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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 01:45

Warty evil stepmotherdom I mean. I'm a nice person and he is a lovely lad. I just want some sleeeep Sad

Newmamatobe · 16/04/2016 03:16

Hi Elba,

Have you considered AA? Don't mean to sound preachy of course just helpful!

It's not humanly possible to battle against this illness alone, I've yet to meet anyone that has been able to overcome a problem with alcohol without help - if this offers any comfort - it's not your fault and I personally think your brave to be facing it. How many millions of people are still in that denial stage going from day to day unhappy... Your acknowledging it and that is a brave start.

Big huggles everyone ;-)

puttingthegenieback · 16/04/2016 07:32

nothing new to say this morning - just popping onto the thread to say that I am in love with Wry's "Counter Terrorist" (the beach she is posing on isn't bad either)
Also: somehow I missed the part of the thread where Marfisa got the new job! Congratulations!

dementedma · 16/04/2016 07:34

wryfabulous massive post. How the hell do you remember everyone and what we are all up to? Love the doggy pics and the sand moustache.
rarity I don't think we can cope with a warty, evil stepmother and a horrid baby doll on this bus Shock. I think your oh is being bloody unreasonable by the way and not giving a good message to DSS.
Have woken this morning to a massive headache but a lovely sunny day so sis and I are off to Elie to look for sea glass and rubies. The rubies are actually garnets which can apparently be found at the appropriately named ruby bay, so wish us luck.Maybe I will find a merman and be lured into his cave in the water depths for fishy frolics.....

WillAndDisgrace · 16/04/2016 07:51

rarity how about a blow up/camp bed on your dd's room?

Bloodybloodyhell · 16/04/2016 07:53

Morning all,

Wow, I've missed a lot - this bus is BUSY.

I was so bored with myself last night, I went to bed with DS at 8pm.

And this morning, I do feel a bit better.

I've been having crazy, weird dreams this week - I'm assuming through not drinking, and lots of weird emotions hitting me out of the blue - about stuff I thought I'd processed years ago.

And last night was the same, and still didn't sleep amazingly, but think I've turned a corner - and am starting to feel a bit better.

Wry - what a super, long post - like ma says, no idea how you remember what everyone is up to. Your puppy is GORGEOUS. I"m seriously thinking of getting one. Will ask for advice, when the time is right. You sound lovely.

Rarity - sorry you had a tough night. Hope you're feeling better this am. But that really isn't a sustainable sleeping situation is it? And unfortunately it's bound to lead to resentment about DSS being there. Is there a camp-bed / bunk bed in your DDs room option to be considered?

Hello to all others too - Will, Claret - how are you both?

Elba - sounds like being honest is the way forward. You know you need to, don't you? Especially if it's important.

Ma - that sounds very frustrating with work. Might you at least be able to stick with the project, once it's been taken on? Oh and good luck finding rubies (and a mer-man!)

Right, I need to get on. Sorry to have missed the pizza party last night. One side-effect of this, is I don't seem to be able to stay up past 8.30pm. Rock and roll.

Have a good day Babes.

Oh, and today, I will not be drinking. X

WillAndDisgrace · 16/04/2016 07:54

In your dd's room. Don't put it on your dd's room as that would be quite dangerous and SS might get involved.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 08:23

will Grinat the typo.

bloody the dreams are normal and will pass (good thing too as I found them down right terrifying) and sleep should improve as well.

rarity definitely not a sustainable situation...and you're right to be a bit pissed off. A conversation needs to be had to find a solution for all parties! (Or you may actually become a warty stepmum and we don't want that Wink)

wry your writing never fails to amaze me, you should have a book deal.

margie thanks for the nc, made me glow a little inside. Hope you enjoyed the Easter eggs....ours barely lasted until the end of the Easter weekend. I have a gluttony issue when there's chocolate in the house.

Speaking of which....I've often thought I do absolutely everything in life to excess....I used to smoke 20 a day...I drink Diet Coke, about 10 cans a day...if I eat I eat to excess....if I drink I drink to excess....if I run I run a marathon....is that part of my issue?!?! One is never enough in any facet of my life.

Paffle · 16/04/2016 09:03

Claret I really identify with that "everything to excess" feeling. Fundamentally we are addicts so yes, bash one on the head and another pops up. I never tried drugs in my youth because in my heart I knew I'd get addicted. I was still smoking and boozing for Britain at this point. My current addiction of choice is sugar. Hence having to try 5:2 diet so my clothes fit again. I think the AA 12 steps really help with that, although I wouldn't know as I ground to halt on step 3 six years ago. Grin.

soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 09:22

Morning all😀
Sorry not read all of last nights posts but it seems to have been busy.
Well went out for dinner last night and def drank too much but not horrendously drunk. Got home to find cat throwing up and crying in pain. I tried to comfort her but within half an hour she had died😰😰
I think she had been poisoned perhaps in the garden.....not sure.
Anyway it was a huge wake up call for me as I keep thinking I could easily have been so drunk I wouldn't have noticed she was ill and she would have died alone and in pain.
Still feel a bit shocked
Anyway sorry to be all doom and gloom
Hope everyone has a good Saturday😘😘
Today I will not be drinking

dementedma · 16/04/2016 09:38

Oh sober I'm so sorry. Our new rescue cat had also been poisoned when he was found and brought into the rescue centre. It seems to be happening a lot. Flowers

Paffle · 16/04/2016 09:45

Poor sober what a shock Flowers

WillAndDisgrace · 16/04/2016 09:54

So sorry sober Flowers

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 10:17

Oh no! Poor cat but at least you were with her when she died sober, if that is any comfort? People came round for dinner last night, I started on the wine before they came standard and now I am still in bed with the inevitable fall out, hating myself. Am really going to give not drinking today a go, got heaps of work to do so hopefully that will keep me busy... Why do I do it to myself. Why?

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 10:22

Oh sober I'm sorry. Take comfort that you were with her when she died Flowers

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 11:27

paffle yes yes to the drugs - I never touched any as I just knew I'd become addicted. Probably one of my wiser life choices.

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 13:58

Oh sober I am so so sorry. I am a 'cat' lady too. At least you were there at the end Flowers

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 14:01

I think the addictive personality thing is spot on. I am trying to give up smoking at the moment. It's not easy! I want to be there for my DD and have a healthy life!

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 14:05

Had to go back to bed this morning didn't get to sleep until 3am. Now feel pants Sad.

The blow up bed wouldn't work (lack of floor space). Best option is bunk beds and I lack the funds. Would you believe I'm under pressure to have a baby at the moment?? Not sure where he thinks they would sleep, a drawer maybe! Oh and how we would afford it. My one else living with someone not plugged into the real world??

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 14:05

Anyone else I mean?

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 14:06

!!! Can't type sleep deprived Grin

puttingthegenieback · 16/04/2016 15:43

I am really sorry about your cat soberFlowers

dementedma · 16/04/2016 16:03

lala are you feeling any better now?
I have spent a lovely day beachcombing...

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 16:19

Find anything ma 😀😀
Thank you all for your kind messages. Cat now buried in the garden curled up in the blanket I was using to try and comfort her😰😰
We are all dealing with crap of some kind of another .
Tonight however I won't be "checking out" by drinking. I intend to stay present and deal with my crap sober. Just waiting for my DSis to phone with news of my narc DM who is leading the NHS a merry dance since her diagnosis.
Ah well at least I have chocolate😀😀

Bloodybloodyhell · 16/04/2016 16:28

I'm so pissed off, I'm going to the shop to buy wine.