Hello and hugs to you, genie, and big congrats to you on your 9 weeks! That's amazing! 
I was the queen of barely touching a glass of wine while out for the evening with friends - but then coming home and putting down a bottle (or more) behind closed doors
Oh god, yes to this. The vast majority of my problem drinking was done in secret, and even now, I don't find it difficult to stay sober when I'm out socialising with friends - I find it much more triggery to be alone at home or in the private enclosed space of my office, when I'm feeling anxious or down. Those are the times when I still sometimes really crave a drink.
But yes, it does get easier, god yes! There's a little book published by AA called Living Sober that I found very helpful in the beginning - it has practical tips on how to distract yourself and ride out cravings, etc. The evenings were definitely my hardest time too, early on. I drank a lot of chilled beverages - tonic water with ice and lime, Becks Blue (alcohol-free beer is controversial - some people avoid it as they feel it increases their craving for the real thing, but for me, I've found it's been fine). Just going to bed early can help too. But seriously, I suspect the only thing that really works is time. You just have to ride out the difficult early days. Sorry that's not very helpful! I remember someone with long-term sobriety telling me that the cravings would eventually subside, and I was incredulous. But it's true; on the vast majority of evenings now, the thought of a drink never crosses my mind. Hurrah!
I don't keep any alcohol in the house though. I don't want to open the fridge or the cupboard and have the possibility of drinking cross my mind.
Also, if I'm going to be perfectly honest, to some degree I've substituted evening food snacking for evening alcohol consumption. 
Obvs this isn't ideal but it's proof to me that addictive tendencies are part of who I am more generally. It's very tempting to overdose on sugar/fat late at night in the same way that I used to overdose on alcohol. At the beginning, when I was working so hard to stay sober, I didn't worry about the overeating too much. (Your body is craving the sugar that it used to get from the alcohol anyway.) But now I'm trying to focus more on eating well and eating less erratically. Still, all things considered, snacking on junk food is not going to put me at risk of losing my family, my job and my life in the same way that alcoholism was doing. I've put on some weight since getting sober (to anyone reading this, PLEASE don't let it put you off sobriety!). I think it's more common to lose weight rather than gaining weight when you stop drinking, because alcohol has so many calories, but in my case, I think I was drinking instead of eating proper food, and once I started enjoying food again (plus doing the late-night snacking), I gained weight. But it's a measure of how happy I am to be sober that I would rather be a bit overweight and off the booze rather than skinny and completely alcohol-dependent!
I also often chew gum now in the evenings. A rather disgusting habit, but again, better than drinking.
A lot of AA members still smoke like fiends, I've noticed! I've never smoked (sigh of relief).
Some people also turn into exercise fanatics, apparently. Weirdly enough this hasn't happened to me. 
Everyone is different and you just have to keep finding a way to cope that works for you (to paraphrase venus 's wise words above). But please please do carry on, because it does get easier!