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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 16:31

What's up bloody come and talk even if you do buy wine

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 16:33

sober chocolate is always the way forward. At least kitty has her blanket Thanks I am going to join you by not drinking this evening. I am determined that I shall stay in, do lots of work, and stay off the sodding wine famous last words.

ma I am feeling better thank you. Just feeling like I have wasted my day just wombling about with a headache being pathetic. That is an absolutely beautiful photo!!! Very jealous. I take it that it is nearby?

Feeling annoyed with myself for not having done anything productive today, and got the back to work Blues Sad one good thing though, doctor put me on some pretty hardcore antihistamines that you aren't supposed to drink on (have always ignored this advice before, like a prat!), but these ones really do knock you out, felt spaced out all day, so hopefully I can get a nice early night without any need for any alcohol...

Anyone had any snow??? Apparently there has been some in parts of the country!

dementedma · 16/04/2016 16:39

It's about half an hour away and one of my favourite places. I go there often, to beachcomb, to read or just to sit and listen to the waves. We were looking for garnets today but didn't find any. Got some nice seaglass though. My dream is to have a house by the sea.

Bloodybloodyhell · 16/04/2016 16:55

Thanks Sober. Back home and have wine in the house. And I really, really feel like drinking it.

My ex is an arse. Where I work is ridiculous. My family are crazy. And I'm just pissed, pissed off. And I'm old and fat and the best years of my life are behind me.

How's that for a self indulgent rant??!!

Gah. I'll be OK. Sorry about your cat - and sorry to be so miserable when you must be really sad. Will try and perk up.

Bloodybloodyhell · 16/04/2016 16:55

And thanks Lala. Xx

soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 17:17

bloody we could be twins 😀😀
I have an ex who' is an are. I too am old and fat and sometimes I think my best years are behind me. You are not alone
Come and rant all you want . If you can't stay off the wine can you moderate ?
It sounds like a hangover is the last thing you need right now.
Have an unmumsnet hug instead and Flowers and Cake

soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 17:18

Just in case you need clarification my ex is an ARSE......not are😀

dementedma · 16/04/2016 17:53

bloody I can relate to the best years are behind me thing, along with the feeling that I have wasted my life. So many regrets that I haven't achieved anything and here at 52, face being back on the dole and living hand to mouth. I wish I had my time over again....

Bloodybloodyhell · 16/04/2016 18:33

So now I'm pissed. I'd done so well. Cross. And sad.

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 18:42

Oh bloody try not to beat yourself up too much. Obviously I don't know you from Adam (whoever he is!) and am extremely new to this thread, so I am not sure how long you have been struggling etc.

However we all have those days when we just think fuck it, and slip up. Just write today off (obviously in a moderate manner if you can), and start afresh tomorrow? Easier said than done, I know that oh how I bloody well know that.

If it is any consolation, I am in my early thirties, and I find myself in the situation I am in mostly down to my drinking. Most of my friends are married with kids, and I am ashamed to admit it, but at the moment I am living with my bat shit crazy mother, and I can't currently see a way out of it. Oh and my boyfriend is an arse as well Grinat least yours is an ex, right?

Have you got something nice to have for dinner to cheer yourself up?

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 18:46

Sneaks in. Apologies for my ranting earlier.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 19:35

ma i'll say it again - what a gorgeous part of the country you live in! Hope you got lots of lovely clean fresh air out on the beach today.

bloody great big hugs and Flowers, keep posting if you can - it might help to let off steam on here a bit. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of sh*t right now.

rarity i'd be ranting on 3 hours sleep! Never apologise.

lala no snow here (down south) its been raining on and off all day, proper April showers!

will, elba, sober, everyone else, hows things?

aliasjoey · 16/04/2016 19:36

Sober so sad about your cat Sad

soberisthenewblack168 · 16/04/2016 19:47

Ok will try to make everyone smile.😀😀
So today I have had a pain in my right side whenever I move. Freaking out thinking shit my liver is f*ked. Then I remembered I made my poor DH dance with me in the pub😳😳😳😳
Soooo embarrassed cos we were the only ones dancing [ ok there was a band]
My DH has absolutely no rhythm but doesn't know it and I would have looked like a fat middle aged delusional drunk
I can never go back can I ?
Hopefully they thought that we were tourists

Rarity75 · 16/04/2016 19:59

Oh sober! Grin We all have cringeworthy memories like that lol!

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 20:10

GrinGrin sober

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 20:12

gah posted too soon - sober i have so many half memories of dancing like that! At least it was your birthday!

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 20:17

*claret down south as well, weather is a bit bonkers - full on rain showers, then sunshine. Then big ole fat rain, etc. Bit of Forrest Gump there for ya.

Can't believe I am only just leaving the house for a quick stroll. I am becoming a creature of the night (probably because it takes this long for the 'dreads' as someone so eloquently put it, to wear off). Sad Eh? Although it is a beautiful evening here now. Bet it is far more beautiful around mas area.

Bloody - hope you are ok?

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 20:18

Oh bloody hell, why did my phone do that? Apologies for all the bold!!!

WillAndDisgrace · 16/04/2016 20:20

Well hellloooo ladies!!! Sorry for those who've had shit days or are living with an arse.

Grin at sober dancing

I've had a really busy day and DH has worked today so tonight we are going to try to make a bit of time for ourselves (once ds is in bed....running a bit late with bedtime)

Back in a bit

Margie32 · 16/04/2016 20:58

Wry, I'm with Ma, we should put your writings in a book, your write so beautifully and with such individuality. And I LOVE it when you write in Scottish -even- -though- -I- don't- -always- -know- - what- -you're- -saying-, I've never read anyone who writes in an accent apart from Irvine Welsh. And your dog is gorgeous, I grew up in a house full of Labradors and retrievers and I just love them.

Ma, dead jealous of your outing to Elie, isn't there a great pub there? Or is it in Crail? I spent the best 4 years of my life in the Kingdom of Fife, very very find memories.

Rarity, YANBU. And no need to apologize for ranting, you deserved a rant!

Sober, sorry you are going through such an utterly shit time at the moment, I really feel for you. Good for you for keeping off the booze tonight, it is always my go-to solution when life gets crap.

Bloody, sorry you're feeling bad, big hugs to you.

Claret, Elba, you ok?

I am sober - 6 days now which is definitely the longest stretch since Dry January. The memories of what an arse I was last Sunday night are definitely keeping me going. Claret, I hear you on the addictive personality thing, although I think in my case booze is also a way of being irresponsible - I always felt such a weight of expectation on my shoulders and booze has always been my only way to say fuck it.

lalaladidah · 16/04/2016 21:00

Took this picture on my travels to the shop (I know I know), bloody crap compared to ma's beautiful landscape.

I have wine. It has so far remained firmly shut. I am trying to resist. But I have a horrible sneaking feeling it shall soon be opened. Stop me please.

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
Margie32 · 16/04/2016 21:01

Posted too soon...am an idiot.

fond memories not find memories...although I drank so much back then that I'm amazed I have any memories at all!

Plus I seem to be incapable of effectively crossing out words, but you get the idea Wry!

ClaretAndBlue30 · 16/04/2016 21:02

margie completely agree - booze plays to the rebel in me...the 'technically allowed' way to misbehave. I don't know what I can substitute it with that would fulfil that side of me Hmm

Margie32 · 16/04/2016 21:03

Don't drink it La - if you do you'll feel like shit in the morning, if you don't you'll be so chuffed.

Have a bath, clean the kitchen, do some colouring, go to bed.