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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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dementedma · 09/04/2016 18:27

Isinde deepest shit possible
Isinde car which ran over a rabbit! Murderer!!!!
We got our new cat today. Jericho Jones has come home.

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
ClaretAndBlue30 · 09/04/2016 19:33

Thanks for clearing that up; isinde etc is a genius name!

Hope you're ok will. Will be thinking of you tomorrow on the anniversary of your mums passing Flowers

elba thank you for your concern, that touched me, it means a lot. Hope you're ok.

WillAndDisgrace · 09/04/2016 19:40

Thanks claret....tomorrow she would have been 64...not her anniversary but still think of all the tags she's missed out on, grandkids etc... Thanks for thinking of me.

I hope elba is ok today.

ma, he looks at home already Grin

ClaretAndBlue30 · 09/04/2016 19:53

Sorry will wrote that in a rush, I meant your mums birthday. It must be very hard. Thinking of you, be kind to yourself tomorrow.

Hope all other babes are ok.

WillAndDisgrace · 09/04/2016 20:50

Well, I'm quite proud of myself! Had a few beers, set s limit and stuck to it. Now a cuppa in hand and thinking of bad already! Rock and roll lol

Night babes Brew

WillAndDisgrace · 09/04/2016 20:51

Bed! Not bad Shock

venusandmars · 09/04/2016 21:00

will thinking of bad is quite ok Grin

WillAndDisgrace · 09/04/2016 21:04

Phew! Coz I do that a lot venus! Grin

PuppysMum1 · 09/04/2016 21:31

I love reading all of your posts, they're truly inspiring. I posted a while back about trying to stop and have failed miserably, maybe it's the holidays.

I have however arranged for some hypnotherapy and this gives me some hope. I'm rereading Allen Carr's book but his instruction to carry on drinking whilst reading the book is a green light / justification to get drunk pretty much every night.

Does anyone else constantly worry about the impact of drinking on their health? Over the last month my mouth has become very sore and inflamed and I find myself googling various alcohol related cancers. Am I alone in this alcohol related hypochondria? The irony is this doesn't seem to stop me from drinking.

Elba84 · 09/04/2016 21:48

Well done will I know sticking to a limit and stopping is never as easy as it sounds! I'm ok thank you, unexpectedly ended up looking after a friends puppy for the day (lovely but totally nuts springer) which has been a nice distraction. I will be thinking of you tomorrow Flowers

Currently on 65 units since this time last week, including my one AF day (have at least got back to honestly tracking units). 5.30 start for work tomorrow so enforced moderating tonight, but planning on trying another AF day tomorrow. Have stocked up on soft drinks so we will see! I have the GP Monday morning and it wouldn't look good to turn up hungover!

venusandmars · 09/04/2016 22:30

elba that's a good plan for tomorrow - what else can you do? throwing out the wine that is in the fridge, or arranging to drive somewhere late at night, or coming on here and posting every 20 minutes, or getting a non-drinking friend to come and eat dinner with you...... ?

Well done on being clear about your units. It's a lot, isn't it? And it's scary how easy it is to get to that level. Please keep on being honest with yourself about how many units you are drinking - tell us if it helps you - and don't ever worry about being criticised on here. None of us would be here if we were easily sticking to the 14 units per week....

venusandmars · 09/04/2016 22:38

puppy keep on going with the Allen Carr book, and then follow his final instructions with as much fervour as you are following his instructions to carry on drinking (for the moment).......

Whatever is happening with your mouth, it is good that you are aware that drinking too much might be one of the causes - your subconscious is telling you something... for a start it is telling you to post here...

Of course getting on top of your drinking is a challenge, but it is possible.

Elba84 · 09/04/2016 23:26

It is a lot venus, scary thing is it's probably not a lot for me. Have been at points where it's over 100, whilst working 50 plus hours a week...so basically reluctant moderation (ish) followed by massive binges whenever I had the chance. 14 units a week feels pointless to me...I can double that in a night!! I won't get home until 9.30 tomorrow night (if I finish work on time) so my logic is maybe I can start to take advantage of how tired I am after work and use it to my advantage.

As to what else I can do, Monday night I got absorbed in a colouring book which was actually really helpful so I guess I will try that again. Also I made a massive effort to drink more water at work (often get home really dehydrated) which leads to the downing of lots of beer then wine.

I will have alcohol in the house though, Monday night I put a bottle of wine in the wardrobe so I could get it without leaving my room just in case Blush I've said before that I'm terrified of going to bed but it's because I have panic attacks and sometimes half awake flashbacks/dreams and if I drink I'm less scared of trying to go to sleep Blush It's pathetic but I need something to self medicate with.

Elba84 · 09/04/2016 23:36

puppy you are totally not alone in worrying about the effects on your health. I'm in the position at work of having seen most of the 'worst case scenarios' ...yet I also still drink! I know exactly how it can effect every system of my body. Just proves how powerful alcohol is really, doesn't it?

Keep posting here, it really does help.

Newmamatobe · 09/04/2016 23:42

Hi,

Aw Elba hang in there!! I was told sugary sweets can help cravings as there's lots of sugar in alcohol. BUT my reply at the time was WTF!!!

What do people think about problems with alcohol being an illness and not about willpower?

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 12:54

Hi can I join the bus?
I'm a binge drinker, drink wine (couple of glasses) every night. But then I will have a blowout.
Like last night, I have patchy memories and put myself in some dangerous situations, do things I would never normally do.
I'm hungover as hell and I do not want to do this anymore.

dementedma · 10/04/2016 13:03

Welcome sarahlou. Come and join the happy throng.
As MIFLAW used to say using willpower to control alcohol abuse is about as effective as using willpower to control diarrhoea.

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 13:16

And yet I can go days without drinking. So I don't understand why I do this to myself. I don't like who I am when I drink.

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 13:22

And when I have a blowout it is months apart in time.

WillAndDisgrace · 10/04/2016 13:46

Welcome sarahlou, you've taken the first step....today is day one. You may have a few more day ones but they will get less and less apart.

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 13:55

Thank you. I feel like I've poisoned myself today. Completely lousy Sad

ClaretAndBlue30 · 10/04/2016 15:15

Welcome sarahlou be kind to yourself today, it's a horrid feeling and we've all been there. Yesterday is in the past Flowers

ClaretAndBlue30 · 10/04/2016 15:20

newmama my personal view is that I have an illness....not necessarily alcoholism (although I'm less convinced of that than I once was) but certainly something within me that means I have no control over alcohol. I actually consider myself to have a lot of willpower (to diet, to run marathons, to study) but when it comes to alcohol willpower simply doesn't come into it. I agree with MILFLAWS saying about diarrhoea, that's very accurate.

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 15:32

Thank you Claret. I did something awful last night, and I need to try to find a way to forgive myself. I had a row with my partner and ended up at someone else's house. I was very very drunk. Despite saying I did not want sex just a cup of tea and a chat. Well the inevitable happened. I didn't actually say no, I participated, but I don't think i was in full control of my choices. I certainly wouldn't have done it sober. I feel awful, haven't told my partner and don't intend to. It would destroy him. I feel awful, really sick to my stomach.

sarahlou75 · 10/04/2016 16:31

If that isn't a wake up call then God knows what would be. I feel deeply ashamed and very very stupid.

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