Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

999 replies

Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

OP posts:
Thread gallery
25
dementedma · 12/04/2016 19:35

Stupid thing but deliberately told someone something hurtful which they would never have known otherwise. Makes me look bad and other person is upset and it was completely unavoidable and just a spiteful thing to do for no obvious reason. I'm bloody furious, after all I have done for her recently and the allowances I have made.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 19:43

rarity, how about clearing out a cupboard? Or having a bath? Doing your nails?baking something?? Anything to keep your brain busy until the craving passes...which it will.

I'm in the clear for tonight...eaten a lovely (huge) salad and now settled down for a bit of tv before an early night.

ma is your DD a teenager? Some of things I did at that age make me cringe. Not looking forward to my very strong willed daughter getting to that age Confused

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 19:49

Good ideas claret I might iron and change the bedding. I'm fresh out of the shower so clean bed would be lovely.
I found an old nearly empty bottle of gin in the cupboard and I poured it down the sink! Day 3 nearly done.

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 19:50

There's loads of ironing I might be busy for weeks! How do kids get through so many clothes? Hmm

Paffle · 12/04/2016 20:03

Just popping on to cheerlead. Just finished work. I'm pleased to be busy but it's been a long day. Home to the slow cooked supper I hope. In a taxi with a very chatty cabbie and I'm just not interested!

Go AF-ers!

lookingforhope · 12/04/2016 20:09

Hi all. In car again waiting for ds to finish training. I may as well move my duvet into the back seat and live here. In foul mood. Set off to take him training on the other side of the city for second night in a row and traffic so bad we turned back as he would have missed the session. I hate traffic and it is constant where I live. Now in park near our house. He is doing the session remotely with a Garmin device and an app which his new coach can track. The wonders of tech. Could have gone home and let him do the session on the roads where we live, but in foul mood as did school run and all washing etc, worked all day at home without a break then shopped for food (WB been home alone all last week and not a thing in to eat when we all got back). Asked him to make kids a quick dinner as I have massive deadlines and he went for a nap on the couch instead then got up while we were all eating and asked where his tea was (it was in the pan. Perhaps I should have taken it into the lounge and spoon fed the bastard.) Now have to go home and proofread a 30 page brochure going to print tomorrow as didn't have time to download, print it out to bring with as I was making tea. I wrote and submitted it 4 weeks ago and they send me the proofs at 5.00pm the day before it goes to print as if I have no other deadlines. Would have let Ds run from home but if I'd gone back I would have ended up having to take dd to Guides too, and probably was up. (in fact expect the washing up to still be there and I'll still have to collect her at 9.00)

I'm in the same position as you Marfisa. Contract ends this summer and have to find more work. I am already looking at how I will earn from September. WB has not worried about earning money to contribute to bills for the last 15 years, yet still thinks it is OK to sleep on couch professing weariness at pretend job (fucking hobby) while I run around. Isinde I feel your pain about cocklodger / beaverbarnacle situation ... Shall we say BB for short?). Wish I could enjoy sitting in the park as its lovely here, but feeling furious. Just had a sneaky cigarette (I gave up years ago but have the odd one for stress). Would dearly love to pop to the shop for wine but I know I'd drink the lot and I have to be up early for the rest of the week with impossible deadlines. Thing is, I don't mind the work stress. I mostly love this job and they pay me well. It's being so taken for granted at home on top of it, living with a man I despise and seeing no end to it. Having to keep it all together for the kids and knowing when they leave home in a few years I will be fat (cos eating well and making time to exercise always gets squeezed to the bottom of my vast to do list) fifty-something and alone in a house with someone I don't like who sees me as his pension.

