FreeMo - Part 3

[AngryMo]

New Fred

Takeout cunt.

Cunt away [grin[

Did I start something there!

Actually in a very childish way, having a nickname you call him (in your own head obviously) can be quite a good thing. I always thought of my XH as pettypathetictosser and would call him that in my head when he was on one of his rants. And when he was just confirming how petty and pathetic he was I just used to think to myself - and that's why I'm leaving you you pettypathetictosser! Think I actually did say it to him once when he'd just kept on and on - stopped him in his tracks as I was never one to say anything like that!

Well done Mo! For all you have done and stood up for :)

Keep a diary of what you and the children do and eat, and what he does and eats, so last night, eg:

Children: rice and peas; milk
Me: bread and butter; tea
MrCuntyWankerTakeawayChops: fillet steak, chips, asparagus; Very Expensive Wine

And so on. Take photos if you like. You can say it's "all the better to remember you with when you go back"; he might even think you're likely to miss him.....

Keeping a diary is a very good idea. Include his shopping trips, what was bought and approximate cost. As Boaty says, a diary showing what he eats and what you and the kids eat will speak volumes about how he treats you, but if you include that there was no food in the fridge so he went out and bought himself food, but nothing for you or the children then he will be in serious hot water.

I think he's cancelled my phone. In his name so I can't verify but it just says no service, and has done for a couple of hours. Never cancelled a number before, does anyone know if it's immediate??? He'd have had to pay for cancellation, so not sure what's going on there...

I suspect that the is trying to force your hand. You will have no choice but to ask him whats going on at which point he will either say that because you are "seperated" (his quote marks) then why should he pay for your phone, or say that as soon as you stop this silliness then he will put your phone back on.

I wouldnt mention it, you can get PAYG sims for 99p from most supermarkets.

DICK!

Yes I think ot can be immediate, especially if you report it as lost or stolen.

Can you buy yourself a pay as you go to tide you over?

Try searching service status of your phone provider. Sometimes if problem network or repairing stuff it will show if problem in your area or not. Failing that on/ off again first.

Have you rung it from house phone of its just bad signal should go to answer phone, if it's cancelled should not ring or be unattainable.

Do a google search and see if anyone else is complaining about your user service in your immediate area today - it does happen.

If he has cancelled then it shows you that he is going to cut off all monies to you and the DC. He truly doesn't believe he has to financially provide for his DC does he - that is the woman's job!

Ok...hang on false alert. He says he has the same problem. Phew.

Trying to figure out what's wrong

:) good good

Thers a giant size Dick over shadowing your house and blocking signal .....

He definitely hasn't cancelled.

But on a slightly better note, it looks like he is getting it finally. It doesn't make a damn bit of difference to him though, obviously.
I thought with him here and not working, he'd be around more for the kids so I could have some time off, but no. He's gone to bed early tonight, and needs to be up and out early tomorrow (won't tell me why) and won't be back till after lunch time.
Lots of quality time with the children, who he hadn't seen for four months, right?

I'm so exhausted I could cry. Fuck fuck fuck. I just want a day off, just one bloody day.

This is what single parenthood is. Fucking hard.

Hugs Mo, yes it is hard, so very very hard

Sorry you feeling rough. Can you have some down time when he is back tomorrow?

This is what single parenthood is.

And that's what you were already doing. Of course he's not bothered about seeing the children, he made little effort with them when he was away. And it's all your job. He's come home for a holiday (another one). He's not going to make your life easier for you.

Can you take the kids and go to your parents for a few days? The only thing that would worry me is what he would do in the house whilst you weren't there.

Yeah I've been doing it for long enough and it's not normally this hard. It's just his presence that's making it unbearable. My vision is completely skewed right now. I'm too tired mentally to think straight. I feel a bit woo. And I've not even had a drink. Or eaten much. I can't. My stomach is in a knot.

It's just his presence that's making it unbearable

Exactly, which is why official separation will make you happier. You won't have to justify yourself to him and what you do in life will be your decision.

Remember these are all just steps roger you to where you want to be in the long run.