The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do & if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

You know what, Sweet, sometimes a minute at a time is enough and and all you can do. Come on the boards at 4 and we'll try and cheerlead you through those minutes.

Thank you Paffle 😬 < me gritting my teeth, I've added 'furious with the state of DS's room' to the list. I may have to go out and do some plant shopping!

sweet at least you can put the dog in his crate - what can you do with DS?

paffle I find that having a good and healthy breakfast sets me up well for the rest of the day. To make it easy I often plan my breakfast the night before and have it all laid out in the fridge - brown bread and an egg, or grapefruit and a glass of V8 juice, or bircher muesli (oats soaked in orange juice and water, with added yogurt, grated apple, chopped hazelnuts). It is my way of giving myself the right message from the start of the day - you deserve this nice food, it will make you feel good.

I had a dreadful 'drinking' dream last night. I dreamt that I was on a conference call with you all - lots of familiar names and voices, but that I was hopelessly, hopelessly drunk, and throughout the call I was behaving in a ridiculous drunk way - being massively enthusiastic, quite argumentative, slurring my words and unable to hold a coherent conversation. And in the dream I KNEW that I wasn't managing to fool any of you. It felt so horrid and shameful, and then when I woke up this morning I thought it had really happened and I was cringing.

I was so glad when I woke up properly and realised that it wasn't true, but it has still left me feeling a bit discombobulated....

sweet take it an hour or even a minute at a time and keep posting. I'll be around as will others. Maybe plan what you are going to do - a nice dinner? Baking? Bath? Whatever keeps you away from your normal drinking place (mine is the sofa at 7pm, always risky).

venus a great point about breakfast, if I have a bad breakfast that can easily be the rest of the day gone. It's all about respecting ourselves by giving ourselves the best.

That dream must have really thrown you, sounds awful and I know how sickening it feels to wake up afterwards. Your subconscious is a clever thing - I wonder if it's trying to help you process your drinking in the past?

I've got a stone to loose by June - starting slim fast tomorrow and then once my foot heels I'll be back on the exercise too. Alcohol does not fit into my new regime and as others have said I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY.

Hope everyone has as sunny weather as we do here, lovely spring day.

And sober happy birthday to your dts!!! Do you have something lovely planned to celebrate?

claret nothing great planned as per their request 😰
DT 1 is in the army and DT 2 is having a meal out with us tonight.
They are so not like me at that age 😀😀 which is probably a good thing

Aw well enjoy your meal out tonight!

How's everyone doing? rarity? elba? will? bloody? sweet? Everyone else (sorry at work so can't name check all lovely babes!)

Hi all,

Self indulgent pity post. I feel like I am failing miserably. I managed 11 days then 6 days now can't even do 1 day.
Tried 'urge surfing' today, went for a walk for 30 minutes but still wanted wine. I feel like such a failure and my girls would be better off with a more in control mother. Tried to talk to doctor but was dismissed. Told husband honestly how worried I was but he has been no help.

Hi babes, I just had a job interview and am not sure how well it went. My current post is ending at the end of the summer so I really really want the job I just interviewed for (even though it's part-time and badly paid!). Academic posts in my field are depressingly few and far between, and this one is in the same university where I currently work (and where my DH works too). Would love to toss back some scotch in order to relax after the interview and calm the adrenalin coursing through my body but I'm posting here to distract myself instead.

It felt quite weird to me (by which I mean, quite hard!) to do a whole job application and interview and be stone cold sober the whole time. When I applied for my current job several years ago, I did the application in the wee hours of the morning with the "help" of most of a bottle of vodka. How I ever managed to put together a coherent application is beyond me.

venus, faire, your stories of what it was like for you when you were actively drinking really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing. Also, venus, I had a vivid drinking dream too, on Saturday night! It was awful. Such a relief to wake up.

ma, I love your cat. And I'm glad your job still exists, even though the circumstances sound very demoralising.

wry, please don't beat yourself up for your past mistakes. What you write about WB makes my flesh crawl but the important thing is today, now. Be kind to yourself. xxx [insert bosie icon here]

elba, holding your hand about the bloods. It will be OK. Also, I had to shake my head when you said "most of you seem to be able to gain some control but I'm just continuously failing".The truth is, I only have control now because I'm not drinking. The moment I pick up a drink, all the control is out the window. Just saying!

paffle, congrats to your DTs!

sweet, so happy to see you back. Hope your minute at a time is going well.

Good luck to bloody, paffle, will, claret and everyone else not drinking today. Sentimentality/cheesiness alert here but I am fond of the following lines:

"Just for today: I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me."

Just saw your post, cunning. Poor you. Very not impressed that you were courageous enough to speak to the GP and that s/he didn't offer you any help.

I don't know your history but have you thought of trying AA or self-referring to a community addiction clinic?

You are not a failure. The cravings are the addiction, they're not you.

In other news, I bought a pair of new shoes for the interview (rare for me as I am not a style icon) and DH has taken the opportunity to tell me how much he hates the shoes I usually wear (not the new ones but my tried-and-true favourite pair). He referred to them as "clodhoppers". Bastard. They are Doc Martins and I love my Doc Martens. If he thinks I'm going to sashay around in dress shoes all day and ditch my DMs, he has another think coming!

All good here claret, just did ds his din dins. It was his first morning back at play school so I spent that time catching up on programs cleaning. He's as school
All day tomorrow so I can have a deep nap clean in that time.

cunning is there another doctor you could speak to? It must of taken
A lot of courage to speak about that in the first place so it's really not on to dismiss it.

marfisa
Well done on your interview! I'll be keeping things crossed for you and yah to new shoes! I haven't worn heels since before mat leave....before that I lived in (and fell over) in them.

So tonight DH is in late and those bastard beers keep calling me, but I will be covering my ears and going LA LA LA

I may have to pop back here for some distraction....

Forgot to say enjoy your meal tonight sona

soba even (fat fingers)

sober !!!! And I haven't had a brink

Oh sod it lol

Hi claret been in work all day. Now home and cooking tea.
Danger hour after tea when DD in bed and OH out at hobby. Normally would have a few glasses of wine.
I have not bought any and am housebound tonight as can't leave DD to pop to shop!
I'm feeling it today, but I WILL NOT DRINK
Hi to all you lovely ladies out there, hope to get to know you all.

will are you saying that I have fat fingers 😡😡

rarity I'm in the danger zone too! We can hold onto each other for dear life

No lol, I have them with all my typos

will your typos just made me laugh

I'm in distract distract distract mode until I can get some food (about 7.30), just bypassed the shop on our evening walk. Now sitting with DD watching CBeebies.

Keep holding on rarity and will and anyone else battling the witch.

cunning you are by no means a failure, you are here, you are trying and many times you are succeeding. Don't be hard on yourself.

How are you doing SweetLathyrus?

Ok tea eaten, DD now on yoghurt. Not long now for her bedtime.
Anyone got any ideas for distraction?? Not that there is any in the house but I think it's going to be a mental battle.
Am around all evening.

I've got to go out and pick up dd1 at 9.15 so that will keep me sober. Although I'm so pissed off with her right now I'm tempted to tell her to get the bloody bus!

Oh dear, ma what had she done?