G'aaagh!!!!! Sorry for grumpy post. The thing is I love my job and will be sorry when it ends. I have good friends, a nice home, great kids. It's just him. Taunt. Right, off home now, ds back. Catch up later xx

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 20:10

its endless isn't it!!! Ironing is quite therapeutic though I find (within reason Wink) you'll be pleased you got it done.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 20:16

Sorry hope cross post. Sounds really really tough - you have so much on your plate. im sure your dc appreciate all you do even if your dh (? sorry I don't know what WB stands for Blush!) doesn't Flowers

dementedma · 12/04/2016 20:25

WB is wankbadger. hope is married to one.
hope I can hear your frustration and hope you bury an axe in Wankbadger's head!
claret she is 25 and should bloody know better. It just seemed a really malicious thing to do. The only outcome could possibly be to upset friend and make me look like a cow! Both achieved.
I've got enough bloody stress without her adding to it.

Tangfastics · 12/04/2016 20:34

Ouch. Today hurt. Alcohol nurse was fucking tough. Still, I'll go back tomorrow and my husband is back home tomorrow night. Friday is the day.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 20:48

Ah thanks ma I thought it must be along those lines!!

Hope you sort things out with DD soon, you're right - what with your work you definitely have enough on your plate.

tangfastic well done for getting through today, what is the plan for Friday?

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 20:49

Oh and rarity forgot to say - well done on pouring the gin away!

elba are you back from work yet?

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 20:54

Sitting here listening to my five year old crying and calling for me repeatedly. She will not go to sleep. She is trying my patience!!Angry

According to the conversation she is having with herself it is not fair that I won't cuddle or kiss her (again) swear to god I've been up those stairs so many times I don't need a stair master!!

For you hope Flowers
Hope your tea was lovely paffle

Tangfastics · 12/04/2016 20:55

Cold turkey.

And juice diet for 5 days. Full on detox.

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 20:58

Thanks claret, today has been the toughest day so far. I think I still felt so poorly Sunday and Monday that I didn't miss it.
By now I would have recovered (from the binge/hangover hell) sufficiently enough to think I could handle a glass of wine with tea.
So tonight feels weird and I'm stressed. But ok.

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 21:00

Wow tang juice diet too!!

Rarity75 · 12/04/2016 21:02

It has gone quiet upstairs Hmm hopeful that slumber has arrived.....

Tangfastics · 12/04/2016 21:07

Yeah. I've done it before, it's ok actually! (I did sneak some wine before so I'm hoping to be better behaved this time!)

I did stick to the juice though.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/04/2016 21:08

Hopefully she's exhausted herself rarity!! I know exactly what you mean - you are at my dreaded day 3, I always find it hardest (as typically feeling better)....but just embrace feeling better and remember how great you'll feel tomorrow.

tangfastic you'll get lots of support here so keep posting. Think how you'll feel after this.

Bloodybloodyhell · 12/04/2016 21:08

Evening all.
Home from work, knackered. Long bloody day.
Still, managed to by-pass the Coop on the way home, so drinking Elderflower fizz. Woop woop. Sort of.
Going to head to bed soon, but wanted to check in.
Someone asked for tips? I'm eating beans on toast, for the second night running, as it's the least appealing "to drink with wine" meal I can think of. Also, drink tea and eat chocolate? Haribo?

Sorry not to post more. Am exhausted. Rarity - my son does that. I dug out the baby monitor - now if he calls, I speak to him via that - saves running up and down the whole time!

Think I'm too tired to be craving wine too badly tonight, but that will come, I'm sure. It's only day 2. Sending strength and good vibes to all those battling. I keep trying to think "it's not just one glass though. It never is". And playing the film to the end.

Elba - are you home yet? Hope you're Ok.

X

Tangfastics · 12/04/2016 21:08

I will be better behaved this time.

WillAndDisgrace · 12/04/2016 21:18

My 3 year old is still up!!! But at least he's not calling for me ratity.

I put a can of beer in the fridge....I will not drink it Hmm

WillAndDisgrace · 12/04/2016 21:21

tang this is probably a stupid question but is that just juice for 5 days? No solid food at all? Seems hard core

Bloodybloodyhell · 12/04/2016 21:22

Will - take it out.

WillAndDisgrace · 12/04/2016 21:23

Oh god' what is wrong with me? I meant rarity NOT ratity