates every weekend in a big crowd. ExP was the friend of a friend so we hung out until we decided we fancied each other, got drunk, snogged and we were boyfriend/girlfriend. That was that for 12 years! So easy and so different now.

That's good. " part of me would like to but i don't move that fast''. That's good. It's not a knock back. It's "keep trying".

Howling at your comment 314 about saliva in corners of the mouth

Yeah, Trills you were totally right to bin him in favour of a takeaway.... Terrible.

How have you not met Bacon yet? I feel like I've been hearing about him for weeks! He seems like a well-established character.

Freaky had a date set up with him ages ago, Trills but there was a family emergency.

Hence the apparent familiarity of the man.

You're totally right 314. Except...I have been stalking and found a video of him and he has a nice voice (lovely accent!) and I couldn't see any excess saliva. But there could be any number of things that would cause non-fancying so will not get carried away...just wanted to have a couple of MH lines tucked away.

But yeah, Handy getting a little saucy. My fault though, I totally started it! But also called a stop to it, which I am feeling proud of.

Sorry about the Twix situation. It really does suck. Don't think of it as 11 days, start the countdown from now. Why is he not phoning?