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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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Bloodybloodyhell · 13/04/2016 08:28

Morning Babes.

Wow Spanna, that it awesome. In the true sense of the word! Well done.

Will - well done stepping away last night. And now you've done it once - you know you can do it again.

Today, I will not be drinking. (Day 3 Shock

Tangfastics · 13/04/2016 08:29

Just wanting a complete detox Claret

It will be tough, but it will be tough no matter what. I might as well lose some weight and get some serious vitamins into me whilst I'm at it!

Once I'm past day 3, I'll be ok.

Rarity75 · 13/04/2016 08:41

Morning ladies Smile
Day 4 for me. Today I will not be drinking.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 09:05

spanna woweeeee what an achievement and uplifting post. I'll be there waving my Pom poms on Friday Cake

Well done ladies for last night. I feel so bloody good this morning...healthy, energised, full of va va voom.

Day (evil) 3 here. TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING.

Rarity75 · 13/04/2016 09:20

Hand hold claret day 3 is indeed evil! Flowers

Elba84 · 13/04/2016 10:18

Morning babes. I wrote a long post last night which then wouldn't send so just testing, will post properly in a minute. Didn't drink last night though Grin

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 10:29

Go elba go elba Star

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 10:31

Doing a little victory dance for you....

Elba84 · 13/04/2016 10:54

Wish I could say I'd woken up feeling amazing and full of energy but I really don't Grin. When I'm drinking I can just pass out untill the morning, but even after a 14 hour day it was a struggle to get to sleep and stay there. Also noticing how uncomfortable my bed is (one side collapsed with me in it a few weeks ago and is currently held up with a pile of books) so should really get round to sorting that out!! But glad I did it, new goal is to do a second AF day this week.

bloody thank you for your lovely posts to me yesterday morning. I did read them and try to reply last night but couldn't post. And no, you didn't sound harsh at all and I know you are right. Well done on day 2!

claret hope DD allowed you some sleep in the end and thank you for posting last night. I will be around tonight for evil day 3 hand holding if you need it, your doing fab!

marfisa well done on the interview, my fingers are tightly crossed for you. And thank you for the hand holding.

will love the 'elf on the shelf' can of beer image! Well done for resisting.

Its beautifully sunny here so going to try and get out on the beach and try and not obsess over health stuff. Also have counselling at half one. Hope everyone has a good day and thanks again for all being lovely Flowers

Elba84 · 13/04/2016 10:57

Aww claret thank you, my own personal victory dance Grin xxx

marfisa · 13/04/2016 12:07

OMG the bus is so busy, I can't keep up!

I got the job. I am so pleased and relieved. Hurrah for sobriety. I feel a bit numb and exhausted today though - something of a useless lump. I've been under a lot of stress for various reasons (relating to my extended and pretty much totally insane family in the US, and also to immigration stuff) and almost all the reasons I was stressed have now evaporated. But I'm still having trouble calming down. Need to do something to shift gears I think.

Very proud of all the babes on this bus who are not drinking a day/hour/moment at a time, like claret and elba and tang and lots of others whose names are eluding me. Profuse thanks to will, looking, spanna and elba for the kind words.

looking, I do so hope you find something for September! And wtf is it with all these cocklodgers (of both sexes)?! I am lucky in that I'm not bearing the whole financial weight of supporting a family on my shoulders. But you and isinde shouldn't be bearing it either.

rarity, my DC take ages to go to sleep. AGES. In fact I still lie down with DS2 every night until he falls asleep. He's 5. Blush Well done on your AF efforts anyway!

alias, it makes me happy to see you popping onto the bus again, and spanna, congrats on your sober birthday, it's a huge achievement! It's something I never thought I would get my head round, not drinking on big event days. Not drinking on birthdays/Christmas and at weddings just seemed a dreadful prospect. Now it feels fine. I also know what you mean about an event being a bit flat. Sometimes I have a brilliant time with friends when not drinking, sometimes it all feels a bit 'meh'. But not every event in my drinking days was great fun either if I'm honest -- sometimes I had a buzz, sometimes I didn't. (And of course I'm not even thinking here about the aftermath of drinking...)

ma I like your plan for an AF evening. I'm thinking of doing something similar in order to get my evening food binges under more control (i.e. brushing my teeth and going to bed early).

xxx to all

spanna41 · 13/04/2016 12:36

Marfisa Congrats on the job that is brilliant news Grin

Thanks for kind words all xxxxx

obrigada · 13/04/2016 12:38

Marfisa, huge congrats on your job :)

Spanna, over a year alcohol free, wow ... just wow :)

SweetLathyrus · 13/04/2016 12:46

Ok, I haven't read back yet, I wasn't on board last night because my distraction technique was to binge watch The Returned (French Zombies drama), can't do anything else whilst I'm concentrating on working out how literally the subtitles are translated! Grin. (Oh and stuffing a pizza and a half down my neck Blush)

But Had to say congrats to Marfisa and Spanna.

