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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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ClaretAndBlue30 · 19/04/2016 18:53

Quiet on here today! I'm assuming all babes are out luxuriating in the sun that we (hopefully all) are having Smile

lala hope your DM is not annoying you as much as she was earlier. Is it possible for you to get away for a few hours?

WillAndDisgrace · 19/04/2016 19:23

lala, I think te stately homes thread helps with situations like yours with your mum....might be worth a read for some advice and coping techniques? Hope your day is going better.

I've been busy doing my sons room up, coat of paint and a re arrange and it looks so much better! Ding dinner now :)

laladidah · 19/04/2016 19:56

Thanks will and claret. Been out for a few hours riding my horse. But got home and all hell has broken loose as always...

I know it sounds stupid, but I ordered some things on Amazon for the puppy ( under the influence of the old vino), I wanted to send it back. She flipping well opened my post and threw the packaging in the bin, and now the receipts or whatever are gone. So that's me £40 out of pocket.

When I pointed out it was illegal to open someone else's post (yes I am vindictive), she went for me, clawed at my arm and told me to get out of the house... If only I could... Sad

laladidah · 19/04/2016 19:57

will what are you having for dinner?

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:03

And now there is wine in my room. I am so frustrated with my life. I feel like I am trapped, I can't do anything or move anywhere. I need to move before I do her an injury, or more likely vice versa.

Too scared to go downstairs and see my puppy. I am 32 for flips sake!!!!! I shouldn't be afraid of my own mother. But as my ex said to me when we broke up, she is so toxic that she will not be happy unless she has me living in the attic of my childhood home... Which she has at the moment. she is consistently rude to my boyfriend, and seems to revel in the fact that she has me trapped.

Can't deal with her bullshit anymore

ClaretAndBlue30 · 19/04/2016 20:04

oh no lala thats awful. I can totally see why you're angry - thats a lot of money to go to waste.

Ebay it maybe?

dementedma · 19/04/2016 20:07

Lala - can you go into a refuge or hostel. You are being abused at home and a victim of domestic violence. You mustn't live the rest of your life being treated like this!

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:09

I wouldn't know how to use eBay. I am a technology dinosaur! Just makes me feel so fecking annoyed and upset that she seems to think that she can treat me like a child.

She has deliberately delayed my dad's probate, and basically isn't a very nice person. Grrrrrrrrrrr, arrrrgghhhhh and all that jazz.

When I get stressed, I need to drink. This evening is proving very very trying. Oh and I pay her rent, pay for my horse myself, and obviously paid for the puppy.

another thing, when my car was off the road, she gave it away to her friends when I wasn't around. That was the car my dad gave me. And at the moment, with the animals, I can't afford to get a new one. Grump grump grump. Can I have a glass of wine?

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:12

ma I can't, I have the puppy and the horse. And as per my previous post, she gave my car away...

Plus I am supposed to be a professional. I can hold it together at work but not when I am at home. When she has left the house, spending all my dad's hard earned money, I literally breath a sigh of relief... She really is a horrible person. But then I feel like a horrible person for thinking that, IYSWIM.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 19/04/2016 20:14

lala she really sounds awful! I can't believe she did that to your car.

I really think if you had wine now you'd regret it tomorrow, you've already said how good you feel today having not drunk yesterday. Hold onto that!

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:14

In other news, does anyone need a puppy harness? It's pink (Blush) and is a size small, but won't go over my ten week old shih tzu's head...

Oh and there's a wasp in my room. That's it, herbal tea just ain't doing it for me at the moment...

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:46

claret thanks. I am going to have a bath, then dinner, then will maybe take pups around the block for a walk (in my arms, obviously, the little princess (boak) isn't allowed to touch the ground yet as she has only had one set of jabs).

My alcoholic sister has been dragged round, has stumbled into the living room, and is now snoring on the sofa, whilst muttering incoherently. You would think I would have more sympathy for her

laladidah · 19/04/2016 20:53

Sorry being a self indulgent thread hogger again! Sorry Thanks

dementedma · 19/04/2016 20:57

No worries lala. Your family life sounds shit!

WillAndDisgrace · 19/04/2016 21:16

I made this lala, it's a Rick Stein green bean and tomato dish that I put with salmon and rice. I love his cook books, :)

Could you stay with your dp or friends for a while? it really isn't ideal to stay there if your mum is so volatile, and it won't help with trying to go AF but you have us to rant to if it helps.

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
laladidah · 19/04/2016 21:31

will that looks lush! And no, can't stay work DP as he is currently in Italy... He is coming back at the end of the month but he has nowhere to stay, right pair of hobos we sound! I am resigned to my fate of being stuck in my mother's attic. Two years ago, I had been living with my fiancé.:.. And now this. Sucks to be me.

In other news, there are foxes screeching in the field behind my house. Don't want to take little miss outside.

Wine has been opened and a glass has been drunk. Sorry, I am a complete failure

Rarity75 · 19/04/2016 21:40

will that looks lovely.

On sparkly fruit schloer and watching Vera on the telly.

lala I am so sorry things sound awful for you Flowers

Hope everyone is having a nice evening.

WillAndDisgrace · 19/04/2016 21:41

Not a failure at all, what you're going through sound tough. You need support right now, not someone putting you down.

Do you think you can set a limit on how many glasses you have tonight?

dementedma · 19/04/2016 21:42

You are not a failure lala. Why a horrible situation you are in!
Have had a glass or two here and am going to bed...tough day while the Board wrangle over redundancy and the staff have a go at me because they don't know what's happening. I'm caught in the middle.
Went to docs about cough and now need chest x-ray apparently

WillAndDisgrace · 19/04/2016 21:48

Oh ma what a stress for you! You can't tell them what you don't know though. Sounds tough. When is your X-Ray?

laladidah · 19/04/2016 21:52

Had two glasses already. Going to set my limit at 3. Although just cried down the phone to dp, who as I said is away in Italy. Just fed up of my situation and I can't see a way out. I will be here like miss havisham...

And my alcoholic sister is snoring away, and I am judging her?! Jeez. That used to be me. But she is out of control. The one thing that keeps me going is my job and my horse. And now my puppy. It saddens me that she has nothing. And I feel guilty that maybe i led her astray. Thing is, I managed to hold down a job at least. She can't manage waking up without having at least two bottles of wine to get her through the morning. And then staggers out, got picked up by the police for the up tenth time the other day for staggering around the high street.

When I see her, I think 'ah I don't need help'. But at the same time, she is half the size of me, so it affects her more than me. But she doesn't even try to stop, IYSWIM.

Sorry this is garbled... Have a picture of a puppy

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
WillAndDisgrace · 19/04/2016 21:54

Super cute!!

ClaretAndBlue30 · 19/04/2016 21:58

Oh your puppy is so gorgeous!!!

dementedma · 19/04/2016 21:59

Is your sis getting help lala or does she thing she doesn't have a problem?

laladidah · 19/04/2016 22:08

Thanks will and claret, she is such a lovely little thing! So happy and just so puppy, if that makes sense! Just put her to bed with her 3000 toys! Now she is crying and wailing for me, and I feel terrible. Will go down and see her in a min.

ma my sister has been in and out of rehab so many times, she is literally like a yoyo. It's like she goes, gets sorted, comes out, gets sozzled again, then knows she will be send straight back in. She was in Thailand for the last stretch. Wouldn't mind Thailand myself....

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