Spanna you're a legend and a Star.

Marfisa, I also have a DH who works at the same university, so I understand how difficult it can be to get compatible jobs. I hope you can take your new post and craft it into something more, or just enjoy it as it is.

WillAndDisgrace · 13/04/2016 13:08

Pom poms flailing above my head for you marfisa woop woop!!!

elba I take it you love near the sea? How lovely. I hope your counselling goes well today .

WillAndDisgrace · 13/04/2016 13:10

Live even!

SweetLathyrus · 13/04/2016 15:48

Blimey, what lovely energy last night (just read back), I've harnessed some of it to get in touch with an old friend and arranged a night out in London next month - fortunately, he his the world's most understanding bloke, and one of the few RL people I feel comfortable saying I have a drinking problem to . . . Good thing, because last time we met up (he lives abroad) two years ago, I had the worst hangover EVER.

Rarity75 · 13/04/2016 17:58

Evening all. It is busy on here I'm still getting used to all the names/people!

Hi claret how's it going?

Busy day today and on my own again this evening. Cooking tea and cleaning on the to do list tonight. Possibly followed by some mind numbing TV!

Does it get easier going to sleep? I'm fine once I drop off but it's a struggle switching off.

Hope you are all having a nice evening Smile

WillAndDisgrace · 13/04/2016 18:04

Well I have a very tired not after his late night and then a long day at play school, bed for him soon and then DH not home till about 8. I'll be doing the same as you till then rarity steering at the goggle box for a bit.

DH may be away all of next week....I feel a massive danger zone coming on! I may have to get a puzzle book or colouring one. I don't mind a chick flick book so may see what Jane green or Marian Keys has :)

Hope all are well and those of you on AF 3 are hanging in there? elba & claret was it?

I wonder where the bus will take us tonight?

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 18:10

marfisa well done on the job!!! Job insecurity can be so so stressful, I'm relieved for you. Hope you are feeling more relaxed now, I think it can sometimes take your emotions time to catch up with reality. Especially if you've been stressed for a while.

elba even if you didn't feel great for it, rest assured your body will have thanked you. We recently swapped our bed and it's made a huge difference - sometimes you don't realise how bad it's got!!

Hope your counselling went well.

sweet that'll be nice to meet up with your friend. Hangover free being a big bonus!!

rarity thanks for asking, having my nightly wobble but managed to bypass the shops earlier, and now just an hour or so to go until I eat and hopefully it passes.

Have you tried lavender on your pillow? Reading a book before bed? Anything to wind down really.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 18:11

Hi will sorry cross post!!

Glad you're ok.

Elba84 · 13/04/2016 18:47

marfissa congratulations on the job!

claret I actually felt really good by the afternoon, and at least my livers had a little break. Cheering you on for day 3!

will yes am about a mile away from the beach...don't go there anywhere near enough though! I bought a colouring book to try it out and it's actually a really good distraction, and satisfying too. Not me on day 3...I've never got past day 1!

Spanna over a year is amazing!

I'm drinking (moderately) tonight, then another long shift tomorrow. Have promised myself a second AF day this week...might do tomorrow but having the usual internal dialogue/conflict. Currently on 54 units since this time last week, which is 11 less than a few days ago. I know it's still a lot but a few months ago I was easily hitting 100 some weeks Blush Blush. Weird thing is I feel less in control of it even though I'm drinking less.

dementedma · 13/04/2016 18:56

Wow,busy on here. Big congratulations to spanna and well done on the job marfisa.

Paffle · 13/04/2016 19:30

If I can't sleep, I try deep breathing/meditation. There are some good meditation apps/ websites around if you're new to it. "Headspace" is one of the most popular. Anything to stop the mind whirring.

Serenity, courage and wisdom to all xxx

ClaretAndBlue30 · 13/04/2016 19:33

elba great you felt better, did you get to the beach? We only live an hour from our closest and I never go, going to make more of an effort to now the weather is nice.

I remember when you joined and 100 units was your norm? 50/60 is a huge improvement. And you've got an af night under your belt.

Ive eaten my dinner and have the new next catalogue by my side which should see me through the next few hours.

How's everyone doing?

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